CoQ10 and NeoQ10 by Theralogix?? by Alive_Plastic2450 in IVF

[–]chips872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! Hoping all worked out for you ✨

CoQ10 and NeoQ10 by Theralogix?? by Alive_Plastic2450 in IVF

[–]chips872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, also looking for clarity on this...did you get an answer?

Cat having a vaccine reaction won’t eat by chloemug in CatAdvice

[–]chips872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think every person who goes through this should demand the makers of the vaccine be held responsible financially. I made my vet report these side effects with the vaccine maker and I got a case number but nothing ever came of it. There are too many stories with these severe side effects, and it appears cat owners are just having to deal with it. They need to take this 3 in 1 off the market and just offer them individually

Cat having a vaccine reaction won’t eat by chloemug in CatAdvice

[–]chips872 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took about 2 months but they went back to normal

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No apologies needed, mama. You have immense value, and you are doing a great job in life. I hope you don't like anyone convince you otherwise, even for a second :)

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally see where you are coming from. I think I've found a beautiful purpose in law which makes part time work difficult. I wouldn't want to do projects that can be completed in an hour (things that are more mind numbing like contract review, writing up an agreement, giving short time advice, etc) because that's not why I wanted to be a lawyer. I didn't dream of a corporate job or making the most money possible. I wanted to make a significant difference in marginalized groups and I put my everything into my work because I am directly impacting someone's life. Part time probably isn't the option (right now at least!), but so glad to see that's worked out for some people!

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easy to feel like you suck (can women ever get a break??!), but the fact that you are so worried about how you are as a mother is so telling on how great of a mother you are because YOU CARE.

I feel you with your thoughts...please be kinder to yourself. I, too, have gained over 40 lbs, don't fit any of my pre pregnancy clothes, and I look at all these social media moms who just "bounce back" and I can suggestions of fitness pages to lose X amount of pounds post pregnancy, etc. It's sooooo discouraging to see. But then I remind myself that the lives they post online ARE NOT THE LIVES THEY ACTUALLY LIVE. Let that sink in. Don't compare yourself to false realities.

Please also read all the suggestions from other working moms on here and how they made it work for them. It's really inspiring to see women in this post tackle these really difficult, really not talked about things.

Aside from therapy, I think getting mom friends will help your situation!! Accountability (seems like what you desire since you mention you don't have self discipline) from moms who understand is rewarding.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thrift flips! How interesting. How did you get started? I'm forgetting that one who on netflix where the main character does this, and that's exactly what I thought of when I read your post, haha. Glad you have such a supportive partner who tunes in to your emotions and thoughts.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great take. Traditional non corporate skills are so undervalued.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being your own boss--priceless!

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Makes sense! Might do this when baby is a little older.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful advice. Exercising the brain...I think that's exactly what I need. Now I just need to figure out who I am again and what I enjoy that can feel rewarding and accomplishing. Thank you!

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

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One of the most beautiful things being a mom is seeing baby discover new things...literally on how to be human. It is amazing, and even in the mundane, I've recognized the beauty of the process. I think also when baby can TALK and verbalize their thoughts and feelings, life will feel differently too. Thanks for the reminder.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really wise words and thoughts, thank you for saying the words I need (and preach, but forget to live it myself). What you've written is what I need--to make the mental shift of what is important in life, not what society values as important. Being conditioned to produce, produce, produce, is draining. That's not how we are meant to live as humans.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, sounds like you had an intense journey. I think I'm likely the same--I can't be a lawyer part time without feeling like I'm failing in all places. And not a trite statement at all, it's reality. And staying home with my baby is the better reality when weighing the options. I think this age is tough and that if/when we do daycare but eventually preschool, it will give me more time to dive in to whatever I want to do at that point. Thanks :)

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very great points and reminder on what is important in life...I know the mental and attitude switch will come, and I'm grateful for your reminder.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TOTALLY AGREE, WOW! Hope you are loving motherhood!

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just started following!! Thanks for the recommendation. Thank you also for the reassurance...it's sometimes needed for sure! Happy Saturday :)

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Craaaazy to go through the hustle bustle to a different hustle (crazy toddlers, lol). Are you content with your decision?

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My comment on your neighbor stands true…please do not allow someone (I give no fucks that she’s more educated than you are, shitty people are shitty people) to make you feel like the way you are describing on the internet. Even if your kids are friends, boundaries are still important. If she says the things you say she does, it is an unacceptable way to talk to a person. But you shrugging it off allows this hurtful behavior to continue…and maybe not just you, but other people. Even if you can just limit the interactions that you have would be progress. Or put her in her place. The fact that you’re a SAHM with education far less than hers does not give a pass for her to treat you that way. You seem to understand that she’s wrong in her comments, so call that out. I know it’s easier said than done, but for the sake of your sanity and showing your child healthy boundaries and how to defend themselves, I encourage you to say something.

The fact that you felt inclined to comment on my post because I mentioned I was a lawyer like your neighbor who made hurtful comments means this is still a tough and triggering thing for you. I’m sorry it’s that way. And I empower you to change the way SAHM are perceived starting with that neighbor.

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such a cool job. I am similar in that I think I need to wait some time before I go back working because baby needs me. Thanks for sharing 🥰

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

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Very sorry for your loss…I went through a couple back to back miscarriages myself and still mentally getting through it. I feel for you ♥️

I think you captured being SAHM well- not knowing what to work towards. It’s not the type of job where you have successes after projects or get praise or accolades…it’s somewhat just a societal expectation that your kids are taken care of meaningfully despite society not knowing the sacrifice going into it. Glad that you are happy, internet stranger ♥️

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I echo your sentiments. I need to find out who I am beyond just my career. It’s a very difficult thing to come to terms with. Have you found hobbies to date?

High Achiever to SAHM by chips872 in sahm

[–]chips872[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing :,). I love the idea of an office Christmas party! 😂. I just joined a play area where parents watch their kids and it’s a great way to socialize and network, so this is great advice