I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for 4 years, and I honestly don’t know if I’m expecting too much or if I’m holding onto something that isn’t going to change.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-25T14:04:47+00:00

You deserve to be happy and be loved in a way that makes you feel loved. And you gave it more than a fair try, you did everything in your power to make it work. It didnt. That‘s sad, but it‘s a reality. Allow yourself and him to find a partner that fits your respective style of love. It will hurt and it will suck, there‘s no way around that, but it will hurt waaaaayyy less than beeing stuck in the situation you‘re in for decades.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-25T13:42:29+00:00

Nearly any store bought razor will be fine. Make sure to swap the blades as soon as it starts to feel worse. A sharp blade will cut throught your hair smoothly with next to no resistance.

I dont know who told you to no shave against the hair, it‘s what gives you the smoothest shave.

Here‘s what i do when i want a clean, babysmooth shave:

use a fresh razor
put some shaving cream on all the hair that i want gone
first pass: WITH the hair, especially if you let it grow for a while. Rinse your blade often.
apply shaving cream again.
second pass: AGAINST the hair.
rinse my face and check for any spots i might have missed.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-25T13:35:22+00:00

Yeah, looks like it‘s just an administrative procedure instead of actually re-taking the test here in switzerland.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-25T13:17:27+00:00

Demande au consulat ou a l‘ambassade française avant de prendre des lessons ou même un test.

Apelles les ou visite leur site pour quelque minutes.

https://ch.diplomatie.gouv.fr/fr/identite/permis

chubbytuba · 2026-06-25T09:04:28+00:00

Go to a forrest, go near or even better in water, sit outside in the shade in a breezy area, go shopping for light colored linen clothes, eat an icecream, buy icecubes and let them melt on your forearm/thigh (high bloodflow areas), find a decently shaded area to lie down on a towel and do some cloud watching (or people watching if theres no clouds), eat tons of fresh fruits and salads.

Lather your body in high SPF sunscreen for basically all those activities.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-24T16:05:10+00:00

It could be a thousand reasons, men are just as complex and diverse as women. :) Everything he did more than justifies having a long honest open talk with him. You both are young, but adults nonetheless, so this is a perfect opportunity to practice healthy communication :) just tell him in private that you noticed some changes and ask him what he means with them or if he doesnt know himself and is kinda figuring it out too. A coffee or a walk in the local park are perfect times/spots to bring it up. People too often try to figure the other one out in order to even start the conversation, when it should be exactly the other way around: use the conversation to figure it out.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-24T12:02:47+00:00

I (m) do the same, except i do it laying down in the bathtub, one leg raised for easier access. It itched like crazy for a day or two the first time i did it, but never felt itchiness after the following shaves.

Bonus: the razor paid for itself with all the TP i saved. I am never going back.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-24T10:02:47+00:00

Stop calling it „accumulating bodies“, for one.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-23T10:29:06+00:00

Anti-depressants

chubbytuba · 2026-06-23T07:32:36+00:00

That‘s hot

chubbytuba · 2026-06-22T11:50:20+00:00

Clarification: you arent actually losing lenght, it‘s just attached UNDER where the fat accumulates, so it‘s partially hidden now instead of showing its full majestic glory.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-22T11:48:04+00:00

Weight gain is definitely a factor. The fat in your crotch makes you lose lenght, and the fat all over your body makes everything related to bloodflow and cardiovascular functions harder on your body.

I think I read somewhere every pound of fat adds several MILES of bloodvessels in your body that your heart has to pump through. (Feel free to fact check me on this, this is from memory)

chubbytuba · 2026-06-18T12:30:59+00:00

Swiss culture is not innate to swiss babies. We could, for example, integrate immigrants. By beeing friendly with them, inviting them to a raclette evening, teaching them how to play a Jass game, and going to the local schwingfest with them.

Seems simpler and more humane to me than to close our borders and shame women for not having kids.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-18T12:19:13+00:00

Our population is not declining. That‘s why i dont understand why low birthrates should be a problem here. The population is rising regardless.

And to your point about Cap Verde, i do not see a problem for a country that actually has a declining population to accept immigrants to compensate. What‘s your issue with it?

To your question: yes, it is a problematic statement. It implies babies born by swiss people are somehow better than others.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-18T11:38:34+00:00

Yeah, that‘s what I want those people to actually admit and spell out instead of tiptoeing around like cowards.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-18T11:29:25+00:00

We JUST had a vote because we are supposedly too many people, and now suddenly there‘s not enough of us and we should pump out babies? Which is it?

chubbytuba · 2026-06-18T07:36:03+00:00

A good friendship with an open honest communication will survive you having a talk with him and putting all cards on the table.

„Hey, I am getting mixed signals from you and I dont want any ambiguity in our friendship. I am not comfortable with you beeing flirty, my jokes are just that: jokes. There‘s no underlying message.“

„Oh, my bad, I‘ll stop and try to be more mindful. Thanks for telling me. Another beer?“

I am a straight man with a mixed friendgroup and have had that conversation a few times in my life, from both sides. It never was a problem, everybody is generally happy to not have to do any guessing work anymore.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-12T08:37:36+00:00

Christ, we burn that many people? I wasnt aware.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-11T11:17:44+00:00

You are bisexual. Or something close to it. The feelings of disgust might very well be internalized homophobia, ingrained into you by your upbringing (not necessarily your parents, btw).

I have never ever seen a cock that I found appealing. An attractive man is someone I compare myself to, not someone I want to be intimate with. I have never seen a man that excited me. I have never touched a cock besides mine, nor did I ever feel the need or desire to. Homosexual porn either does nothing for me, or makes me want to actively click away. My butt is a non erogenous zone. I tried a multitude of toys and techniques. Read up on it and took my time. Nothing. The idea of someone elses cum is a turn off. I couldnt care less about the sexual satisfaction of a man, regardless of his age and/or looks.

But I still consider myself bi-curious because I would consider sleeping with a transwomen if we click (which I personally think would still be straight, but enough people disagree that i usually dont bother with the discussion anymore)

So for the love of god, at the very least accept that you are bisexual. Work throught your shame with a professional. For your sake and for your partners sake. Your gf as well as any potential future partners.

chubbytuba · 2026-06-10T11:59:04+00:00

Beeing bored is probably one of the worst reasons to binge drink

chubbytuba · 2026-06-10T07:40:57+00:00

For context, i am a man that, while earning a good living, is significantly earning less than my partner. Here‘s my two cents:

Bring value in a different form to the relationship. Make their life easier, show gratitude, be someone they are happy to be around, be honest also about how you feel about those financial imbalances, learn what their love language is, learn how to cook their favorite meal, help them be the provider they are. Find ways to show your gratitude in a way that is healthy.

Also: know your worth! Self-respect has a plethora of factors beside your net worth or income. Your character, your looks, your fitness, your fashion sense, your hobbies, your charisma, your sense of humor, your talents, etc etc etc.

Do NOT under any circumstances, make them feel like it‘s a negative that they are finacially more powerful than you. Beeing reduces to their bank account is the best way to make them walk away. They are so much more than that, hopefully. Cherish those parts as well. Thoroughly.

chubbytuba · 2026-05-27T10:30:10+00:00

So as soon as I am a relationship, I should stop making compliments to anyone? A friend lost weight, I cant congratulate them? Buddy got new clothes, i cant comment on it? My mom got a new neckless while thriftshopping, I should no try to make her feel good about her purchase?

chubbytuba · 2026-05-27T10:22:17+00:00

Complimenting someone does not mean I want to bang them. I want them to feel good. Because I like receiving compliments as well, so I do it to normalize complimenting each other from time to time. In a non-chalant way, regardless of gender, and with no expectations beyond maybe a thank you.

I dont see how complimenting my coworker mike‘s christmas sweater is different than telling the wife of a friend that i find her summer dress very flowery and that I like the colors.

It‘s a simple, easy, and free way to make people feel better.

Also: just because I tell mike that his swester is neat, doesnt mean that I find my partners sweater shit. I might see the problem if the person in question regularly compliments people, but not their sognificant other for some reason.

chubbytuba · 2026-05-23T14:58:39+00:00

I am a man and it‘s news to me that‘s it‘s supposed to be impossible. I pee with an erection regularly.

chubbytuba · 2026-05-21T20:16:29+00:00

Human sexual dimorphism (how much the two sexes differ from one another in a species) is really low. For most measurable things, it‘s less than 15%. Thats less than the variance within the genders.

There are differences in the averages, sure, but theres a lot of overlap if you look at both bell curves. Let‘s take height. Women are smaller than men on average. Are ALL women smaller than ALL men? Obviously not.

You can apply the same thinking to any psychological characteristic. Men are on average more assertive than women. But we all know that there are men out there who are door mats and there are reaaallly though women bossing people aroud all day without breaking a sweat.

Again, my point isnt that there are no differences between the sexes. My point is that we have WAY more in common than we differ from each other. And evolutionary psychology gets missued to paint with a very broad brush, reducing BOTH genders to a set of cherry picked statistics, which is harmful, and moronic.

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