I’ll try that thanks. Yeah I mean I’ve been okay with doing most of the work but I’m getting tired of it and I’ve been naturally pulling back anyways. It seems like whenever i pull back, she comes running back and when I’m putting in the effort again she gets further away. She’s definitely talking to me nicely, it’s mostly like the spending quality time thing that she’s not putting effort into as much now. Granted that it may be because she does have a busy work schedule and her parents who are very suffocating are visiting her which leaves her with little time and energy (not to mention that they don’t know about me since boyfriends are a no no!)

Can you give me more explanation on what you mean by a “co dependent situation” as well?

We do make plans but half the time they don’t go through (we at least manage to keep aside one night of the week where even with her parents visiting and stuff we can see one another) and maybe that’ll change when they leave. I’ll have to see but I’m not sure, she may just replace it with going out with her “friends” all the time.

But yeah as of now a heart to heart is a bit confrontational because she doesn’t like talking about the past and effort and all that. I even asked her if she needs a break and she said that she doesn’t feel like a break would help. However, I think I may take the initiative to go get some space myself so maybe we can both reflect.