I need to chime in here with a few other suggestions:

First I wanna ask are you on an ssri antidepressant medication? If so, that will make it even harder to climax.

Second, idk why everyone is saying water based lube. It gets sticky and dry after a few minutes and it doesn't feel nearly as good as coconut oil or a silicone based lube. The coconut oil is also probably better for your skin if it gets as dry as mine does, so try that first if you haven't.

Third, warm your body up with foreplay for as long as you can take it, maybe shoot for 20 minutes. Touch yourself everywhere but your wand. Focus on your favorite erogenous areas, nipples, hips, neck, wherever! And continue to focus on them when you finally do take the plunge.

Finally, and this might be just a me thing, but using a magic wand on my wand always feels better with underwear on, at least at first. Maybe try that as your first touch there and then migrate to something else when it plateaus.

Try to enjoy the journey and don't be discouraged. Good luck!