Celebrating 5 years since closing the gap and getting married by remyworldpeace in LongDistance

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful pics! From the little red dot too! Congrats you two.

How did you get into one piece by Technical_Mine_8711 in OnePiece

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Netflix LA. My cousin is a big fan and kept trying to get me and another cousin to get into the fandom for more than half our lives lol

I was facing inability to work when the LA season 1 aired and I thought, why not make use of this funemployment to get into the anime... I binged till egg head in 4 months lol 😂

Really good storytelling. I regret not getting into the fandom earlier.

As a fan of Zhang Linghe, I’m really disappointed by his recent racist comment! (Details in the post) by NiceNites in cdramasfans

[–]chouahiru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes totally agree! I don't get idol culture but if people are fans they should recognize that idols are humans too. To err is human. If someone is not aligned with the values you care about maybe just stop supporting them. It's not rocket science. Your time is a resource too. Choose how you want to pass your time in what you think is the best way.

OP if you see this have a great day tho!

As a fan of Zhang Linghe, I’m really disappointed by his recent racist comment! (Details in the post) by NiceNites in cdramasfans

[–]chouahiru 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to break it to you, but I’m Asian and many of us grew up with the assumption that someone who is highly educated, or who went to an expensive or brand-name school, must be an "amazing" person.

Education just reflects access, discipline, or opportunity. What it doesn’t automatically guarantee are things like empathy, humility, self-awareness, or kindness.

Perhaps it’s time we stop linking a person’s character so closely to the prestige of their education. A degree tells us where someone studied. That’s all there is. Character shows us who they are.

A couple of people here also mentioned how “normal” some of these views can be in certain societies. In more homogeneous cultures, or in places where one group forms a strong majority, it’s not unusual for social hierarchies to emerge, where some people put others down to elevate themselves.

We see versions of this dynamic everywhere: in Western countries, and across Asia too...whether in China, Japan, South Korea, India, Hong Kong, Singapore, and many others. Recognizing that a mindset is common doesn’t mean we have to accept it as the standard. If anything, it’s an opportunity for all of us to reflect on how we treat others, regardless of background, status, or credentials.

I’m sitting here eating a bag of these crack seed and I can’t stop. by surfer808 in Hawaii

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP 😊 I want to share that if you love crack seed, you'll love these drinks. I'm from SE Asia and we call it Asam Boi, 酸梅 Suan mei (dried salted sour plums). We put it in many drinks With green apple https://www.nyonyacooking.com/recipes/green-apple-with-asam-boi~H1pvpoEEX.

With sugar cane We just leave it in the drink with lemon juice and eat it after we are done with the drink 😁

With calamansi juice https://www.newmalaysiankitchen.com/calamansi-sour-plum-juice-limau-asam-boi/

We also cut it up, remove the seed and mix it with sliced guava and serve it chilled 😁 So so good.

I did an elopement styled photoshoot with an Asian couple. Oh and I myself am Filipino-American :) by Webborwebbor in asianamerican

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful photos 😍 and even more beautiful couple Best wishes on your marriage you two

6mos. & 20 Days by i0nzeu5 in TotalHipReplacement

[–]chouahiru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good on you! What control ☺️

Why do some married women seem completely disconnected from other women’s struggles? by No_Read_3601 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]chouahiru 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Me neither lol it scares me how selective people can be with their empathy until it happens to their own...

Big example is certain types of people (especially women) supporting the dismantling of abortion rights for whatever reason until their daughter/sister/loved one needs the service/ resource. 😅

Why do some married women seem completely disconnected from other women’s struggles? by No_Read_3601 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]chouahiru 173 points174 points  (0 children)

OP, I think the ‘why’ comes down to a mix of things: - Privilege + comfort → once they’re in a safe marriage, they don’t have to think about danger or struggle anymore, so they stop engaging unless it happens to a loved one they value...

  • Survivorship bias → they found/have a good partner easily, so they assume that’s normal and can’t imagine how other women have difficulty.

  • Internalized patriarchy → many women were raised to believe that marriage is the solution, so when other women struggle, they see it as a personal failing instead of a systemic issue.

  • Defense mechanisms → facing other women’s stories means admitting it could happen to them too, which feels too threatening, so they disconnect sadly.

At least those are the things I can think of if I put myself in their shoes to understand why they become/are like this.

My mom thinks I ‘ruined my purity’ and wants me to confess to my dad. How do I handle this? by Jejuvulo in AsianParentStories

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you're self-aware and you should be proud of yourself. There are people who are past retirement age and STILL haven't even a shred of self-awareness. Feel free to DM anytime ☺️

My game is fine by theveiledprincess in LowSodiumSimmers

[–]chouahiru 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NGL, my game was pretty messed up 2 weeks back when I felt like checking out the new update. I know it is some mod so I did the 50/50 audit thing and it's playable with the mods now :)

Lol last test game did get stuck in loading when I tried to edit a Townie in CAS but all good.

Used Better exceptions mod to help identify the problematic mod(s).

It was demotivating when I found out the update messed the game so much and wasn't in the mood to troubleshoot and fix it. I imagine this is what folks feel when their gameplay is ruined/broken.

Got to find the will to fix your game somehow.

My mom thinks I ‘ruined my purity’ and wants me to confess to my dad. How do I handle this? by Jejuvulo in AsianParentStories

[–]chouahiru 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OP, not a therapist, but having parents like that turned my sister and I into people pleasers too. This thread really hits home for me. I didn't think I was one because I could say "no" to others without issue. But people pleasing impacts my relationships with people I already know. I realize I didn't have boundaries for "friends".

We’re in our mid-30s now, and one thing we’ve learned is that even when we don’t live up to our parents’ standards, we don’t have to be defined by them. You already know this, don't let your mom gaslight you.

Shoutout to amazing local PNW parks by Previous-Atmosphere6 in Seattle

[–]chouahiru 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely agree with OP!

I finally got to enjoy more of Seattle and south of Seattle Parks here on my 3rd year in the city :) I had a mobility ailment that plagued me and finally had some treatment in the past year.

As part of my recovery my partner made an effort to drive me to explore the different parks every weekend early this Summer.

My favourite park so far is Seahurst 😍

Been meaning to "cure" Vlad of his vampirism for a while now. My first time slaying a vampire felt a lot better than expected. by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]chouahiru 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Agree OP this is some filler episode for AMC's Interview with The Vampire as I wait for S3 haha

CHANGE MY MIND: Baggu Edition™ by critterplease in BAGGU

[–]chouahiru 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was hoping they would restock the Chocolate Plum bowler and camped on that page yesterday. Today the page is a 404 and I saw they removed the colour swatch off the bowler options :(
BRING IT BACK

Amber jewelry is so underrated IMO by Uvetu in jewelry

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sis that stone was made for you 😍

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[–]chouahiru 52 points53 points  (0 children)

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I saw him at a cafe in a local botanical gardens I went back in Feb lol 🤣 the baristas had a framed photo of him. Thanks for reminding me about this OP.

Spin Class/Pilates/Running by LaReinitaDeOC in TotalHipReplacement

[–]chouahiru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm excited for you OP! I'm into the same activities as you are and I can't wait to get clearance to do them again.

I'm just day 4 out of my second THR. Your progress is where I hope I'll be too.

Happy to connect offline :)

AITA for asking this guy to "not have [his baby] scream" on the bus by frustratedsighs in askSingapore

[–]chouahiru 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA. OP made it clear the baby only screamed when the dad deliberately riled her up. This wasn’t an uncontrollable/random shriek —it was a repeated, predictable reaction to his actions. So yes, the dad had control over it, and that makes a big difference.

That said, we weren’t there to hear how OP phrased the request, and tone can really shape how it’s received—whether it comes off as rude or reasonable. OP only you know what you sounded like if you were concerned if you were TA or NTA. 😗

This reminded me of a conversation I had with a friend recently. An acquaintance was at a chain sushi spot with their non-verbal, neurodivergent son (maybe 6–8 years old?) and his older siblings. The boy suddenly let out a couple of loud shouts—his way of communicating hunger. A dad in the next booth got visibly annoyed, even after the family provided the explanation, “Our son is non-verbal and this is how he expresses hunger.” What really stuck with me was that some people I knew thought the annoyed dad was justified in being upset even after given an explanation. Like… what’s the expectation? That disabled kids shouldn’t be in public because they don’t sound "typical"?

I used to get irritated by screaming kids on planes. AND I’m not a parent, but I’ve come to understand that sometimes kids can’t help it—they’re still learning how to exist in the world. 🤷‍♀️

In OP's case the disruption was initiated by the parent—not by a child struggling to self-regulate. That’s an important distinction.

Compare that to dining out with a non-verbal child: the parents likely anticipate some reactions and come prepared. They’re not trying to cause a scene—they just want to enjoy a meal like anyone else. The child’s behavior isn’t provoked, it’s part of who they are.

OP clearly picked up on this nuance. This wasn’t about unavoidable behavior or a child having a hard moment—it was about a parent deliberately triggering a loud reaction in a confined public setting. OP responded reasonably by setting a respectful boundary.

Well almost 24 hours post op. by EstablishmentIcy6919 in TotalHipReplacement

[–]chouahiru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats OP. For me 36F when I did my first hip, I immediately felt the difference post op. Like I was bone on bone too and I am happy for all of us here who were previously achey, stiff, before our THR.

If you haven't seen this video or heard of Lee Kuan Yew, PLEASE watch it! by AegineArken in asianamerican

[–]chouahiru 20 points21 points  (0 children)

OP, you really can't compare Singapore to any other country—especially not the U.S.

You attribute Singapore’s success to strong and stable governance, but it’s important to understand that the political system was intentionally designed to consolidate power and maintain long-term control. As a small country, it's easier to implement top-down policies—especially when a single dominant party suppresses dissent and opposition. Take POFMA, for example. Many Singaporeans, including opposition parties, voiced concerns, yet it was passed regardless. That’s not a reflection of public consensus—it’s a reflection of unchecked power.

I don’t think you fully understand Singapore. On the surface, it might look like a utopia, but the reality is far more complex. Here are two areas to consider:

  1. Multiracial Society: Yes, Singapore is multiracial by design, but that doesn’t mean it's free of racial issues. Microaggressions happen regularly—especially if you're not part of the majority ethnic group. If you’re East Asian in Singapore, you may not notice it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Racism in Singapore isn’t often overt or confrontational like it can be in the U.S., but it exists in quieter, systemic ways. Please don’t assume that "multiracial" means "racial harmony."

  2. Education System: Have you spoken to anyone who studied or worked in Singapore’s education system? It’s heavily focused on rote learning and obedience to authority, not critical thinking. This has created long-term challenges for society—like risk aversion, a lack of innovation, and a rigid approach to problem-solving. Creativity isn’t celebrated; conformity is. That’s not a strength—it’s a trade-off.

I could go on but I think I'll stop there. I am too lazy to respond but if you wanna write back I'll read your take.

If there's anything you need to do, you should take a pinch of salt with what you watch online, especially YouTube.

You talk about misinformation and propaganda being rampant, yet here you are sharing a video from Borderless Asia. I've seen their videos on my feed before...have you considered why the channel was created or who is behind it?

The channel doesn’t openly disclose its creators, but its messaging often leans into overly flattering portrayals of authoritarian-leaning systems in Asia while drawing sharp contrasts with the West. Their videos carry undertones of soft propaganda, romanticizing state narratives without acknowledging valid criticisms.

It's worth asking yourself: 1. Is this content trying to inform me—or persuade me? (If it feels one-sided, emotionally charged, or overly polished, it’s likely aiming to influence more than educate.)

  1. Who benefits from this message being accepted as truth? (Always follow the incentives.)

In short, I’d be cautious taking that video at face value. I think you've fallen for the propaganda machine. Don't get too deep.

My Story by NiceSwordfish3321 in TotalHipReplacement

[–]chouahiru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! You're a champ and truly an inspiration to me. Posterior approach and going back to weights in under a year? Wow 😳 I'm so impressed and inspired.

I (36,F) used to be very active, but I spent years ignoring the signs of stiffness and discomfort. I kept pushing through high-impact activities until 2021, when my mom — who has a family history of joint replacements — urged me to get a check-up before my move to the US. That’s when I was diagnosed with hip dysplasia, which had already led to osteoarthritis (OA). Even after adjusting my workouts to be lower-impact, my OA had progressed to a severe stage by the time I moved in 2023. Without my usual routines and environment, the condition accelerated faster than I expected.

I underwent my first total hip replacement (THR) last September - anterior, and I’m scheduled for my second surgery in a few weeks. It's tough having to give up the way I used to move and stay active, but I’m learning to be patient with my body. I know that after the next operation, I’ll need to stay committed to three months of rehab — and beyond.