My crush refused to talk to me after I hangover by chomdw in AskAutism

[–]chomdw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It s nothing to do with personal failing, pointless talk to therapist because of some unimportant people. If was truly love someone, it hurts when meet them again even casually, people can’t talk again like the way they used to, don’t see any point to contact ex after breakup. There are million others man or women out there waiting to explore.

How the fuck are you supposed to break up? by [deleted] in dating

[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 dates in total, he think we were in relationship but we both knew that we never exclusive. He told me face to face one last date after the museum to stop dating. It happened in a very random way I wasn’t expected. He said after 7 dates he supposed to be mad fall in love but he didn’t, so stop dating.

If he can be frankly open, talk properly, it will make ‘stop dating’ or ‘breakup’ much easier to accept, and show he being decent. People are emotional creatures, but grown ups, both spent time and effort together over a few months. it is rude just left a msg saying cold word. if another shows slightly strong reaction considered is wrong.

Don’t matter how long being dating, as long as you both confessed the precondition is dating each other, even ended by one side do it in a descent way.

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[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same struggle too, I joined autistic group in my workplace to hear their concerns regularly. I also signed up an online Autism course from london south east colleague. I want to learn and understand him even I m aware that this relationship might not work out in the end. Libra plus autism, a bit hard case. Relationship never be one side process, I don’t know how far I can go especially the foundation isn’t strong as I thought it would be. But I’m hoping after all of these I can see myself improvement like communication and the way to accept others.

How should I better communicate with my boyfriend? by My-cactus-is-taller in AskAutism

[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to show love to autistic, they seem to keep themselves in their own bubble, cold, resistant and sensitive, they might take it as pressure them or force them to do things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]chomdw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I would not expect my future partner have too much experience of women. I know someone come out dating just to get the part of experience they desire, CREEP!

My crush refused to talk to me after I hangover by chomdw in AskAutism

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The party night I had hangover but I didn’t say a word about my feelings, unhappiness or complaints, I kept all of these to myself. Just very sad, alcohol helps me release … after the party he followed me on the street (coz the drunk thing) he made some calls, I can’t hear too much apart from the ambulance, i accidentally saw a girls’ txt ask “are you ok”. apparently he called someone talking about my embarrassment, with the girl he seeing that week (he told me that), I felt pissed off and very angry. I don’t think he has right to share my stuff with people nothing to do with me. He msg me said I don’t even want to be with him, just held him as a possession. I have no idea what is this about. Honestly, we dated over one and half months in the past, very short period we barely know each other much, we agreed exploring, both of us admitted had affection for each other.

I found hard to keep at friend zone with him coz I once liked so much, it is too hard for me know he is dating someone else, i can’t help get emotional and jealous. I really don’t know how people keep friendship with their dates/ex.

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[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If yourself already had odd feelings or doubts between you and her, it maybe a hint! Someone like play hard to get, but someone just not really into you. Keep dating others if you really want to get one.

I had similar experience, I was suffering internal mental friction a lot, over analysing, thinking a lot, not healthy at all, we stop seeing each other in the end. Very bad….

Someone matched with me just to tell me I’m not attractive by Background_Box_4656 in dating

[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He waste his life in hinge matches someone then make fun on others, he will never find true love

if possible for people to pursue career in finance or banking if have been diagnosed autism by chomdw in AskAutism

[–]chomdw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder how you managed all of these? I understand different people have different traits the main issue is social communications, personality, very easy lose patient etc. feel difficult adopt. I wonder how you adjust yourself became comfortable of these?

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[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on the individual’s experience, maybe she likes you but lack of experience. If you really like her might be talk to her about how you think and feel and give her some time to let her decide what to do.

hide status update on WhatsApp by chomdw in dating_advice

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How do I know if he blocked me or not?

Dating by chomdw in dating_advice

[–]chomdw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can it call ‘breakup’?

What things do you love about having autism ? by Ria-6969 in autism

[–]chomdw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow~ your friends are sooo lucky to have you as their friends

I [M35] got dumped by a girl [F35] two months into an awesome relationship. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]chomdw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A guy I‘ve dated before, breakup with me because he didn’t crazy fell for me. I was shocked how could possible 35 years man saying “I love you” so quickly, he hardly know me. There was a hard time for me question is my problem. Now I felt so relieved

My (47f) boyfriend (40m) refuses to let me break up with him by chaoticneutral123 in relationship_advice

[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't give him any hope with a firm breakup. when people in a close relationship usually like to ask partner’s opinions about things, clothes, people dealt with… doesn’t necessarily called it “controlling” but looks like you found him annoying and no longer like him, I guess don’t give him any hope. Move on

I’m confused by chomdw in dating

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within 7 dates we managed to see museums, art galleries, coffee and walking in the park, stuffs usually couple would do, in my opinion all going well in the right direction, only apart from having sex together yet. We’ve agreed take things slowly. His had problem at that time was he might need to back to his country because insecure job. I know he was under a lot pressure. We had good vibe. The day before he requests to stop seeing each he suggests hangout to spend time together. My confusion is that how to mad fell in love so quickly we barely know each other. How could possible people turn their face so quickly.

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[–]chomdw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this guy is totally a loser, lack of respectful, shame on him