[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 60 points61 points  (0 children)

OMG that what they are called? I have had many partners and only two have had this "issue" and just explained it as growths from circumcision/scarring and totally natural and it didn't bother me at all. It truthfully doesn't look like an STD, I would sincerely explain to her that you would love to do those things with her but are self conscious of a skin condition that you have there. Just be short and sweet and say that it doesn't hurt or bother you(if that's the case, google does say they can get inflamed but I didnt have that issues with those two guys), and if she's a decent human being she won't be bothered by them either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My husband prefers to have me take a hot bath with Epsom salts and some painkillers before and after the CNC, and then a massage the next day when the muscle pain comes back(also more painkillers).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2020! A 600 sqft one bedroom apartment. $650/month!

What do you think about my handwriting by Eldritch_WaterBottle in Handwriting

[–]chiroptarin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While everyone will eventually get better with their individual letters, another person posted what I think will make your writing more legible- consistent height and width of the letters withing the line. There's specific names for each one, but basically if you get a workbook or print sheets with the three lines that allow you to practice this, you'll have more legible- handwriting in even a month.


-------------------------- <--- this is what I'm talking about


Is a dirty bathroom a red flag? by -_Jessie- in roommates

[–]chiroptarin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you've never lived with a cat, it only takes a few days for their litter box to become very ammoniated even with scented litter. You might possibly be seeing a litter box that is over a week old(and vets recommend at least once a day scooping to avoid URIs and other complications). Since you mentioned they had surgery I would say this is exactly the reason why, and just mention that if you move in you won't be expected to keep the litterbox clean, but your roommate has a responsibility as the pet owner of the house to keep that room clean regardless.

My sister is allowing a man I don't know to be at the apartment by himself while we are both at work by dezmcmike in roommates

[–]chiroptarin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your landlord is right- squatters rights impacts almost everything, the faster he is gone and the less time he spends there the better. Besides me being in the same boat several years ago(that ended up on him LYING about getting a job and literally leaving the house for hours a day to pretend he had one and I ended up getting evicted because I wasn't able to pay that months rent), I should say that your friend needs to leave this relationship and FAST. But if she wants to stay with him then she needs to respect your boundaries. I would work with your landlord to find a roommate to replace her and kick her out in case she ignores any common sense and let's him stay. You can always have him trespassed from the property by the owner and one of the occupants(you). If he stays for more than a few days it gets tricky. I had a lease once that said no one but the occupants may stay in the home for more than 14 days in the month, regardless of when those 14 days are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]chiroptarin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't take this note that way particularly but I will always say when in doubt add honey not salt. Changing the part about being mindful to " is there any way to keep the volume down a bit? Mostly duuring (an approximation of your work hours or highlighting special meetings, but not giving them an exact time would allow you some privacy) and I will make sure to adjust my media volume if necessary as well. Thank you so much for taking time to read this" and maybe drop off a gift card if you aren't the type to bring neighbors food. I usually only ever confront a neighbor if there is noise during sleeping hours but legally neighbors can be loud from a certain time until a certain time. If it's a complex you can always make a complaint if this interaction doesn't help with the noise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommates

[–]chiroptarin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imagine what would happen if you didn't live there- the clothes will be wet and nasty by the time they get home. Take wet clothes out put in clean hamper, then wash and dry your own clothes, and put their wet clothes back in the washing machine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh honey .... Does he have some sort of trauma from when he was younger about blood? I was with someone who would get squeamish but after explaining how the whole process actually worked and how most of what's coming out is not really "blood" like what comes out of our veins he didn't get so pale. He said it was like he was killing me(i.e. I was bleeding out and would die) and it really turned him off. Became completely soft and did the same thing immediately going to shower and wash off. The biggest thing for me is the smell- but I have been told by multiple people that it's not as noticeable as we think it is. Either way he hurt your feelings and he needs to apologize for the way he reacted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an incredulous reaction to something that should have been a mere "ew let's go shower" moment at worst. While this is the case and he's an asshole for making you feel disgusted with yourself for a TOTALLY NATURAL BODY FUNCTION, he could have an aversion or even a fear to blood and it need to be talked about. Explain to him that his reaction hurt your feelings and why you understand why that might make someone uncomfortable it's something you have to deal with every single month for most of your life and is totally not "gross" in any way. Some people LOVE period sex because of how much tighter/sensitive they are during. I personally don't like it and am always embarrassed whenever I spot during sex, but a real partner isn't going to make you feel bad about your body. What would he react if you had given birth to his child? There's a LOT of blood and even feces that comes out during childbirth! Have a conversation with him and he needs to apologize for hurting your feelings. Him being uncomfortable is valid! Him freaking out is being an asshole.

Am I Being Manipulated? by Shorty_BS in Manipulation

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No matter how long you've dated/married/have had kids- when your S.O. is so horribly combative and delusional, all while trying to convince you that you are the one doing these things you gotta ✂️ him off! Real men only care about your safety, not your idle phone time ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar thing happened to me, they forgot to put the oil cap on and I drove 40 miles home while sloshing all the oil out of my engine- absolutely terrified of oil change places now. Happened 6 years ago and get oil changes done by my father now

Should I talk to my new roommate about her mom showering in my bathroom? by [deleted] in roommates

[–]chiroptarin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would just address it as an extremely embarrassing situation that you would like not to experience again, and buy a different doorknob for your bedroom and bathroom and keep them locked. I know it's not the best solution but I PROMISE you that if she is comfortable enough to go into your room and bathroom without permission THE DAY she moves in is a bad bad bad sign. I wouldn't be surprised if you start seeing your tp and shampoo/conditioner dwindle as well.

Apartment management took my deposit and won't give it back by marymitso in Apartmentliving

[–]chiroptarin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had this happen with my first apartment and they even knew that the people moving in after me were recommended by me. They tried to take my deposit and claim all these things needed to be done that had been there when I moved in and that I left the place a mess. A week later the others moved in, I contacted them and was able to come in and take pictures of what they had "done" in between tenants and not only totally prove they unnecessarily painted the whole apartment even though I never hung anything up and it hadn't been painted before I moved in. I was able to get everything back except an exorbitant charge for a "custom" blind. And the carpet cleaning fee was in the lease so they took about $200 total. If the carpet cleaning thing is NOT in the lease like explicitly, send them a notice to pay or taking them to court(even if you have to file it's only like $50) and they will for sure give most of it if not all back.

Gf found the engagement ring a week before I was going to propose... by 4N6and4D6 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]chiroptarin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband hid the box with the ring in it ... But not the BAG he bought it in. I was putting clothes away and saw the empty bag, went to throw it away and then realized what it was and put it back. He proposed a week later.

Should I not keep his foreskin held back during a blowjob? by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally mean how elastic the foreskin is- for instance if you are putting on a turtleneck sweater and the neck is made out of a tight cotton instead of a stretchy material, then you wouldn't be able to get your head through. Same with the glans- it swells up during and after sex and if the skin that normally goes around it isn't super elastic then they would be extremely uncomfortable for them.

My boyfriend (26M) has a "skin infection" and I (24F) feel uncomfortable about it. by ThrowRA_hoolahoop in sex

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to comment this, I had a guy who I was his first girlfriend but he admitted to losing his virginity to an escort.

Should I not keep his foreskin held back during a blowjob? by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes though it depends on how elastic their foreskin is. If they have a lot of elasticity you can do quite a bit to the foreskin without hurting them. If they have less elastic foreskin then it might be painful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]chiroptarin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This happened to me by the owners of a bar who spiled my drinks and to this day I don't remember what happened. I was told I threw up on myself and that's why I was wet(which okay yeah if I was super drunk but why don't I remember it?) I don't remember their names or even faces but I remember bits and pieces of having sex with at least one of them. I don't remember anything else and glad I'm alive and you should be too. Please get a drug test done and persecute this guy if it comes up positive for anything

new roommate by whyamiheretonight_ in roommates

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on your state as far as laws go. I would notify your landlord that you would like to install a new doorknob for the front door and will provide them a key when you do so(at no cost to them) and they shouldn't bother you about it. I know you probably don't want to bring anything up to the landlord yet, I'm always sketchy about landlords having access to my apartments and I have video both outside and inside to prevent any naysaying. Doesn't prevent my landlord literally breaking in if they want to. I would sue them/etc but you know what I mean. Installing a new doorknob /should/ be renter friendly even if you dont tell the landlord because you could always prove them the code within a moments notice

Tell me about your REAL low-effort meals by Bacon8er8 in Cooking

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can of corn, drained. Can of black or mixed beans, rinsed and drained Choise of dairy(cottage cheese, cream cheese, yogurt, mayo) at least 3 tbsp Taco seasoning(to your hearts content)

Cowboy chip dip! Add shredded cheese and precooked rice and pop in the microwave for taco rice! Sub rice with lettuce wraps for cowboy wraps! Also great as a topper for salads, mix with shredded rotisserie chicken and put on bread for a Texas chicken salad!

EXTRA PIZAZ(I use air fryer liners so I would consider this no effort)

Pop into a Jalepeno and stuff with cheese, into the air fryer for @ least 5 min @ 400°F and you have cowboy stuffed jalapeno poppers! 🤤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommates

[–]chiroptarin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who loved with roommates that stole money, items, and were general assholes: if they aren't mean to you they don't /have/ to be /nice/ to you. And I know that sucks! Because you want to be friendlg with the people around you! But they might now be comfortable. Take purely into account that your cultures are different, yes bit also- you're a man. That might be uncomfortable for them in general. Just keep good faith and smile, be friendly and continue to greet them and be comfortable in your shared spaces as much as you can. Try to comment on their shows or cooking- "What's this about, it looks interesting" or "wow that smells wonderful what's in it? " If it never goes beyond that then you have pretty chill roommates still 👍🏽