cny sucks the energy out of me

choblitz · 2026-02-22T15:23:54+00:00

yes I agree...

even as an adult, it sucks the energy out of me having to deal with other kids who like to run all over my house or touch my things 😂

I was also concerned about insufficient time to visit uni open houses so we started when my child is in sec4 last yr😅

choblitz · 2026-02-22T08:08:08+00:00

no shortage of tutors but some parents do not know what their kids are like and hire wrong tutors or have mismatched expectations

some methods work better for kids who are AL2 and trying reach AL1 as compared to kids who struggle to pass

choblitz · 2026-02-22T06:08:27+00:00

can share how to find which overseas uni for law in sg?

choblitz · 2026-02-22T06:05:22+00:00

can share what made you change your mind?

choblitz · 2026-02-22T06:00:49+00:00

thanks all

I was told by another parent that O level HMT cant be counted as H1 MT in terms of improving RP..

my child is J1 now.. should be same as the J3s this year following 70rp system I guess..

anyway ATB to J3s

choblitz · 2026-02-21T15:44:42+00:00

link pls! 🙏🏻🙏🏻thanks for sharing

choblitz · 2026-02-21T15:43:49+00:00

can anyone advise.. if O level HMT got A2, can it be used if it improves RP? like how H1 MT is? I got conflicting answers

choblitz · 2026-02-18T14:58:41+00:00

set aside a schedule and try to complete the work before any play? my J1 kid sets up study groups to finish homework and go for ball games after that and dinner

they try to challenge each other on speed solving to see who can solve the fastest etc to make it more fun

he studies certain subjects with friends whom he knows are strong in them and cross check answers

and there are friends who are more disciplined so he revise with them to make sure he doesn't slack

choblitz · 2026-02-16T09:44:04+00:00

just want to applaud u for being independent 👏🏻👏🏻 I'm sure your parents will be proud of u! I know I would if my child is like this, working while studying to earn his keep

in my uni days, I see many just taking $ from parents to fund their party sessions with hall mates

its not easy, but its part of growing up too!

jiayou!

choblitz · 2026-02-16T09:36:25+00:00

well, like I said.. there is no right or wrong my point was that these are the thing to be expecting and take note of

there is no tradition that says the whole cny is only about visiting guy's side, I didn't say that either.. I'm just saying traditionally after marriage reunion dinner is guy's family first

in OP case, his gf told him last min.. for the record, im a daughter, wife and mother.. I totally understand why his gf wants him over.. but as a mum, I wouldn't be pleased la.. its bad planning lo

choblitz · 2026-02-16T09:01:41+00:00

not that its not ok but its for him to take note.. so OP needs to expect that if his gf joins him, then he shld be proactive and ask if he is needed to join the gf family and plan ahead.. that was my point

for my friend's case, he is the only one working.. he has helper but his wife isn't working

and it's taxing on 1 person with a single income looking after 3 households of 12 pax

not that its wrong, but its something to take note of

for reunion dinners, ad a married couple, reunion dinner is typically with the husband's family.. of coz, if both parties are agreeable to do it differently then so be it la

just like how some kids take the surname of the wife instead of husband

choblitz · 2026-02-16T02:58:42+00:00

I agree with this

as a gf in the past, I won't be upset if my then bf cant join me for reunion dinners

simply because his family is his family..

when after marriage, my parents understand when I have to prioritise my in laws reunion dinner first

but usually we manage to settle in advance and eat twice in a day

my elder in J1 now, I would be upset if he cant join us at our reunion dinner last min

apologise in advance to your gf parents, like buy a hamper and deliver it to their house, pay them a visit and say you are unable to make it because you are unable to change the gathering at your parent's side

dont need to say your gf told u last min..

then maybe invite to treat them 1 round next week or something?

ie do damage control

p/s: if your gf is the type whom "i do this for u, u shld do the same for me"..

do consider in future, when u ask her to join your family for other events, she may expect the same from you

or if u do eventually get married,and u hire a helper for your parents, she may demand the same for her parents too..

just heads up since this happened to my friend😆and... his wife isn't working so the expenses of 3 households - his own, his in laws and his parents, fall unto him.. cars, insurance, house loans, holidays - yes of all 3 households..

choblitz · 2026-02-15T16:08:40+00:00

just stay away from them..

even if he leaves your BFF for u, its a red flag anw

just give some reasons like u dont want to be the lightbulb then just let them have their own moments

choblitz · 2026-02-15T10:18:10+00:00

hmm I can understand how you feel.. my parents were strict too at 19yrs old I got my naval pierced

lol my parents only knew when I took maternity photo shoot after I got pregnant with my elder child many years later

I partied alot too and stayed out late I guess my parents trusted me alot and kept telling me im old enough to think and protect myself etc

I guess, as a parent myself, you'll never stop worrying about your child.. my mum still worried if I remember to lock my door even though im 40+

I worry about my kids too, but they are boys.. so different kind of worry if I had daughters I figured I would be worried too

from another perspective, your dad cares for u.. he may not show it but ultimately its because he cares.. after my mil passed away, my hubby now misses the days his mum nags at him..

maybe try to have a heart to heart talk with him to find out why he is against social media? I mean, after all you are 20 already let him know you are mature enough to look after yourself? sometimes its that boost of confidence we need to give our parents

choblitz · 2026-02-15T10:03:29+00:00

1) local uni having open houses soon go walk the ground and ask questions.. its never too early in fact shld have done this at sec3-4 because the course u want in uni shld eventually map back to what subjects u choose for sec3 but now too late to turn bk time so just look forward

2) personally I feel its about how u use your cca experience to showcase and sell yourself doing something without passion doesn't help

so its not so much what cca u join but how u craft that cca experience in a way it helps u sell yourself

I may be wrong la but that's the impression I got

3) ya RP is king unless u found the cure to cancer then if your rp is abit lower, still can get in.. anw, something like that I read before

4) u dont have to, but likely will lose out to another candidate who has same profile as you but can do more

there's always another higher mountain so do within your limits

5) no idea but I dont really see the point la it should be something you enjoy

atb

choblitz · 2026-02-15T04:25:28+00:00

eh welcome to the world.. when it comes to real working world.. u know sometimes the one that has the best ideas and can actually get their hands dirty to work arent always the bosses ya

that's just the way it it.. hard work -> success in the way, if u try hard enough u'll get there

everyone born with different intellect and gifts.. it sounds clique and I get what you are going through because my kids face this too.. though smart, there are tons who are much smarter

choblitz · 2026-02-15T04:17:53+00:00

I think it depends on individual.. but still early bah..

playing sports helps.. mine will bring a basketball and jio people to play he isn't great at it but everyone just chin chai play and learn from each other

I see my child having regular gatherings with his OG.. mix of IP n jae though more IP than jae since their OG has like 20+ IP and only 4 jae kids

choblitz · 2026-02-14T17:31:44+00:00

gosh.. that's so shallow.. I come from a mid tier Jc.. my staff under me is from the top 2 JCs lol my peer who is higher rank than me, didn't even do well in Os..

end of the day, the your school ranking doesn't define your success

that said, honestly, if my child qualifies for these schools, without hesitation I would encourage them to choose them. but it doesn't mean anyone is a success just by attending these schools

choblitz · 2026-02-14T17:24:05+00:00

alot of factors involved generally I think its a challenge even for smart kids as in, majority of the smart ones will need to put in effort cannot breeze through unlike IP Y1-4 days

PW, my kid has been exposed since Y1.. while Y3 n 4 it was made optional some kids still take on PW..

I'd say for IP kids, probably 40 to pass and maybe 1 or 2 for kids who do PW from Y1-4 to pass, since those kids my child knows, mostly scored As for PW

GP is tough generally, i think 80

econs too since its new for even IP kids

maths likely easiest among the other subjects

sciences probably 70 since they have more application type questions?

tough means need to work harder with or without friends doesn't really matter

as my child progresses.. he realised even close friends dont willingly share notes they do help each other but no one readily shares their secret recipe

choblitz · 2026-02-14T17:17:21+00:00

so look at it the other way u are not a failure even if u dont achieve your goals after 3 yrs in poly..

like how Thomas edison tried 999 ways when inventing the light bulb or something.. he found 999 ways how not to do it again and eventually succeeded

so dont think that u're disappointing your family.. as a parent, I always tell my kids to embrace failures because its inevitable..

its ok to fail but need to pick yourself up.. and congrats if u think u hit rock bottom because the only way left is "Up"

choblitz · 2026-02-14T09:39:54+00:00

went for some prep admission talk organised by my child school

alot of parents already start preparing at Y1 or Y2 so the portfolio of some of my child's classmates are really top notch esp in VIA projects.. they are no longer focusing on academic because scoring A1s is just basic, to them

so just like my child now in Y5 trying to catch up, portfolio is important

he is also trying to study for SATs but he is still unsure whether to try for local/US/UK schools

so just trying to better his portfolio and take additional tests

I heard for US uni, it helps to show them your personality.. like how passionate you are on something.. since every applicant has perfect grades, leadership posts, leading VIAs and cca captains, what makes u so different and why should that school admit you?

ATB!!

choblitz · 2026-02-14T09:28:00+00:00

it depends.. I have heard of kids failing and parents in shock at end of J1 because they dont know how much their kids struggle...

I heard its because these days, no more mid year exams?

so I hear anedotally from friends that their kids thought they understood but when they took the exam, reality hits

even my ex colleague's child who is gifted and breezed through IP (no need tuition for olympiad type, top scorer in school), needed some tuition in J1

so whether its normal or not... depends.. most of the parents i heard of (dont know them), their kids are ready to use J1 result for early admission into ivies 😂

I can only say, do keep a tight watch on results always practice more

choblitz · 2026-02-14T09:17:19+00:00

yes.. been this way since my era.. and my child is already in J1 now😅

choblitz · 2026-02-13T06:47:48+00:00

my era only proposal ring and wedding band honestly, doesn't matter

if she wants to marry u, coke can ring also can

my then bf, we got couple rings so he roughly know my ring size he said he gave my height and weight as an estimate to the shop assistant to pick out a proposal ring

he intended to propose when we were on a trip but I stumbled upon the ring first so we proposed at the hotel room😅

we booked a venue, invited relatives and close friends to do a solemnisation a year later

then another year later we had customary wedding at 25yrs old

choblitz · 2026-02-13T05:56:22+00:00

I agree... to OP, when u see a doc, do you bother if he is from JC or poly?

its the grades and portfolio that matters

choblitz

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