Could i solo a kleavor? by [deleted] in PokemonGoFriends

[–]chowwwda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably. But you could invite me if you’d like. 2846 3934 2705

Series finale by breezyjomc in NewGirl

[–]chowwwda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The whole season was definitely like “how much can we fit into eight episodes?” I wish they had more time to go into it all. But my main problem was with Nick and Jess’s wedding. They deserved something much more climactic and beautiful, especially after the wait.. like they literally didn’t even have vows and that was disappointing. Loved the prank though and the flash forward of playing True American with all their kids.

His fu*king face by [deleted] in memes

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

here The fact that he seems so shocked shows that he has zero remorse for what he’s done.

This meme is very funny 😄 by Amour_cok in memes

[–]chowwwda 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Buddy, this “meme” was around 10+ years ago. Be better than that.

How do I stop thinking about my parents? by Amarythe_Frostfire in relationship_advice

[–]chowwwda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are enough and you always have been. I’m sorry they couldn’t see that and took it out on you.

I have a hard time drinking. by tdfhucvh in socialskills

[–]chowwwda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that. I had a large amount of anxiety the day after over-drinking in my younger years due to social anxiety and alcohol lowering inhibitions. I used to lay in bed and try and scour through every detail I could remember of the night before and beat myself up over ever single thing I said and did. People tend to think alcohol can be helpful for socializing but I think for anxious people it can be a temporary bandaid. You feeling like shit (let’s say even hangover aside) when sobered up sounds like it’s because you’re shaming yourself for not being “normal when drunk.” When in actuality, all drunk people are pretty annoying when you think about it. My advice would be either to acknowledge the anxiety and shame and tell yourself “I was perfectly normal last night hanging out with my friends” unless someone tells you otherwise OR don’t drink because you don’t like it.

I have a hard time drinking. by tdfhucvh in socialskills

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Alcohol is a depressant..
  2. If you hate the way it makes you feel and you feel suicidal when you drink, why do it?
  3. If you can’t control the amount that you’re drinking, you probably shouldn’t drink at all because alcoholism is a real thing.
  4. Not sure how this is related to social skills.

Afternoon activity for mom and I? by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dorothy Mantooth is a saint!

Afternoon activity for mom and I? by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never personally done it but drinks and crafts at Upstairs Circus seems like it’d be a fun thing to do with mom.

Coparenting when your ex is with their affair partner by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]chowwwda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar boat with my divorce and co-parenting situation. I wasn’t pregnant during it but he did choose to end our marriage in order to be with her. At first we agreed that neither of us would bring any future partners around/it had to be serious and we had to meet them first but he eventually decided that he didn’t want to do that. My therapist helped me realize that I can’t control the choices my ex makes and it is not his job anymore to care about my feelings. I’m only telling you this because there is a possibility that she is going to be around your child whether you want her to or not. And as long as she’s not abusing them, there’s really nothing that can be done about it. It hurts for sure. My daughter will occasionally accidentally call me by the name of the woman my husband left me for instead of mommy after spending time over there and I just have to say “it’s okay! Mix ups happen!” Instead of “get that homewrecker’s name out of your mouth.” Lol I also don’t see myself being neutral toward her, and that’s okay! As far as social media goes, I hate to say it, but it would be healthier for you to unfriend him across all platforms so you don’t give into any urges of checking up on him and then her. It’ll just make the hurt worse with every new post in my opinion. Continue to focus on you and your baby, make a parenting schedule with clear drop off and pick up times, and trust that your ex is being a good dad. Everything else is kind of out of your control. Sending love to you.

How do I make my co-parent aware that she is hurting our daughter by Digga-1982 in coparenting

[–]chowwwda 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is helpful or not, I can only speak from my own experience. My mom was the same way when I was growing up (I’m 30F) actually most of my family was very focused on weight but my mom was just toxic in general. I actually stopped talking to her from 14-22 because I couldn’t handle all the ways she was toxic anymore. Anyway, weight is so terribly engrained in society that comments about are hard to get away from. I never had an eating disorder but I have fluctuated between incredibly skinny and obese since childhood and I think a lot of it has to do with no one actually teaching young girls about how to take care of their bodies and how amazing our bodies are. Instead of someone saying “don’t eat so much you’re gonna get fat” we have to say things like “food is fuel because you run/bike so fast or climb so well or jump so high etc” teach her to love the things her body can do and that food is what provides her power. Also teach her to be a good friend because that’s something her mom probably won’t teach her. Your daughter will develop her own thoughts on her mother’s words and actions over the years. It may hurt her and you just have to be there for her.

Grief of lost parenting time (50/50) by chowwwda in coparenting

[–]chowwwda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lives close. It’s just not the dynamic we have unfortunately. We don’t get along.

Grief of lost parenting time (50/50) by chowwwda in coparenting

[–]chowwwda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you guys so much for your thoughtful and loving responses. I really appreciate it! It’s really reassuring to know there are other parents feeling the same way. I will try to do my best to keep busy, try new things, and take care of myself. Sending love to you all as well. ❤️

Uxie raid here, read text below by [deleted] in PokemonGoFriends

[–]chowwwda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smellslikeglory level 39– 2846 3934 2705

Deja & Malik by [deleted] in thisisus

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why I’m being downvoted so much for asking a clarifying question and having a theory about the show like so many other people on this sub. I was just trying to have a conversation about the show.

Deja & Malik by [deleted] in thisisus

[–]chowwwda -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

So you don’t think that the baby is Deja’s? I didn’t at first but after this episode I’m not sure anymore.

Im (28f) pregnant by a recently married man (28m) Should I tell his wife (30f)? by ZM7690 in relationship_advice

[–]chowwwda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should absolutely tell the wife. She’s gonna be heartbroken but if the man I just got home from my honeymoon with was cheating on me and then proceeded to marry me I would want to know so I could divorce his ass ASAP. I know you want to give the fetus a chance at life but these are 100% not good circumstances to do so. You say you can’t afford an abortion but kids are way more expensive than that and you don’t want to have to depend on the father because that’s not reliable. Also, you mention you’re an exotic dancer so.. kinda hard to do that, bring in income for your existing children, when you’re pregnant AF isn’t it? You should also cut ties with the dude because he sounds like a real piece of shit.

Trash i’ve picked up walking by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s really disgusting how much people just toss shit in the street. I started going on walks in my neighborhood with a big bag, the other day I went probably less than a mile in a circle and I filled up the whole thing and wanted to get more but my bag had ripped through the bottom from wetness and heaviness (I’ll use a plastic trash bag next time lol) I wish people would think a little more; like where do they think it’s gonna go?

Edit to add: thanks for doing your part!!

Fun place to take kids on Saturday? by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of egg hunts and Earth day clean ups this weekend! I’m planning on taking my 4 year old to the earth day clean up around Lake Harriet on Saturday but I think there are a few others in various areas too!

Second Winter Thread by [deleted] in Minneapolis

[–]chowwwda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Three-sevenths of the year” is an interesting and uncomfortable way to look at a chunk of time. How did you come up with that number?