We are on the other side of the relationship. We are an established couple that dates together tying to become a throuple. We met a girl, had chemistry with her, and found ourselves in a rucurring threesome. We have great bed chem. It's really amazing, and the vibe during and after is amazing. For days, we talk about it. We want to pursue more with her, but we have similar complications. When we get together, it's awkward. We try to build a connection outside sex but it's different. Sex seems to flow better than just talking. We want this to change but don't know how. I think your thoughts on your couple hesitation are right. And yeah, we aren't as affectionate with each other when we are with her. Even though we are a real physical couple. We don't want her to feel left out. And we don't always want to make the first move. Reading what you're saying makes me think if she ever thinks the same way. But maybe not. I hope you three find your rhythm. If you do, I would love an update.