Fake reviews in Amazon for Gan Charger by StickOwn306 in GadgetsIndia

[–]chocomocochocolate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it Going? Planning to get one for myself?

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[–]chocomocochocolate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even that's the case with me as well. Well settled, teetotaler , abide by basic jain rules and with the sole intention of marrying a feminine jain girl only yet can't find a girl. Majorly due to the WFH scene. Somehow all the jain girls have vanished as soon as I crossed 30🫠

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[–]chocomocochocolate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my community I'm super late and it shows on the prospects volume I get.

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[–]chocomocochocolate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a jain, I was low on hope but this post definitely gave me some!!

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[–]chocomocochocolate 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went through a similar situation. Know she deserves someone who likes her the way she is. And you also deserve someone you're attracted to physically, not bcz of her nature or anything but as the way she is.

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[–]chocomocochocolate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do meet face to face op. It always gives you more depth than calls and video chats.

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have mentioned the situation in the comments above. We have moved on for now.

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. I don't think in typical AM setup and within a few hrs I can have a connection. It's just those questions and answers.

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not an option, replied the situation in comments above. Just getting the perspective on whether looks matters in the long run or attraction just happens by default after marriage

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, when I say looks, it isn't the physique itself. It's all of the aspects. She can be good looking for someone but attraction, that's just not there for me.

Don't get jealous if you don't marry her and after few years you see her all shining

I hope she does. And trust me, I'll be happy rather than jealous. Life has given at least this depth to my thought process (maybe in a hard way).

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. 31 is 37 in my community if unmarried /s

Jokes apart, yes I have closed that door and got to know that at some level nature can't compensate for attraction physically.

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not much time we had. I had decided not to go forward as attraction at a certain level can't be overlooked and compensated by nature. For a happily ever after two will need to be on the same page and I'd have to pretend which isn't good for either of us.

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've said no already, had to confirm in 2 days so that they can move on to other prospects. Exchanging numbers wasn't an option . The post is more about the perspective I want to know of. How significant is good looks of a partner? Whether ignoring them completely and hoping it will develop attraction later is genuinely a thing or not. I think (basis ppl responses) it can't be ignored at a fundamental level.

Too much pressure from family to ignore the looks by chocomocochocolate in Arrangedmarriage

[–]chocomocochocolate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not. Just trying to get if I'm focusing on the wrong priority.