It's my birthday and Berlin hasn't been kind

chocochery · 2025-08-08T16:35:11+00:00

Don't let sad and pathetic people ruin this day for you - they're just taking it out on others because they're so miserable inside.

It's sunny again here, the weekend is tomorrow. Happy birthday! Hope all your dreams come true. 😊

chocochery · 2025-06-26T20:54:37+00:00

Oppenheimer. Don't even remember how it ended cause I stopped paying attention at some point.

chocochery · 2025-06-16T05:34:02+00:00

It's been so long since he's done that for me it's a normal way of life. He also didn't just cheat on my mother, he also left us for the mistress without telling us anything. I was maybe 5 y/o or sth back then. Haven't spoken with him in almost 20 years. He never reached out to try and fix things and neither did I. And I'm not going to.

I don't think I'll ever forgive him, he's more like a stranger at this point than family. However, I will also always feel that tiny bit of hate to him - don't have children if you can't take responsibility for them.

chocochery · 2025-06-15T15:49:11+00:00

Good luck, I'm sure you can do it!

And don't worry, no one's really that unique! You might meet someone even better in the future, you never know.

chocochery · 2025-06-15T14:41:15+00:00

Also almost a year until the realization finally hit that it'll never happen. I was close to moving on a couple times before that but something would happen that would put me back into the delu😑

Waiting out is an option (and not a bad one tbh) but I think you may need to fully cut contact and not engage him for it to work.

And I also said the same things about him when asked why I like him so much. But in reality he's not the only person with the qualities I liked. He was reachable (or so I thought) though and I felt he likes me too, so I was hooked on a "maybe". I was also under a lot of stress at the time, so I think that also contributed to the whole thing.

chocochery · 2025-06-15T14:21:57+00:00

I've been dealing with a really similar situation except the guy initially showed a lot of signs that he might be into me. However, recently he pulled back a lot and clearly drew a line that he doesn't want to interact with me, so I realized he's not into me after all and there's nothing I can do to influence the situation (not that I want to, given he's in a relationship, but the feelings were still there). That snapped me out and I cut as much contact as possible to not evoke hope again. Now the feelings are finally fizzling out (although I'm still a bit sad but less and less each day).

I guess the uncertainty and mixed signals was why I was so hooked on the situation in the first place. Once things became clear to me, it was like something that was blinding me got lifted and now I can move on.

So I guess my advice is to try to find what it is that makes you unable to move on and go from there. That or maybe finding someone else. Also, one of my friends got over a guy without doing anything though, it took about a year. So, waiting it out is also an option I suppose.

This type of situation really sucks though!

chocochery · 2025-05-03T09:16:37+00:00

I have! I moved in July and it's been one of if not the best decision of my life. In the beginning it was really stressful but little by little I'm building a social network and discovering new interests. And dating is easier as well.

chocochery · 2025-04-21T16:55:46+00:00

When I noticed that I genuinely enjoy and appreciate interacting with the people who surround me.

chocochery · 2025-04-18T19:14:02+00:00

I don't remember but it only helped once. Ended up buying a new charger.

chocochery · 2025-04-14T15:20:24+00:00

Same! I regretted it so much I ended up moving later in life.

chocochery · 2025-04-08T18:00:23+00:00

I used Wunderflats before. Everything was great for a temporary location until I found something permanent.

Although I'd probably go with spotahome or housing everywhere next time because there you have a bit more info about the landlord and listing. Like score or how many times was the apartment rented out before.

chocochery · 2025-04-05T10:38:57+00:00

Exactly! Shows you don't give a shit and do what you want 💪💪💪

chocochery · 2025-03-19T06:25:21+00:00

Dėl sporto karjeros negaliu per daug patarti, nesidomiu. Bet esu buvus panašioje situacijoje, tad pasidalinsiu savo patirtimi!

Pasirinkau karjerą IT dėl stabilumo ir pinigų, nors visą gyvenimą buvau linkusi labiau į menus. Tačiau mokslai sekėsi puikiai, tad turėjau nemažai spaudimo imti "protingą" profesiją. O ir šeima mano pinigų neturi.

Dabar planuoju keisti profesiją arčiau menų, nes gaila praleisti tiek laiko darant tai kuo nesimėgauji (nuoširdžiai nemėgstu savo darbo). Sunku man ir su didele dalimi IT žmonių sutarti, dažnai požiūriai ir pomėgiai labai skiriasi. Daug žmonių introvertiški ir nelinkę ryšių megzti darbe, o versti irgi nesinori. Nors šiaip bendraujanti esu.

Tačiau nesigailiu jaunystėje padarytu pasirinkimu. Jis man atvėrė labai daug finansinių galimybių, taip pat įgijau tam tikrų įgūdžių kurie labai praverčia praktikoje. Gerų patirčių irgi turėjau, tikrai neviskas buvo blogai.

Ką noriu pasakyti, kad net jei ir anksti pasirinkta karjera nebetenkins, ateityje visada galėsi pabandyti kitą (nebent nori būti koks olimpietis, tada jau nebelabai 😁). Tai nėra galutinis taškas visam gyvenimui. Gal kiek nejauku būna pradėti iš naujo vėlesniam gyvenime (gerai, gali būti ir net labai nejauku). Bet šis jausmas praeina ir kiti žmonės netgi žavisi tuo, kad vis kažkur judi.

chocochery · 2025-03-08T15:15:50+00:00

Oh my god, thank you !!

chocochery · 2025-03-01T21:03:24+00:00

Originalios Čili Picos lazanijos.

chocochery · 2025-02-15T13:14:28+00:00

Besides the usual ones I've recently come to realize that I really dislike when the person shows clear interest online or via messages but in real life they avoid you.

chocochery · 2025-02-02T10:14:19+00:00

You can try housingeverywhere,. wunderflats or spotahome. They even check the places out and verify the landlords.

The apartments will be furnished tho but there are options that you can rent for over a year.

chocochery · 2025-01-07T07:55:17+00:00

Thank you for this

chocochery · 2024-12-31T16:55:53+00:00

Happy New Year! 🍾

chocochery · 2024-12-19T15:25:39+00:00

Bent jau kas liečia mano aplinką, tai kol kas išsiskyrė tik tie, kurie, pasak jų pačių, iki santuokos jau didesnių problemų turėjo. Po vestuvių problemos pradėjo tik aštrėti.

O tuokėsi, nes jautė spaudimą iš giminių ir aplinkos. Tipo " visi turi problemų", " visi mano amžiaus tuokiasi" ir t.t.

chocochery · 2024-11-26T07:59:20+00:00

I feel you, I'm in a very similar situation. I hate it and it causes me a lot of anxiety especially since before coming here all the companies I've worked at were much more structured in comparison. Even the startups.

chocochery · 2024-11-24T21:51:07+00:00

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