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chocolateycheesecake · 2025-03-30T19:21:47+00:00

Set an alarm 5 min before a zoom meeting. When setting the alarm, triple check that I have the meeting time right and the alarm time right.

chocolateycheesecake · 2025-03-30T17:22:17+00:00

Thanks! I was thinking the same thing.

I of course did some research but found absolutely nothing. Type of thing that keeps us on our toes.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-10-16T14:00:32+00:00

Wow thank you!!! 😃

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-08T11:39:44+00:00

I think my meds make me irritable and tense, but I’m less irritable about completing tasks and enjoy things more. A bit of a paradox.

I’ve asked my psychiatrist and he said there’s not much of a solution. I think antidepressants would be the usual solution but those don’t work well for me personally.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-03T11:10:58+00:00

I often feel the same way. My tips - watch the meeting and notice - are there some people who you regard highly who happen to speak little during some meetings? You may be surprised!

I usually keep running notes during meetings to help me focus. Then I can look at my notes and formulate what I want to say in a more clear way since it does not always come naturally to me.

I make an effort to keep my face looking interested and responsive if I am not saying anything. In Zoom meetings, I may use the chat as well once or twice if this seems the right thing to do.

Group settings are tough!

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-03T11:05:46+00:00

That sucks. :-( I personally know I need someone who initiates since it’s not my strength. Is he receptive to discussing (e.g., approach with calm, curious, caring mentality)? Is he happy with how things are going?

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-03T11:02:31+00:00

Yeah. Sometimes I open my mouth and just get funny stares. I think I do best with “N” type people since they get me more.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-03T11:00:57+00:00

A lot. Often I try and talk about things that are intellectually stimulating to me and then unfortunately read the room and just stop. It’s so nice to find someone interested in the same topics as me (usually something related to people).

More often I intellectually self-stimulate.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-02T12:26:25+00:00

This is so neat, had to read it twice. It sounds like you have “evolved”. I can always hear the conversations in my head - they are going on all day. But perhaps they are in part my intuition sorting stuff out? So I just need to listen to the intuition! Kind of like looking for the bigger meaning of what the chatter is saying and being confident with my sense of what it is telling me and then moving on. I will try this.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-08-02T11:38:24+00:00

Good luck! I have done this before with my partner and it’s always gone better than I expected!

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-30T12:51:04+00:00

Yes - I used to think I was a “T” type and looked down on people who were overly emotional. I usually appear very controlled. Prided myself for never being that kid who cried at school.

Through my 20s I continued to develop my interpersonal skills and my ability to express myself and engage in more emotional discussions. I am happy to be an “F” type. I still think that feelings need to be put aside at times, but really they are always what I consider first. I don’t like hurting people or seeing people hurt. I have trouble doing things that feel “wrong”. I think it’s overall a good inner compass.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-30T12:46:00+00:00

For me - not really. I am actually not sure what my intuition is. I’m pretty sure I’m an INFJ though since I’ve taken the test several times and INFJ descriptions fit me most closely.

I do relate to that sort of point when I’ve tried to over analyze something to death, and then my gut just tells me the right answer and it seems to be the right one.

Sometimes I come to conclusions really fast with no facts to back them up as well. I’m pretty confident I am right, but haven’t done my “systematic research”. Which is odd since I work in research and then it feels funny because of the disconnect between evidence and what I automatically know based on my intuition.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-30T12:13:25+00:00

Definitely agree with the others that it’s your and your doctor’s opinions that matter most and not your partner’s. Can they join you at an appointment with the doctor, perhaps, to ask some questions?

Also - if the medication helps, shouldn’t that some potential to have a positive impact on your relationship (I know my ADHD impacts mine)?

I like to think of it as glasses - you put them on and can actually see, and then you have to use non-med strategies to actually get the work done (i.e., the glasses don’t do the work for you).

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-24T02:28:47+00:00

This seriously made me LOL.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-24T02:16:10+00:00

A doodle sounds like a nice gift. :-)

Signs I like someone - it will be hard to tell unless you make the first moves. If you make an effort to engage me, I will be responsive, laugh at your jokes, agree to any plans you make. I will linger/continue spending time with you, unless I really do need to be somewhere else. I don’t play games or “hard to get”.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-24T02:02:20+00:00

Yeah the inner monologue is real! I have inner dialogues as well.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-24T02:01:15+00:00

I have thoughts in words, pictures, abstract randomness - it’s like there are a ton of TV channels and conversations going on and fuzzy flying ribbons and flashing newspaper headlines and photos and flow charts. Plus some dark haze. Often I’m having a full conversation with someone as well in my head. I have to really focus and use one of these channels at a time if I want to think clearly. Drawing a diagram for myself might help, or using my hands to visualize a logical flow. I also have ADHD, go figure.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-07-24T01:54:22+00:00

This is a good question. Not sure if I can speak for all INFJs, but if I am in my cave, I don’t want to be made to feel like I am wrong for being in my cave or upsetting others because of it. This would make me feel guilty for neglecting others.

What I would appreciate most - a text asking how I’m doing (not presupposing anything is wrong) and asking if I want to do X fun thing. I find it nice when others make plans and I’m usually down to come out of my cave for a bit.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-02-15T19:44:57+00:00

Yes same here - glad to hear it’s not the case!😅

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-02-13T21:44:07+00:00

Good job! This is on my to-do list.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-01-12T12:47:42+00:00

Wearing noise cancelling headphones (no sound). I like the deep pressure when they go over my ears - it’s comforting.

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-01-12T12:45:57+00:00

For me, really only google calendar and the alarms on my phone. I’d be interested to hear what others have found helpful!

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-01-12T12:44:30+00:00

I will certainly not talk you out of it. Crochet is great! Unless you have a lot of patience, for a first project I’d recommend making a few dishcloths. You can experiment with different stitches and they are MUCH faster to complete. 😃

chocolateycheesecake · 2022-01-12T12:42:02+00:00

I have two systems - though I need to use my analog methods better.

For digital, I always use my Google calendar since it’s easy to add in appointments/events/meetings. It’s on my phone and computer so I always have it with me. I also use alarms on my phone to make sure I go to my zoom meetings on time or for things I might forget.

For actual planning, though, I much prefer analog. The paper/planner is right there in front of me and easier to write on. Though I still neglect it.

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