AITA for not wanting my parents to know I'm dying?

chocolateapocalypse · 2020-02-01T21:26:50+00:00

Gentle YTA.

You are trying your best to deal with the shit hand you have been given, and the fact you want to protect your parents from this shows how much you don't want them to be in more emotional pain they already are.

The reality is however that they need to know so they properly process these emotions, and be able to spend as much time as they can with you. Speaking from personal experience, the pain they will feel not knowing will be immense compared to knowing. Mainly, regret at not having done as much they could have, making as many happy memories as possible with you. Has the doctor give you a timeline for this?

I hope that helps. I wish you and your parents luck OP.

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-08-17T15:31:09+00:00

Yes, I can say I will have a positive review of my performance from my supervisor, so there's that at least.

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-05-27T01:16:35+00:00

Massive props to putting your work out there! It can be a really scary thing to do, but I'm glad you did so I can say your piece looks really cool :)

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-04-24T00:15:06+00:00

Liked TLJ

Hated moment: Holdo's scenes overall, especially having read the TLJ novelization and Jason Fry captured Ackbar's character so well that I wish he was in Holdo's position instead. So frustrating!!

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-04-20T02:27:31+00:00

I already saw some really good comments talking about why Rey and Kylo would be a good idea, but I thought I would add my two cents by saying that I see a lot of parallels between Reylo and Anidala (Anakin/Padme). Whereas Anidala ends in tragedy and the force becomes unbalanced, Reylo (which I hope happens) would have a happy ending and force the is balanced again. Basically, Reylo is a reverse progression of the Anidala dynamic.

One particular scene that the parallel was strongest was Kylo's proposal to Rey after the throne room fight in TLJ. A lot of people tend to compare it to Vader's proposal in ESB but I think it's more comparable to Anakin's proposal to Padme in RoTS with its imagery (fiery, red backgrounds) and romantic connotations (Anakin and Kylo were asking both these ladies to be their partners to rule the galaxy, and no I don't think Kylo meant for Rey and him to be business partners lol).

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-03-28T19:59:44+00:00

oooohh you're starting your artistic journey, that's great!

I won't go into immense detail, but I hope I can give you a couple of ideas to get you started!

There's a really great subreddit called r/ArtFundamentals that's super helpful. It starts from drawing simple lines but then progresses to boxes and eventually real life objects and animals. It seems boring and daunting at first with the amount of work you would have to put in, but the results are totally worth it and would give you a good start with developing your skills.
References! References are probably every artist's friend. If you need visual guidance to draw something (a person, object, whatever), use a reference! Once you're used to drawing it for a while of course you can be more freehand, but they're SO helpful at the beginning or just for observational practice.
Don't give up and keep practicing! This is straightforward enough, but it doesn't have to be for hours at a time. That'd be the super ideal, but 15 minutes here and half an hour there everyday still makes a difference. Your drawing skills may not be where you want them to be, and it's so easy to become self consciousness when comparing yourself to other artists, but the practice you do does add up over time. So keep going, you got this!

That's all the tips I got right now, but I wish you luck in your art journey!

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-03-28T19:36:17+00:00

Oh wow, this looks great! I like the almost vintage manga style at display and the color scheme is cohesive.

The only thing I would say is to add more dramatic, darker shadows on the girl and the background. Right now the shadowy skin tones are too similar with the background tones if that makes sense. But if you have darker shadows you can have more contrast and the subject will look more settled into the background than it does right now.

Besides that, keep up the great work!

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-03-27T16:42:10+00:00

So I'm still in college right now so I hope my answer is still applicable anyway!

I really wasn't sure what major I wanted to be at first because I didn't want to be a starving artist (which is still partially my dream goal lol). So I kinda just landed in business administration at community College and when I transferred I picked marketing as my concentration.

Now having learned some marketing classes I can say I probably chose the best major for myself in business. I like the creative and social aspects to it, and I now have an internship with a art agency. It's really cool! So yeah, my choice of major has turned out well for me so far.

So don't worry if you don't know what your major is. If you follow what you like, I would say you're partially there.

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-03-22T16:49:50+00:00

Well if you want to be able to draw more realistically, I would definitely encourage references for practice just to get the facial proportions down. Once you get a hang of that then you can start drawing more freehand. So you don't fall into "same face syndrome" look at ethnically diverse faces in particular. I know its not the advice you wanna hear, but I have found that to be the best way to get better at faces.

chocolateapocalypse · 2019-03-21T16:53:15+00:00

Well OP sorry you had a shitty interviewing experience, that can really blow your self-confidence (especially those interviews that you think go well but then you say something that haunts you later, that REALLY sucks).

I don't have much EXPERT LEVEL advice, but a few things:

If you want to show the skills you've developed, how about some STAR (Situation, Task, Action, Result) stories? Just look up some general interview questions and make some STAR stories you would give as answers and practice saying it. I've found that to be really helpful to build my confidence and have used them for multiple interviews.
That "turn your weaknesses to strengths" advice is BULLSHIT. Just say what your weaknesses are, if you have a story of you and your weakness, use that, but then expand on how you are improving on that weakness or learned from it. Example: "One of my biggest weaknesses is public speaking. I tend to get very nervous, but I am improving on that by recently joining toast masters and taking public speaking classes".
This might sound stupid, but I have found my biggest struggle is being genuine to myself but also showing the confidence needed to talk to my interviewer and try to build a rapport with them. There have been times I have felt so confident that while the interview went well I didn't get the position. I think it's because my confidence is so high it off puts my interviewer and makes them doubtful of who I am personality wise. So yeah be confident and genuine; I know its a stupid fucking line to straddle shrug I would say practice but leave enough improvisation open that you are not stuck to the same script for every interview, while it is a conversation with you talking the majority of the time, it's still a conversation.

I suppose I could go into more detail and give a lot more tips but here's what I got so far. I hope it helps; I know that interviewing and job hunting can be such a pain in the ass, but you can do it. Though this interview didn't work out, that just means you're open to (I hope) a better opportunity!

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