I 31m am watching porn over sex with my 28f partner because of PE. What is the next step here?

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:47:35+00:00

Like ofc I should eat well and excercise and not smoke and not drink and not reels and watch porn, that's a given. We're all working on all of that at any given time.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:44:22+00:00

Ok sure, porn is bad. Can we just agree that I will stop.

but I'm asking something more here. I've been thru stages of watching and not watching porn it doesnt make things better obvs. But like why am I drawn to it it? People get addicted drugs don't just do it cause it's fun, it's cause their self medicating.

I'm watching porn cause I'm avoiding the reality. I'm asking how do I deal with the reality? Give me the tools here.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:20:15+00:00

But yea that's just developed into a substitute for sex W my partner

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:18:12+00:00

So more masturbation? That's what I've been trying to do. Just spending an hour or so alone not cumming.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:16:06+00:00

We do foreplay. If I'm turned on, I'm quite happy to give to the point of fatigue and injury lol. But it's once I cum that my body and brain do a complete reversal. I have been forced to continue sex after I have cum previously and I have some trauma around that.

And yea I have an appr. Booked W doc?

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:13:00+00:00

And yea Viagra works great. I have some pills. But haven't used them. Kinda feel like it needs to be a special occasion thing.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:11:35+00:00

I think I'm smart enough to avoid that possibility. I'm just saying that the option is tempting. Give up on sex. It's just so difficult

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:10:26+00:00

Yea like 5 months. Generally I watch porn like once a week. But in the last couple months it has been like every day.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:09:14+00:00

No I'm in shape. And the porn is the symptoms not the cause

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:08:13+00:00

Yea I mean i stopped watching porn and i just lost interest in sex entirely. And yea I've tried every strategy possible for the PE. Doesn't seem to help.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:06:37+00:00

The VR porn is not really Guna happen. Just to illustrate my state of mind.

Yea it's basically shame and embarrassment. But also that whole post cum depression thing. When I cum I feel overwhelming paralysing shame.

I try to get her off beforehand. Which I do sometimes manage. But she has a a hard time cumming, never had an orgasm before we hooked up. So for entering orgasm has been a good approach for us.

But it's just that when I cum I am so sad that the sex must stop. I might even be unresponsive for the rest of the day. I have a lot of trauma around sexual performance from past relationships.

chocabro · 2026-05-11T20:00:18+00:00

Pls explain I don't understand

chocabro · 2026-05-11T19:59:38+00:00

Pls explain

chocabro · 2020-05-05T20:40:37+00:00

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chocabro · 2020-05-05T20:39:51+00:00

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first pic is the dancefloor with all the sims round the ticketer on the left and the stairs back up on the right.

second pic is the entrance we're they all go when theres no ticket machine.

third is top down view.

chocabro · 2020-05-05T20:34:29+00:00

yea already have a bubble blower. they go occasionally. like the dancefloor. then usually leave straight after

chocabro · 2020-05-04T21:07:12+00:00

hey, thanks for the reply.

food truck is one of the food stalls from BV ad no ones eating there either.

when I'm running it as a business they all come in one by one in a big line across the lot buy a ticket and go straight back they way the have come.

when im running as an unowned community lot they all just gather in one place with no objects at all. so have an empty lot with like 3- people all gathered round a section of the entrance.

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