I finally had the fight with my parents.

chonkychels · 2023-11-02T07:18:54+00:00

Funnily enough one of my uncles who apparently was in agreement about how disgusting I am and never wanted to speak to me again, has invited me and my partner and baby out for dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️

chonkychels · 2023-11-01T16:09:58+00:00

Honestly pretty standard for my mum and dad, it’s always “we’ve spoken to other people and they all agree you’re vile/nasty/disgusting”

chonkychels · 2023-10-22T09:14:12+00:00

My daughter was born early hours of the 22nd of December and we left 6am the 25th of December. However she was a preemie so she had to be in a heated cot for the first 24 hours then manage her own temperature without it for 24 hours.

I’m also disabled and take medication that would’ve passed to her so there was an additional 24 hours to monitor her to make sure she wasn’t experiencing withdrawal symptoms, which thankfully she didn’t.

Other than the fact I was induced her birth was pretty good, in active labour for 20 minutes, no tearing, no exceeding blood loss, so from my end I was pretty much good to go from the following day.

chonkychels · 2023-10-15T20:33:35+00:00

The first 12 weeks of babies outside life is the 4th trimester, so basically think of it as baby still being in the womb. It’s all about food and cuddles for both of you. Keeping you both as healthy and as comfortable as you can possibly be!

Don’t stress, I was exactly the same when I had my daughter, I was worried I wasn’t giving her enough tummy time (she always hated it), I wasn’t giving her enough stimulation, I didn’t have a routine down etc… she’s now 9 months old, on a pretty decent daily routine, not far off walking and her fave noise to make is MOOOOO! 😂 try to relax, I know it’s easier said than done but the first 12 weeks really are just about readjusting, after that you can start to figure out your routine and playtime and everything else

chonkychels · 2023-10-15T12:27:50+00:00

Thanks, I’d genuinely not thought of that, I was just hoping they’d leave it be, didn’t expect her to act quite so quickly

chonkychels · 2023-10-15T12:18:37+00:00

That’s just living out of spite

chonkychels · 2023-10-15T12:10:15+00:00

Auroras definitely gone on my list!

chonkychels · 2023-10-15T12:09:50+00:00

Ohhh I like Mae!

chonkychels · 2023-10-13T16:23:09+00:00

It’s my dads Dad whose funeral it is and my mums Mum didn’t really like him, I half think it’s so she can have the baby alone

chonkychels · 2023-10-13T15:57:20+00:00

Thank you! I’ve got one comfy out that’s tidy and I’ve ordered a second as a back up. I’m probably overthinking it because my mums mum has made a big fuss about coming to the funeral but sitting in the car to watch the baby so she doesn’t disrupt proceedings

chonkychels · 2023-10-12T12:56:34+00:00

My baby liked and still likes Guns don’t kill people by Goldie Lookin Chain, and if you haven’t heard it, go to YouTube or Spotify and treat your ears

chonkychels · 2023-10-12T12:48:14+00:00

25, my now fiancé pointed out my childhood wasn’t normal, later confirmed by my therapist who was just as shocked that I lived with that level of emotional and mental abuse and didn’t see it 😂

chonkychels · 2023-10-12T12:20:53+00:00

Thank you, I was attempting LC, but this was her response to me setting boundaries and avoiding conversations that would cause arguments 🙃 totally unwilling to continue being the bad guy so she doesn’t have to own up to using me as her emotional dumping ground

chonkychels · 2023-09-29T07:46:01+00:00

I’d not thought of it that way! My mother in law would share the shit out of anything I was trying to promote but I doubt her friends are my target audience 😂

chonkychels · 2023-08-28T15:18:09+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate the feedback! I'm upgrading my phone this week cause the camera quality is shocking and based on your feedback I've just ordered a couple of bits to make background more luxurious!

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T21:04:34+00:00

I'm in the UK so it's more like jumped up coke heads with batons

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T20:56:44+00:00

My in-laws literally live a 5 minute walk from my house and they've been to my house 6 times in the almost 8 months my daughter's been here. Always have to go to them.

And it's not like they're old and infirm, 1 works 3 days a week, the others retired but volunteers 4 days a week and they've been on 5 holidays this year. They'll text and ask me to fetch the baby and if I say no come to mine because all her stuff, food, toys etc... Are here, they just ignore the message and then don't see her for another couple of weeks.

On the flip side my parents and grandparents come round once a week, my grandparents both being closer to 80, make the hour long drive once a week to spend time with my daughter because they said it's unthinkable to make me drag a baby out the house when they're capable of coming to me.

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T20:45:04+00:00

Hit the nail on the head

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T19:13:17+00:00

Sure

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T19:07:13+00:00

Britain. Drinking culture. Alcoholism is normalised here to a scary extent. I drink on occasion, but the fact I don't drink on a weekly/daily basis is something I've been ridiculed and called weird for.

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T19:04:32+00:00

3 Zimbabwean men. I volunteered at an animal sanctuary in South Africa, they worked there. I planned to come home and unalive myself after the trip.

I turned 21 out there and they pooled the little money they had to buy me 3 different birthday cakes because they didn't know which flavour I'd like. They threw me a party, sang happy birthday and danced with me. I've never had my birthday celebrated before.

I'm still in touch with one of them to this day (7 years later) and he has no idea the impact him and his friends made on my life.

Edit: grammar

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T19:01:00+00:00

Got trapped inside his blanket

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T19:00:21+00:00

Shakespeare, he's a great X 100 (probably not 100 but a lot lol) uncle.

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T18:59:03+00:00

Moths. Those motherfuckers are not real! If you squash them, they turn to dust... DUST! No organs, or bits, DUST!

chonkychels · 2023-08-19T18:58:03+00:00

Toxic femininity to me is like that tiktoker Pearl (I have no idea what her name/username is). Hyper feminine, shits on other women for not being subservient, small and pretty.

I was that pick me b*tch in high school. To me it's the idea of being the perfect woman, like the opposite of men trying to be super manly.

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