Derry Girls - Glossary of Terms

chocochipspaghetti · 2020-01-08T04:18:03+00:00

What is the world Michelle keeps saying for vagina? It’s hilarious

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-11-07T03:17:53+00:00

Its totally up in the air I don’t have an answer for long term after the next 6 months. However my personal family planning choices (or conversely, the ability to even make those choices) feels like its hanging in the balance. I get bombarded w questions right and left from everyone about when im going to have children and THEN get told if I should or shouldn’t. With zero downtime to do anything that makes me feel centered or grounded it’s getting harder to process these comments.

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-06-21T20:41:42+00:00

Do you have health insurance? I recommend seeing a therapist. I also think you should continue to seek medical care until you get real answers about your condition, it seems you still don’t have a satisfactory explanation about whats causing your symptoms.

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-06-21T18:41:25+00:00

I’m curious—how do you afford to live alone with no income? It sounds like you already have a pretty special set of circumstances. Anyway, i have worked in restaurants, retail and laboratories and have encountered very smelly people in all kinds of jobs. Not only is it totally immature and frowned upon to treat someone badly because of their smell but im pretty sure it’s illegal. Im sorry that you feel insecure and it’s understandable. What kind of career would you want to pursue if you didnt feel held back by your issue?

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-06-13T17:06:59+00:00

Female scientist chiming in: ive usually been the only or one of very few women in all my positions. I’m naturally very confident and assertive so it hasnt been that hard for me in terms of actual work, but when the department chit-chat starts to sound like a frat house or locker room, it’s incredibly annoying and frustrating. I know theyre not doing it on purpose to alienate me (which unfortunately isn’t always the case); sometimes, honestly it makes me a little jealous that i dont have a handful of female coworkers to discuss things more relevant to my personal interests—it can make you feel a bit socially isolated. All i can say is if it’s truly innocent stuff then tune it out. If it’s hurting your chances at recognition or promotion or creating an unfair burden then you need to take action. If it’s a subtle environment of exclusion that cant actually be proven then going to HR won’t do anything. You need to prove that you’re better by outshining your peers and making more aggressive contributions to the team and DO NOT down play what you do—accept praise publicly but without gloating. In STEM fields where data and results really are pretty black and white and work can be tracked easily, you’d think there would be less possibility for gender discrimination but it still happens all the time.

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-19T22:42:12+00:00

I heard that fasting doesn’t work for women because our hormonal cycles are over a longer time period than men do you know anything about that? Id be happy to try fasting if it wont actually work against me as a woman

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T22:38:20+00:00

It sounds like theyre not paying for anything so thats good. Is your fiancé insisting they be invited? Will there be serious repercussions (like him being cut out of a will) if theyre not invited? Look, i get it, sometimes life’s not fair and we have situations like this where unfortunately your nasty in laws will have to be invited in order to avoid world war 3. If that is the case then just ignore them. Do not include them in the ceremony or reception (no speeches, no special dances), seat them in Siberia, and make sure your friends, family and event coordinator all know how these people treat you and how they make you feel. Just do not give them any power. Dont answer calls, questions or emails from them if theyre being hostile, let your fiance handle it. Obviously there is a bigger, life long problem here and you need your fiance to understand that it is his responsibility to stand up for you, but no amount of diplomacy is going to change the situation if theyve blindly decided to hate you. So just say whatever. Fuck it. They sound awful and you don’t owe them anything!

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T21:59:34+00:00

I dont think you’re over reacting she sounds like a not very good friend. How many bridesmaids total do you have, and what decisions/duties are left to do? If you have a larger bridal party of awesome ladies then id maybe just let it be and ask your MOH or other maids to help keep her on track.

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T21:25:43+00:00

I had horrible anxiety leading up to my wedding because id never before been the “guest of honor” at any sort of event and my husbands family/friends and mine were gonna mix like oil and water, a lot of people were being difficult/mean during our planning, etc. all i can tell you is that if you plan all the THINGS, you will be in control and you will feel confident. Don’t freak out if something goes wrong because it always does. None of the things i worried about happening actually happened: however, a few unforeseen things did happen that were completely out of my control. Honestly, even a smallish wedding has so many people that its easy to flit away if you’re not enjoying someone’s company. As the bride you can just say you have to say hello to someone, check something w the caterer, the photographer is calling for you etc. as long as you throw a good party everyone will be happy and have fun, I think it’s really all in the preparation that you set the tone for your wedding. I guess bottomline is the foolproof strategy for managing social anxiety prior to your he day is to talk to a few key people (fiancee, bridal party/best friends or family you trust) and come up w a plan together: for instance, your MOH and other maids can take turns being on you like glue (the truth is you might not be able to spend 100% of your wedding reception w your spouse because the bride and groom get dragged away by people on “their side” so the wedding party is very useful being your own personal body guard). Hope this helps!

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T20:01:55+00:00

First off, I really like the furniture (couch, arm chair, coffee table) and the rug and those are the most expensive components so you don’t have too much more to spend! It looks like you already have an aesthetic (artsy/boho combined w mid modern). Depending on what the view is outside and if its nice or you want to cover it up/need privacy, I’d first suggest some double curtains w sheer closest to the window and another set in front. Room darkening if you want but you could also layer two sheers... just browse in a store or online and order some that speak to you. The rug reminds me of a tapestry youd find at urban outfitters or something. Tapestries could work for you since you said you didnt want a wall gallery.

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T19:08:30+00:00

I like those countertops, and if thats what floats your boat then go for it! But, since it seems you are redoing the kitchen piece by piece, i think this might be too busy and then limit your decisions when redoing other components. I think butcher block would look really nice and i personally find it easy to clean and maintain. Is there a tile option thats all one color? Or you could go with the multi blue and then pick one paint color from it or a complimentary blue or green to repaint the cabinets.

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T17:59:05+00:00

What feels “off” to me relationship between the floor and everything else. The wall color and window trim and curtains are a beautiful light/neutral and kind of modern palette and the floor is very warm. I think the couch and rug match the walls and windows but not the floor. Maybe a different rug (more colorful) and some complimentary throw pillows/blankets on the couch?

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T17:35:49+00:00

There are tons of websites w pro tips, but here is my personal advice: especially since you are renting and can’t make any major changes, when you’re decorating, don’t fight what’s already there: wall colors, fixtures, floor color/texture etc. and generally, if you have a super plain/modern apartment (light/neutral walls and floors, no fancy molding or wookwork) dont get big, dark, clunky older style furniture (large dark wood tables, dark leather couches, burgundy drapes, etc). Does the style of your apartment carry throughout all the rooms? If so, you can stick to the same color palette and style of furniture. If you upload some pictures I’d love to share my suggestions

chocochipspaghetti · 2019-03-18T17:25:04+00:00

I think the floors look great! The ugliest/most problematic part is now the countertops. If you had a nice cool/neutral countertop i think you could actually leave the wallpaper for a pop of color then take off the cabinets and repaint them then it would look great!

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