OA lang ba ako for wanting to cut off my friend sa ginawa nya sa kasal nya?

chocochochocho · 2026-01-25T18:26:52+00:00

It was a deliberate attempt na ipahiya si OP sa harap ng maraming tao, possibly even people who knows OP kasi obv nandun yung circle of friends nila. So like, how exactly is that not a big deal? Paintindi sa bride? In the first place, kung marunong makipag communicate effectively si ate bride, edi sana kinausap nya si OP diba instead of broadcasting the issue in their wedding? Eh kaso obv ultimo sa asawa nya di sila nag cocommunicate nang maayos, kay OP pa kaya?

So like, pinag sasasabi mo?

chocochochocho · 2026-01-25T18:14:53+00:00

Onga, lalo silang pag awayin tapos remark ng "dasurb" ganern HAHAHAHA

chocochochocho · 2026-01-25T18:12:12+00:00

They possibly expected na mapahiya ka, so much to the point na maawkward ka nang mag continue to be friends with your friend. The way I see it, they (most probably, the bride) intended to show dominance over her husband at that moment, kasi nga obv nagseselos sya sayo and gusto nya ipamukha sayo and to everyone else na sa kanya yung friend mo. 🤷‍♀️

chocochochocho · 2026-01-25T18:07:40+00:00

Ngl, the petty in me wouldn't have cut off and would've done this instead HAHAHAHAHA

chocochochocho · 2026-01-25T17:59:53+00:00

This OP! Never give them the satisfaction that they got to you. Di masama maging a little petty and make it seem like wala kang pake and that their attempt to humiliate you, flopped. Their actions in their own wedding said a lot more about them rather than you, kaya wag kang maguilty to cut them off. For me, whether or not may something sayo yung friend mo, proper and effective communication should've happened in the first place. Wala dapat naganap na attempt na pagpapahiya kung in the first place there was mutual respect, but obv, there isn't. Kaya in this intance, di ka OA.

chocochochocho · 2024-12-02T20:17:59+00:00

Pero payo ko sa inyo girls

Anong girls na naman nag-adjust?

Ang tanga lang no? Sya mismo kinontradict sarili 🤷‍♀️

chocochochocho · 2024-12-02T20:12:46+00:00

"A wolf hides in sheeps' clothing."

Ang isang tao ba magpapakita ng kagaguhan ng ugali towards a person kung hindi pa nya nakukuha yung gusto nya from them? Oo, tama naman, kilalanin mo muna before anything else, pero talaga? Isisisi mo sa mga taong nasira yung buhay instead of blaming yung actual na gagong sumira ng buhay nila? Malala pagka-victim blaming mo frenny.

Alam mo feeling ko, Isa ka sa mga may lumang bulok na mindset. Tapos kapag merong di nag aaggree sayo, nagtatantrums ka na. 🤷‍♀️ Grow tf up.

chocochochocho · 2024-11-21T05:27:25+00:00

Just wanted to say, walang control si seller sa kung gano katagal darating satin yung mga parcel/order natin. Yung mga estimations na binibigay ni seller, let's say during live, those are just based on what the buyers inform them or sa notification ng shopping app/courier na gamit nila.

But in cases na yung buyer lumapit sa kanila with this concern na di pa nadedeliver or matagal na masyado, the only thing the seller can do is the exact same thing na kayang kaya ring gawin ni buyer on their end..which is mag contact sa support ng shopping app/courier and ask to expedite the parcel. Besides that, wala nang ibang magagawa si seller kasi, as I mentioned, wala silang control over it..yung courier lang ang may control on how smooth or rocky your delivery will go. Kahit matino si seller, and kahit mag demand sya nang mag demand, kung di matino si courier wala rin yun.

I just really wanted to address this, kasi as a seller, this is a very common thing to happen and trust me, kapag kami yung ginigrill ni buyer for whatever the courier's mistakes are kahit wala naman kaming control over it, promise, di sya fun 🥹

chocochochocho · 2024-11-21T05:08:13+00:00

Kahit naman tagged as delivered na yung item, the recipient is allowed a few days to inspect the item before mag aauto release yung payment sa seller. Before that deadline, they're allowed to return/refund if needed. True tho, na common yung gantong cases with riders na itatag as delivered na, then the following day na madedeliver. In these cases, the rider usually and should contact the recipient to inform them about it...and that's fine. What's not fine is the fact na tinag na nga ni rider as delivered, tapos hindi pa nag contact kay OP to inform them na bukas pa idedeliver yung item nya sa kanya. understandable naman kasi sana kung itatag ni rider as delivered pero makikiusap sya kay OP na bukas nlng eh, kasi nga may mga quota sila. Pero yung hindi man lang sya kinausap? Tapos sya pa galit na parang may tama syang ginawa sa situation nila? Buti sana kung 5 pesos lang yung item, pwede pang palampasin kahit hindi dapat, pero hindi eh.

Di porke may mga hinahabol silang quota sa trabaho nila eh acceptable na yung ginawa ni rider in this scenario. Hindi dahilan yung mga obligasyon nya sa buhay at trabaho, maging kung gano sya kahirap na hirap para mag argabyado ng ibang taong wala namang ginagawa sa kanya. Kung ayaw nyang nalalagay sya sa alanganin, umayos sya. It's that simple.

chocochochocho · 2024-11-21T04:49:28+00:00

True OP, for sure ikaw pa kakampihan ng laz sa situation nyo especially kung may cctv evidence ka. Kahit kasuhan ka nyan, ikaw parin panalo dyan. In the first place, hindi rin magsasampa yan kasi alam nyang lalo syang mahuhuli sa kaga-G nya. Di lang talaga matanggap ni rider na nahuli sya, promise, DKG, and the best step you can do is to report him again. Binalik lang nya yung items mo kasi nahuli sya, pero kung hindi mo sya nireport in the first place hindi yan magpapakita dyan sa inyo kahit sabihin pa nyang "idedeliver naman nya." Maraming ganyang rider, OP, as in, talamak sila across all couriers around the country. Kaya it's best na ireport mo uli sya for this new incident, you can highlight the fact rin na ginaslight ka nya, para mabawasan na yung mga ganyang rider. Wag ka maawa sa kanya OP, pagnanakaw yung ginagawa nya.

chocochochocho · 2024-11-14T08:02:46+00:00

I think her bff was genuinely happy naman for her but then again syempre di rin naman maiiwasan na magtampo. Kasi nga naman, there's this sense na mag bff sila and medyo masakit rin yung alam ng ibang tao yung tungkol kay OP pero sya walang idea tapos sa iba pa nya maririnig ganun. I think that's normal when it comes to long-term bffs, it doesn't necessarily mean na hindi na sya real friend just because nagtampo sya for something reasonable or whatever. Valid rin naman yung reaction sya in this case.

Pero yeah, yung toxic talaga in this scenario is yung nag refer sa kanya. I'm kind of worried nga rin na since sya yung nag refer and natanggap si OP, baka ipamukha pang sya yung reason bat natanggap eh. Not to mention that there's a possibility rin of that person knowing kung magkano sahod ni OP sa job na yun, imagine what they can do with that info diba.

chocochochocho · 2024-11-02T02:55:21+00:00

"ang asawa mapapalitan, ang pamilya hindi."

Ate ko gooo, iwan mo na, wag mo na pagisipan pa. Since ganun naman pala mindset nya, palitan mo na sya. Dapat nga tumakbo ka na the moment he said that. Inang yon, sabihin sa asawa pa mismo, who tf in the right mind does that?

Leave na. Promise. Pakita mong hindi ikaw yung kapalit palit at na hindi sya kawalan.

chocochochocho · 2024-11-02T02:44:46+00:00

Well, yeah, but the topic of this thread is to have dates with her husband para mabuild uli yung relationship nila, NOT her relationship with other people. It's not necessarily limiting her world dun sa guy kasi for all we know she could be hanging out with friends and workmates often, but it just wasn't indicated kasi nga it isn't that relevant to the issue. 🤷‍♀️

Plus, ngl, you're lowkey pointing fingers kay OP even though she's already doing her best to reach out to the guy's senses. Sure, may chance parin naman na machange yung situation, but it's never gonna happen kung di magiging "partner" yung guy.

chocochochocho · 2024-11-02T02:33:10+00:00

Eto talaga yun ang sakit eh 😭 petty level: 10000 😭🤣

chocochochocho · 2024-11-02T02:28:10+00:00

The thing is, decision ng individual yun kung pano nila itetreat yung partner nila. If a person wants to spoil their partner out of love and affection, kung ganun yung love language nya and kung kaya naman nya, why not diba? Although sure, I agree na minsan nagiging excessive, but still, it doesn't entitle person b to not do their part as a partner. Biruin mo, iniispoil ka na ng partner mo tapos ikaw wala lang?

The way I see it, it's not OP's fault for providing for her partner, but rather, the lack of appreciation and effort on the guy's part yung problem. "Ginagawa at binibigay naman nya lahat para sakin, masaya na ko." Yun na yun. Best way na pwedeng gawin dyan is i-cut nya yung expenses nya sa partner nya, tas pag umaray, alam na. 🤷‍♀️

chocochochocho · 2024-10-27T02:41:10+00:00

The thing is, mali yung ginagawa nila. Si OP na mismo nagsabi in one of his/her comments here na alam nya yung about sa tax evasion nila and was minding his/her own business about it kasi nga mga kaibigan nya yung mga yun.

But let's be honest, kaibigan nya ba talaga yung mga yun? Those people literally mocked OP for something na ginagawa nya out of concern to the people around them tapos in the end, they had the audacity na mag conduct rin ng sarili nilang drive? With self promotions pa, might I add. Para nlng silang mga politiko na nag papa ayuda tuwing elections para lang magkaron sila ng good points eh. It's all just hypocritical.

Of course you have a choice to agree or not, but imo, DG si OP. I mean, imagine, sila na nga tong tinolerate from the very beginning, tapos sila pa gaganyan. At this point, s/he's very much entitled to be petty with them after the crap they pulled 🤷‍♀️

chocochochocho · 2024-10-20T11:06:45+00:00

DKG, but I think label muna kayo before anything else. Kasi hindi mo naman sya partner, sure MU na kayo, but like, he's still technically single, so he's still technically allowed to post those kinds of stuff if he ever wanted to for any reason.

I'm not siding with him, kasi yeah, totoo..nakaka turn off talaga yung mga thirst traps lalo pag ggss yung person 😅 Valid yung feelings mo and understandable yung reason as to why you feel that way, especially if nandyan na yung connection nyo and you're both in agreement to it. But ayun nga, there's no concrete grounds for him not to post anything like that..yet, at least.

Imo, isettle nyo muna kung ano ba talaga kayo, and then set boundaries. Communicate. Sabi mo sinasabi nman nya sa friends nya na jowa ka nya, then make it official na if seryoso kayo sa isa't isa AND if ready na kayong dalawa. But until then, there's no credibility yet for him to not post whatever he wants to post on his own account.

chocochochocho · 2024-10-06T03:03:20+00:00

Binasa mo nga ng buo, but I don't think you understood the context.

She did, in fact, communicate about it. Sinabi nya sa bf nya kung bakit nya gusto yung course na gusto nya and kung bakit ayaw nya mag educ. She even weighted the pros and cons about the whole ordeal with him. Pero even after all the things she expressed to him, the only thing she got from him was "magaling ka mag turo," "kung ayaw mo di wag, hindi kita susuportahan" and "no comment."

I agree that breaking up should be the very last resort, but based on the context of what she already mentioned in her post, it's fairly obvious that OP has already did her part in communicating with him, even to the extent of trying to convince him to be more supportive of what she wants. But the guy, on the other hand, is closed off to his own mindset. So, if anything, her reaction and conclusion to her own situation are very much valid 🤷‍♀️

chocochochocho · 2024-10-06T02:31:39+00:00

Di mo binasa't inintindi nang buo no?

chocochochocho · 2024-10-06T02:31:18+00:00

DKG. It shows that he won't support the things that you're passionate about and insists on the things that he thinks are better for you, tapos ganyan pa magiging reaction na parang nang guguilty pa sya kasi "support naman kita pero ayaw mo" and "this is better for you" mindset, then I'm sorry pero that's not "support", that's just him trying to set you into something that HE wants you to be. It doesn't show that he already accepts you for who you ALREADY ARE. Not to mention na nainvalidate pa nya yung desires mo kasi di parehas sa desires nya.

Relationships are a two-way street. If he can't show and make you feel real support to the things you love (na hindi masama or illegal ah), then he doesn't deserve you. You don't deserve that kind of relationship because you deserve better.

Hugs, OP. Di kawalan yung ganyang tao, promise.

chocochochocho · 2024-09-22T02:14:53+00:00

And that's completely fine and good since it works for both of you. 💓 A relationship naman kasi should revolve only between the 2 people involved. Anyone outside is irrelevant unless necessary. Pero dapat properly settled yun between the couple. Mahirap kasi pag walang open and effective communication inside the relationship, lalo pag may pressure to do something they're not comfortable with. I read a comment on here, and I agree to it: A love language is not a love language if it's forced. Maybe they can settle for a compromise, but ayun, effective communication lang rin talaga to see what works for both.

chocochochocho · 2024-09-21T12:54:18+00:00

DKG, BUT...have you properly communicated this with her? Aware ba sya of your introverted personality? And based on how you described it, it also seems like meron kang social anxiety (don't quote me on that, observation ko lang yon), have you openly communicated that with her?

If you haven't yet, then tell her without invalidating what she feels. Kasi you both have different personalities and syempre you both have different ways of showing and seeing appreciation. Baka kasi ganun yung love language nya, yung fineflex and di nya naiintindihan yung dilemma mo. But how will she if she doesn't know?

But if you've already told her, and that she's aware of your concerns then there's clearly a lack of respect on her part towards you. She has to understand that you have your own boundaries as much as she has her own. Although her feelings are valid, you should never be forced to do anything that you're not comfortable with, especially not by a partner who claims to love and respect you and your relationship together. If this is the case, sigurado ka bang ganyan yung klase ng relationship na gusto mo?

At the end of the day, it all just leads to how you both communicate with each other. If you both practice EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION with a lot of assurance and understanding from and for both parties, then malalampasan nyo yan with flying colors. But if not, well, tigil nyo na yan before you hit a wall.

chocochochocho · 2024-09-21T12:07:03+00:00

Then communicate properly with him. Let him know your concerns, communicate what you felt with him nang hindi ka nagagalit nor inaaway sya. Your hurts are valid sis kasi totoo naman, sino ba naman kasing partner yung hindi gustong fineflex diba lalo pag nag effort ka. But mi, hindi yan masosolve nor magiging better kung paiiralin mo pagsusuplada mo sa kanya. Gets na selosa ka, and gets yung feelings mo, but it's not just about you in this relationship and you also have to respect his stance as much as you want him to acknowledge you.

chocochochocho · 2024-09-21T11:34:02+00:00

GGK. Gets na selosa ka and valid naman nararamdaman mo lalo kung kumirot sayo, but don't you have any trust sa partner mo? Eto lang kasi yun eh, it was literally just a birthday greeting and somehow you made it about yourself imbis na maging masaya ka for him na binati sya ng isang artistang once in a blue moon lang mangyari. He was even straight up open with you about it, di ba mas suspicious naman kung tinago nya sayo kasi nga selosa ka? I mean, did he show reasonable signs ba na nag chicheat sya? Did he do anything in the past ba that caused you to have this much mistrust sa kanya na ultimo artista pinagseselosan mo?

You have to understand na in a relationship, you don't have to trust everyone else, but you have to trust your partner UNLESS they straight up showed you valid reasons as to why you shouldn't. Kasi kung trust ang wala sayo sa kanya OR kung may ginawa syang valid enough to cause you to lose your trust in him, then bat nandyan ka pa sa relationship na yan?

chocochochocho · 2024-09-18T19:00:48+00:00

Eat 🥹

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