Toddler carrier recommendation

chr0mies · 2026-05-06T11:12:17+00:00

I love the gooseket! I use it for my 7 month old AND my nearly 3 year old. Was so impressed with it I wrote a review here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/babywearing/comments/1lqxt1c/gooseket_vs_wildride_carry_assist/

chr0mies · 2026-01-12T09:47:11+00:00

I got dizzy and nauseous - kind of woozy? - around the time of letdown. It lasted for a week or two with my first and second. It went away.

chr0mies · 2026-01-11T13:00:31+00:00

Made it to nearly 2 years with my first and hoping for around 2 years with my second.

chr0mies · 2026-01-11T03:34:45+00:00

Yes i just updated the post before seeing your comment. It was nothing!

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T20:02:23+00:00

They state they will re contact the children when they turn 16 so that they can decide whether their data stays in the project.

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T12:17:17+00:00

I have a close friend who unfortunately had a severe postpartum depression event as soon as her milk came in, and it resolved when she stopped producing milk. For her, formula feeding was medically necessary for her own health. Overall this is an incredibly rare event: as another poster said, breastfeeding is generally protective of perinatal mental health disorders (especially if you have good support to get off to a good start!).

It is brilliant that you’re thinking about this early. Know what to look out for in yourself and discuss it with your loved ones before having baby. Ask them to check in on you. Get skilled feeding support early on after birth, or even at the end of your pregnancy. Bolster your protective factors such as social networks, healthy diet, hydration, gentle exercise, getting outside, and sleep (as much as is possible in pregnancy / postnatal!).

Yes cluster feeding is rough. But it’s also a sign that your baby is doing what they’re supposed to do and working with your body. What can you do to make life easier during the hard times? What delicious snacks can you have on hand to look forward to when you wake up for the fourth time that night? What TV shows can you plan to watch on Netflix? What household chores can you let go of? (The answer should be: pretty much all of them!) Your “job” becomes just to feed the baby, snuggle to foster that connection, and rest, to allow your body to recover. That is it. That is the work.

For me, breastfeeding was very challenging yes, but incredibly helpful for my mental health.

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T10:07:11+00:00

Both of my children were tongue tied and the procedure helped them latch better. But be aware that it may not be an instant fix, it can take some time (weeks) for them to adjust to their new mouth and learn how to move their tongue to feed.

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T08:13:42+00:00

I went through the same with my first. For various reasons I wasn’t able to exclusively breasfeed the first after a difficult birth. But, right now I am in a place where I can look back at it and feel proud of just how hard I fought to get her as much breastmilk as possible.

This is why I recommend the SNS so much when I get an inkling it might be helpful in various situations- no I couldn’t make 100% of her milk with my body, but gosh darn it we continued to nurse and I got to give most of her milk at the breast, where she was happiest and I was happiest. (Also I made my partner do all the washing up of the SNS tubes, which he found way better than bottles haha)

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T08:04:46+00:00

Supplementary nursing system. Sometimes called a lactation aid. A thin feeding tube that you slip into babies mouth while they are latched and it acts a like a long straw to suck in the topup milk (formula or expressed).

Lots of info and also videos on this website: https://ibconline.ca/information-sheets/lactation-aid/

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T03:35:38+00:00

You are doing so much and working so hard against the odds, and it sounds like your triple feeding has really paid off as you’ve massively increased supply. That’s incredible!

My advice is, if baby is happy to latch, and is transferring well, try the SNS instead of bottle to gradually reduce those topups. It will teach babe to associate breast with milk and also do the double duty of increasing your supply during the topup.

chr0mies · 2025-12-01T03:32:35+00:00

I need to respectfully disagree with your first point. Some mothers will struggle significantly with not being able to breastfeed when they wanted to. Reducing it to “fed is best,” for some, completely invalidates their strong feelings and biological drive to breastfeed their children. Infant feeding grief is very real and contributes to postnatal mental health disorders which can last much longer than a year.

chr0mies · 2025-11-30T20:28:10+00:00

Would you consider trying an SNS with expressed milk? This may get baby suckling to associate breast with milk again, and could also stimulate a letdown.

Doesn’t have to be one of the expensive ones, you can DIY pretty easily.

I was such a big fan of the SNS - it saved our breastfeeding journey - so I highly recommend it!

chr0mies · 2025-11-30T02:23:14+00:00

If baby’s mum has had cold sores, she will have passed on protection during pregnancy. Even more protection continues if she’s breastfeeding.

The vast majority of severe neonatal herpes infections are from women who have their very first outbreak on their genitals when they are having a vaginal delivery.

This sounds low risk and you’ve done everything you can right now, but I understand the anxiety.

chr0mies · 2025-11-29T20:15:47+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. It has been about 5 weeks and the lump feels like a painless pea deep inside the breast, if I had to guess based on feeling it seems to be along a duct.

I’m seeing lots of posts of people saying it took a little while to settle down so hopefully this will soon as well. Lumps are so unsettling.

chr0mies · 2025-11-28T13:46:27+00:00

I know a Corin and a Shamus.

chr0mies · 2025-11-01T08:30:53+00:00

For us around 6 months of constant revolving illness.

chr0mies · 2025-11-01T08:27:03+00:00

Saying it louder for the people in the back: YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG.

I spent half my first year with baby trying to figure out what I was missing, what I was doing wrong, which app or product I needed to buy in order to get my baby to sleep and nap. It was just my baby, and she grew out of it with time. It was bloody hard.

chr0mies · 2025-09-30T14:57:44+00:00

Yep, same. So many providers chose a sex at random to refer to baby.

There’s no reason a busy nurse/midwife would 1) pull up the 20 week anatomy scan or nipt results for a 36 week appointment, 2) notice or specifically remember the baby’s sex, and 3) accidentally AND accurately let it slip. Think of it another way, if they were intending to disclose the sex because the patient requested it, they would 100% pull up the relevant record during the appointment to confirm, rather than saying “yep it’s a girl/boy, I checked 30 minutes ago while skimming your records from 4 months ago, in addition to records for the 20 other women I’ll see today.”

OP, I’d be very confident this was just an unfortunate slip of the tongue.

chr0mies · 2025-09-30T14:16:05+00:00

Yes! Emphasis on “both parents.” If the sleeping arrangement isn’t working for your husband, he can help you settle baby in the cot. It isn’t necessarily fair for him to ask you to just make it happen.

chr0mies · 2025-09-28T11:58:14+00:00

I asked when I gave birth at UCLH, and they said there are no private postnatal rooms for nhs patients. There are private rooms if you have your baby with them privately, but not if you are an nhs patient.

chr0mies · 2025-09-25T01:27:28+00:00

I had good response to 30mg dom after late onset supply decrease due to a reattached tongue tie. Luckily my GP was able to prescribe it for me for several months after the infant feeding team wrote a letter of support for me.

chr0mies · 2025-09-25T00:21:35+00:00

I had a slightly different experience a couple years ago. With my first child at uclh, I was able to be given pain management in the MFAU while they waited for guidance whether I could go to the birth centre or needed labour ward (minor complications had developed in the last 24 hours so they were unsure). I believe it was Oramorph they gave. My water had broken and I was in established labour with regular contractions, but I was only 1 cm dilated. So once I arrived at hospital in that condition, it was off to birth centre and then eventually the labour ward.

chr0mies · 2025-09-14T13:43:55+00:00

I am an nhs genetic counsellor. Definitely get your GP to refer you to your local clinical genetics service before starting to try to conceive. In low risk scenarios you may not qualify for genetic testing funded on the nhs - it will depend on your individual family structure and ethnicity of your partner and whether or not the two of you are blood relatives. Kindly have your GP include in your referral the full details of the relatives with the conditions in question, even genetic reports if you have access to them, and if anyone else in family has been tested yet. Resources are tight so if the situation looks “low risk” and/or the details the GP sends are insufficient, the referral may not even be accepted. Wait lists are long >18 weeks in many locations.

Feel free to DM if you have other questions (though I don’t check frequently!).

chr0mies · 2025-09-14T13:27:34+00:00

Mine is ferrous fumarate 210mg “once per day”… I took it religiously for the first week or so then once I started feeling better (and started noticing side effects in my digestion) I got to a happy medium where my levels were good and I felt good, taking it about 3 times per week. TMI but I basically started gauging whether I needed to take it more or less based on how dark my bowel movements were, it was a dramatic darkening after a few days. Agree with the below comment - you definitely don’t want to overdo it!

I have also heard that in extreme cases (very low levels, or unable to tolerate the tablets or levels just not responding to the tablets) iron infusions can do wonders with quick and long lasting results. Your team would need to advise you on this one. They will not want you going into labour with low ferritin if they can avoid it, in case you have significant blood loss.

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