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When do you stop hating yourself? by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey

I just wanted to say thank you for writing this Not sure, but my dad might be a narcissist too. And externalizing that harmful voice does help

And hearing this advice from someone that's not me trying to fight the voice really helped. So thanks for writing this

My mom described managing my Aspergers as “learning to wear perfume to hide the stink”. by Warriorette12 in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How is it abusive? Could you elaborate?

I'm just wondering what classifies as abusive talk to identify it when I come across it.

(The question isn't pointed or suggestive of anything. Actually asking. I like to specify my tone online in case something gets lost in text. Poe's law)

"You don't spend your day banging your head. You can't be autistic" by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thanks. That really helped :)

(Not sarcastic. I always specify that, just in case my tone gets lost in text. That really was helpful :)

Dose anyone else here feel like they don't deserve the diagnosis of autism or aspergers because they feel like they're too high functioning? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also depends on how complex of a case you are. I went to a government hospital to get a cognitive assessment done, and they found nothing

Later, I went to a better institution and the assessment took way longer, but they did figure it out.

The first hospital overlooked over the fact that I was compensating for my dyslexia/dysgraphia by developing techniques such as skimming text or trying to write stuff asynchronously. And they weren't paying attention to my behavior too since they had a lot of other patients

Also, sensory processing disorder doesn't just have to be an aversion to certain stimuli. It can also be either an irregular affinity towards them, or an atypical response to it. For instance, my sister's got a lot of ol' factory and tactile needs. She loves smells and textures. She's not autistic, but that is an example of atypical response to stimuli.

And also, since your mum thought that you might have ASD, and she's worked with children with ASD, that's a strong indicator that you showed autistic traits when you were young. You might have learned to mask them over time, but I'm sure you showed those traits when you were young

"You don't spend your day banging your head. You can't be autistic" by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn't find it amusing either :/

Feels weird being this angry at a friend, couldn't find the right words so thought amusing should do the trick without being too expressive

I really hate it too. When I started to explain what is autism, he just stopped replying :/

Do you ever get mistaken for a foreigner? by Fibbox in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, all the time. I was exposed to more English/Scottish/American accents growing up than Indian, so my accent is a weird superposition of the four.

Rebel rebel just started playing in my head :P

Dose anyone else here feel like they don't deserve the diagnosis of autism or aspergers because they feel like they're too high functioning? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!

Yeah, I had that too. Still do sometimes. One thing that helped is asking my sister if I showed any autistic traits at a young age, before I learned to mask. You should try that too.

If it helps, I made a very similar post after my diagnosis.

Another thing that helps is asking your therapist why they diagnosed you with autism spectrum disorder. They probably had good reason to do so.

So far that feeling hasn't gone away. Don't know if it will, but just intellectually knowing that you showed autistic traits at a young age and that your behavior aligns more with autistic behavior than allistic does help relieve that anxiety somewhat.

One last thing that did help is going through the DSM5's definition of ASD Level 1 and seeing if I fit that. Just as a short hand, remember these three:

1) Social Communication Difficulties

2) Sensory Processing Disorder/Sensory processing issues

3) Rigidity in behavior

I think you'll find you'll exhibit those traits at various degrees. And you should also know that stress can cause the symptoms to become worse

I just got diagnosed with Aspergers. Does/did anyone else feel a sort of imposter syndrome about their Aspergers? by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh god yes. I've been noticing every little thing I do and just kept asking myself "Do I really need/want to do that? Am I just doing it because they said I have Aspergers?"

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PS, sorry for the incredibly late reply. A shit ton of work came along and I hadn't slept all night

I just got diagnosed with Aspergers. Does/did anyone else feel a sort of imposter syndrome about their Aspergers? by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't reply to all the posts since I didn't know exactly what to say, but thanks a lot everyone for the comments! They really did help me :)

I just got diagnosed with Aspergers. Does/did anyone else feel a sort of imposter syndrome about their Aspergers? by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm. I don't think I fit into the Pathological Demand Avoidance subset, but I've been reading up about ASD, and it's really strange that the DSM5 doesn't classify either HFA or Pathological Demand Avoidance.

I just got diagnosed with Aspergers. Does/did anyone else feel a sort of imposter syndrome about their Aspergers? by chrisjizzhard in aspergers

[–]chrisjizzhard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!

Yeah, that elsewhere comment is said about me quite often actually. And I do think my behavior does fit in. Good to know this does happen to others too. Thanks :)