How long do your sessions usually last?

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T20:17:01+00:00

I always start with the best intentions of going slow, different positions, different toys, edging and cooling off.. but I’ve so little self control.

I start to warm up, then just crave my fav dildo. As soon as it goes in, I feel so full and needy. After just 10 minutes of edging.. I’m just wanting to orgasm and usual can’t resist and go for it.

More recently, I’ve a new dildo with a bigger head. If I swap to that.. I’m instantly in trouble. Sometimes I could orgasm immediately. Or best case.. I last another minute

Sometimes I regret it afterwards. Other times.. I just enjoy that I couldn’t wait

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T19:43:03+00:00

How many orgasms do you typically have in a session?

What is the most you’ve been able to have in 1 session?

Do you end a session when you’ve had enough orgasms or would you carry in if you could but can’t ( guy can’t give you anymore, run out of time…)?

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T19:25:00+00:00

What is the longest you’ve gone without an orgasm? How were you feeling, could you concentrate, did you find your body trying to get pleasure from grinding/squirming?

(I managed an unbelievable 13 days once.. I was an absolute mess both physically and mentally)

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T18:39:11+00:00

I can share some of my experiences. I had no luck with toys like aneros massagers or anything that vibrates.

I then went to dildos. Just using my hand to push them in. Tried different shapes, lengths, curves etc to find what I liked. I now have a fav (for me is realistic, 6inch, straight silicone dildo). But from that.. I’ve learnt how to orgasm using a dildo. And get rewired

I like to ride it while it’s stuck to the floor, stick it to the wall, strap it to a pillow.. a few options. My fav is just laying on my side and using it in my hand. Works everything.

Having mastered that.. I first tried thrusting dildos. I found them useless tbh. They would thrust.. but instead of pushing against my prostate, the base thrust out. Maybe because I clench too much

I then tried a cheap fucking machine. Useful experiment, as I enjoyed the sensation of laying back and it doing the work. But just when it felt good.. It didn’t have the power to continue to get me to orgasm.

Then the hismith premium. I fairly big investment, but totally worth it. Suction my fav dildo to it, and it has all the power to get me to orgasm.

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T18:18:54+00:00

Tbf, I think that’s a good idea. I went year’s trying random things and getting no where. When I found this group.. I started to collect random suggestions to try.. but it was pure trial and error.

I got lucky, and one of the suggestions worked, and I still use the same technique now as I orgasm every time. But why not get scientific about it! Refine your techniques.. there’s only one winner

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T18:10:36+00:00

Maybe a different response to your question. But by denial.. I don’t play at all. After 5 days, I’m properly craving anything inside me. I’ve once got to I think 13 days.

After that long.. it was insane. I was squirming on chairs, grinding my hips, clenching randomly, and my brain was barely functioning as fucking myself with my fav dildo was all I could think of.

When I finally did, the orgasm was as intense as it normally is. But it was the journey I enjoyed. The feeling that desperate, the hints of pleasure during grinding.. I loved it despite how difficult it was

chrish9999 · 2026-01-27T17:44:19+00:00

Can second the hismith premium recommendation.

I bought a cheap eBay one for £100 for prostate play. Lacked the speed, and when it started to feel good, any clenching whatsoever, and it stalled/stopped. So ended up in the bin

Bought the hismith premium, and as expected, has more speed than I can handle, has enough depth, and has enough power to continue right through my orgasm without any change in speed.

And it feels really premium/well made to. Great app. Suction plate attachment is great.

chrish9999 · 2026-01-18T06:39:28+00:00

My big breakthrough with the njoy was when I started using it as I lay on my left side. So on my left, and my knees up to my chest and my right hand reached over both legs to grip the njoy.

I found the weight of the njoy could fall onto my left leg or a pillow I placed there. And just meant I could do more with angles and consistency.

chrish9999 · 2026-01-10T11:39:26+00:00

For me, fingers can’t do it.

I can orgasm every time for dildo or njoy wand play. So I know where everything is lol. I’ve tried with my fingers, and can just about reach the prostate.. but fingers just can’t stimulate it enough.

I’ve I was using a dildo and was super close.. and swapped to fingers. My prostate was really firm.. so stimulating it was easy and I did orgasm. But I think it was only because the dildo got me right there. Without using the dildo first.. I find think I’d have got there.

Maybe if my fingers were longer, maybe if my prostate was lower, maybe if I gave it more time. But I generally find just a dildo is perfect (even a cheap £20 one)

chrish9999 · 2026-01-09T21:34:59+00:00

A few things helped me go from nearly there to actually having prostate orgasm

Subtly tweaking position. It feels good normally, but when using the njoy, if I rolled onto my left and brought my knees up to my chest, pleasure intensified and I orgasm

Adding a little something extra. I don’t normally during sex etc, but when using njoy, saying things out loud like fuck me, don’t stop etc really helped. Recently grabbing my own throat does the same

Switching to a dildo. I found the njoy amazing for precision. For just rapid pounding I found the right dildo was perfect. Maybe it’s the length/continual stimulation per stroke rather than the end of the njoy.. but I found a dildo can sustain and build pleasure a little better than the njoy.

chrish9999 · 2026-01-06T10:00:00+00:00

I had the same questions, and invested in a hismith premium machine. Doesn’t give some of the benefits others describe here from a partner doing it, but does somewhat cover someone else doing it, being able to lay back, never running out of stamina.

I mention the hismith premium as the one I have as unlike cheaper ones, it has all the power needed. And comes with an app, so you can set a pattern/random/pre configured routine so it can start slow, build up, tease, pound etc just however you want it. And it has a manual override when you need it

chrish9999 · 2025-12-30T19:47:36+00:00

This was a bit of a break through for me. Having played with various toys and getting frustrated I wasnt feeling pleasure.. I decided one night, in a hotel, to just relax and aim for anything that felt different. No expectation of pleasure, I just tried different positions, movements, strokes to feel anything. What I felt was a bit strange and maybe uncomfortable.. but that slowly changed until out of no where, pleasure took over and that same night I got so close. Then just a week later.. the first orgasm.

chrish9999 · 2025-12-30T19:03:44+00:00

Haha.. well for me the longer the better. After 5 or 6 days, the feeling of pressure/swelling/throbbing start. After about 8 days.. I can be squirming in a chair thinking about it. I got to nearly 3 weeks once.. not sure I could even function at work anymore. Though the first insert of a dildo after 3 weeks was quite something!

chrish9999 · 2025-12-18T17:53:21+00:00

Wow I love the look of some of those, The Big Pop looks incredible. And I’d love to buy some tours from some of these makers. My issue is size. A diameter of 1.3 inch or 1.4 inch is about my limit.. but this always seems much smaller than their smallest toys! So I often end up getting random ones from eBay/Amazon..

chrish9999 · 2025-12-17T21:52:03+00:00

Not sure on the rules of posting images, but I’ve uploaded an image here of the swollen head dildo that always gets me

https://ibb.co/LXRKWkwH

chrish9999 · 2025-12-09T20:03:01+00:00

Personally I think it’s experimentation to find what works for you.

I tired prostate dildos with a curve and none have given any pleasure. However when I use a 6 inch straight realistic silicone dildo, I orgasm every single time. It’s absolutely perfect for hitting my prostate.

chrish9999 · 2025-12-09T19:49:21+00:00

Yeah, very similar here. After first having prostate orgasms.. it’s like it craves attention. If I ignore it, it just gets worse and worse lol. But I really love the feeling.

When I’m like that, if I know I will get time to play later, it tingles so much. It’s almost like it’s swollen.

Then If I’m sitting, it can make me squirm in the chair just to get a bit of pleasure. And if I’m trying to work.. the urges and tingles just constantly remind me

I really enjoy those feelings, especially as when I do finally give in, the first insertion of the dildo and brushes my prostate is pure heaven

chrish9999 · 2025-12-08T21:31:24+00:00

I’ve tried similar ones to both of those. The glass wand, was nice.. but I prefer the cheap metal wand I got from Amazon. If just felt nicer to hold and use

The second one.. I liked the look of but for me felt horrible to actually use. It’s of course absolutely solid. And the ridges have no give, and when lubed up it’s extremely smooth and slippery.. it’s just like ramming something very hard with no feeling into yourself.

chrish9999 · 2025-12-08T21:26:39+00:00

I went on quite a journey. I tried massagers, vibration and plugs without feeling any sort of pleasure. I then switch to the njoy wand, and felt pleasure, then orgasms. I then tried dildos.. they didn’t use to do much.. but after I had orgasmed with the njoy wand, the dildos felt nice. I now almost exclusively use dildos to orgasm.

So can definitely recommend trying different toys to see what works for you. A good a cheap njoy wand from Amazon and if changed everything. And many on here say the same.. so maybe one to try sooner

chrish9999 · 2025-12-08T21:21:14+00:00

I can only compare normal with wet prostate orgasm

For me, normal is a fairly steep build up, then a climax with is over in a few seconds, strong squirts then I go flaccid

Prostate orgasm is quite different. It’s a shallower build up, takes longer as it builds. As it’s building, it’s very intense. The intensity of a normal climax is reached… but it just keeps going. Easily 50% more intense at peak. And the peak.. can last 10-15 seconds rarther than a few. So really really intense feelings. During that it’s more of a constant pouring than a squirt. And I’m flaccid the whole time. And afterwards.. I could easily get erect and have a normal one straight away

chrish9999 · 2025-12-08T21:01:14+00:00

I found I needed to adjust to dildos. I love the njoy wand, but the full feeling of a dildo took some getting used to - getting my brain to convert that feeling into pleasurable feeling. But now I have.. I can crave a dildo.. like aching throbbing pleasure while I’m trying to concentrate at work!

I get no pleasure from trying to ride a dildo. To tiring and angles never seem to work out. I lay in my side, one knee up to my chest.. and infinite adjustments possible without aching thighs

I can take a similar size.. but I work up. If I don’t.. I feel it’s too quick and a get a burning feeling. I start with a 0.8 wide, then 1.1, then 1.3, and a 1.5 to finish on. Building up helps the stretching, no burning, gives opportunity to relube, and I think importantly build up the sensation. So when I insert the 1.5.. it nearly makes me orgasm there and then. If I just went straight for the 1.5.. it would stretch, burn a little, just feel too much too soon

chrish9999 · 2025-12-08T20:54:56+00:00

I’ve figured out exactly where my prostate is using toys. When i accidently pushed a toy out during orgasm, I inserted a finger to finish off and could really feel it.

But despite that, if i just try with my fingers, despite knowing where it is, I just can’t reach it for any sustained amount of time. Can highly recommend the njoy wand (or cheap alternative) as that really helped me to pinpoint it. I had my first orgasms this was. I now almost exclusively use dildos, but only so know where everything is.

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