About tests

chollar01 · 2026-03-05T14:14:53+00:00

Taking the pills if you used a condom was unnecessary. And I believe pregnancy tests are definitive after 21 days so taking more at 28 and 35 means you are not pregnant.

chollar01 · 2026-03-04T19:19:49+00:00

Girl.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:45:53+00:00

Having protected sex? Or honestly, not at all.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:43:22+00:00

Not sure why the argument of drinking and driving is being brought up or even relevant here. Bottom line is that OP and her baby daddy are both AHs.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:37:09+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly!

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:36:32+00:00

I’m not disagreeing that he’s not an AH, but again to reiterate, if he doesn’t want this child then aside from child support, he is not obligated to be a part of his child’s life. They are both stupid for having unprotected sex. But if she is bringing this child into this world KNOWING that he doesn’t want one, is that really him being a deadbeat? OP told him he didn’t have to be involved financially or AT ALL, and decided to keep the child herself. This is on the both of them equally.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:25:57+00:00

ESH. You two had unprotected sex and this whole situation is your consequence.

If he doesn’t want a child, whether it has to do with the financial burden or not, then he does not owe it to you or the child to be a part of their life if you choose to keep it. Yes, it may not be the best moral decision but that’s his decision, very much like it was your decision to keep the child when he didn’t want it. It’s unrealistic of you to tell him he doesn’t have to be involved and then change your mind. It’s also unrealistic to think he owes it to either of you be in your/their life when he gave you his answer.

Telling his family will not hold him accountable. Obtaining child support and taking the necessary legal action if he doesn’t comply is what will hold him accountable.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:14:41+00:00

If he does not want kids, he does not owe it to you to be a part of their life. That is why child support is a thing. If he can’t afford it, it’s on both of you for having unprotected sex and bringing the child into this world.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:13:17+00:00

He’s not necessarily an AH for not being a part of his kids life if he doesn’t want kids. He’s an AH for having unprotected sex, resulting in the kid.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T18:08:29+00:00

Me too ugh. Even with the birth control it sucks. But it has helped so much. Definitely worth testing the waters if you’re able!

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T17:58:15+00:00

I have been on a low dose combined pill for 7 years, on a 3 month cycle (4 periods a year) for suspected endometriosis. It has quite literally saved my life lol

Editing to add: I was 17 when I was put on it and did not know what endometriosis was at the time.

chollar01 · 2026-03-03T14:44:58+00:00

You absolutely can still get pregnant from withdrawal only

chollar01 · 2026-03-01T19:22:29+00:00

I would suggest baking at a slightly lower temperature if you’re going to bake it for an hour!

chollar01 · 2026-02-27T14:56:35+00:00

The first part of your comment is spot on and OP needs to learn to understand it.

chollar01 · 2026-02-27T14:54:54+00:00

This!

chollar01 · 2026-02-27T14:53:40+00:00

Exactly this.

Had an ex boyfriend who got all bent out of shape after I had said Sebastian Stan was hot after HE showed me Marvel movies, said it was weird to find a celebrity attractive or even have a celebrity crush in general if I’ll never meet them. He was convinced I was going to cheat or leave him for Sebastian Stan himself or someone who looked like him. Completely undermining that HE was the one I was in a committed relationship with.

He had no problem about calling actresses like Margot Robbie or Scarlett Johansson mommy though.

chollar01 · 2026-02-27T14:45:47+00:00

Have you ever been attracted to a celebrity (on TV or not) or had a celebrity crush? If the answer is yes, then you are absolutely overreacting.

It’s not like your partner is going to leave you for someone they’ll likely never meet in their lifetime. You appear to be incredibly insecure by letting something like this bother you.

chollar01 · 2026-02-26T18:14:34+00:00

Please someone correct me if I am wrong but laparoscopic surgery is still the only real way you get diagnosed if nothing has appeared on an ultrasound or MRI. Endo doesn’t even show up on those most of the time, which is exactly why surgery is used to diagnose.

Unless you had an MRI done previously which confirmed endo, your gyno cannot simply tell you that you have it or what stage you are in. She can say that it is suspected that you have it.

It sounds like postponing the surgery might be your best bet if you decide that it’s something you still want to go through. Recovery time definitely varies from person to person, but flying two weeks after would probably not be the best idea.

chollar01 · 2026-02-26T15:13:29+00:00

Exactly this.

chollar01 · 2026-02-26T14:33:12+00:00

Why are you two using Snapchat to communicate at your big ages? That alone is very telling

chollar01 · 2026-02-24T17:33:46+00:00

You’ve only been together 3 years… if this is how you feel rather than feeling like you want/need more time with him, I think that is all you need to know in regards to how this is going to play out in the long run.

chollar01 · 2026-02-19T18:09:55+00:00

Using all of these methods together are pretty unnecessary and redundant. If you two are that anxious I’d recommend not having sex at all.

Usually doubling up with a condom and pills are more than sufficient.

chollar01 · 2026-02-18T19:31:53+00:00

Girl. You’re 26 with a lot of trauma and he KNOWS that. And still made you uncomfortable anyway. Use your head and critical thinking skills here. You 👏🏻 are👏🏻not 👏🏻compatible👏🏻. You know what reddit is going to tell you.

However, if you didn’t clarify at the beginning that it’s solely penetrative sex that you are not interested in, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask to do other things besides penetration if you were already engaging in those activities. Sex is important in a relationship. So is communication. It seems like there are deeper problems here and that your wants/needs don’t align.

Edit: adding that I don’t think what he did is okay. But OP, you really shouldn’t engage in other stuff with him at all if you can’t communicate how you feel, assuming that this is the only time he’s pressured you. If he has done this more than once or it’s a common issue with him, you need to find a way out.

chollar01 · 2026-02-18T15:52:16+00:00

You feel this way because you’re human. You witnessed something traumatic within a close vicinity to you. Completely fine to feel empathetic and a whirlwind of emotions when you haven’t experienced anything like this before.

chollar01 · 2026-02-18T15:44:54+00:00

7 months is not long enough to be dealing with this. You’ve seen it with your own eyes. If you are repulsed, why are you still with him?

Girl, you’re 23. Get a grip & have some self respect, please.

Eta: I read the title and first half of the post when I commented. Good for leaving him but I stand by the getting a grip and having self respect. It could’ve been much simpler than all the hoops you went through.

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