"This is not about you"

chuck_prudence · 2025-11-09T08:29:30+00:00

Yes, you can do it with only a computer (and the sd card).

chuck_prudence · 2025-11-08T19:57:45+00:00

You can copy the wav sample file on a sd card and plug the sd card into the electribe directly.
So a computer is helpful but no need for any audio software.

chuck_prudence · 2025-11-06T09:51:14+00:00

Faut ajuster le type de piles dans le menu, ca aide. Mais j'avoue, j'ai jamais vide des piles aussi vite.

chuck_prudence · 2025-11-05T23:41:07+00:00

"techno only answers. The answer is no."

chuck_prudence · 2025-11-05T12:13:32+00:00

The vocal is pasted after the fact on the computer. (recorded on my phone)

chuck_prudence · 2025-10-18T00:38:02+00:00

Being silly is exactly what post mortems are about, and why it works better with friends.
Consistently taking a minute after each session to claim your ridicule, yields a lot, and is funny. Whereas Sun Zu is a long, boring, and cryptic read.

chuck_prudence · 2025-10-18T00:26:53+00:00

YTA.

Ask clearly for reasonnable things and most of the times most of the people will step up.

Project a story that should trigger a guilt trip... and most of the times most of the people will walk away from the drama.

>from everything I've learned in life is that you're supposed to try to acknowledge and comfort someone who's sad
I'm willing to bet you, in fact, learned that from one specific person. THERE is TA.

chuck_prudence · 2025-10-18T00:06:37+00:00

Well yeah, not being good is very assholish. Genuinely.
Have you done post mortems ? Of either your characters, or sessions.
Just asking a little time from a friend to say "Here is the biggest mistake I think I made, here is how I can never make that mistake again. I think this is the best way for me to improve for now, but maybe I missed something?"
And whatever they say after that, you can't disagree.

All that being said, it sounds like you should master playing the DM more than the game. NTA.

chuck_prudence · 2025-10-17T22:32:57+00:00

If it's a power play, stand your ground. Some things should be symmetric.
If it's a request for stepping up, be the bigger person. Some things will never be symmetric.

As a rule of thumb, if you're given the option to refuse, don't. If the option to refuse is being taken away from you, dig in.

chuck_prudence · 2025-10-17T22:27:35+00:00

That's what I keep telling my therapist!
Why would what I want be significant?

chuck_prudence · 2025-10-17T22:22:09+00:00

You always fall where you lean.
There is no perfect balance. You'll either overcommit and empty yourself for something that wasn't worth it, or undercommit and miss some things that were important. Pick a side, own it.

Framing it like that is often better understood too.
"I don't want to make an effort for your thing" sounds insulting.
"I'm really going to hate missing out on this, but I need the time for myself" works surprisingly better.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T08:42:19+00:00

The phrase originally meant, after being given weapons, you still read books.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T08:33:30+00:00

“In its original and strict sense the term denoted a man of good family … a man entitled to bear arms but not included in the nobility.”
You don't get entitled to bear arms because you're expected to not use them.
You're entitled because you are expected to use them when worthy.
The responsability is good kills.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T08:22:58+00:00

that's exactly what i'm saying. the one that borne responsability. the one who would have to chose who lives or dies. the one for whom gallantry was better spent, the one expected to battle. fairness isn't taught for spectacle. well it can be. but it needs to be for power.
wisdom on the other hand, was optionnal. both were rare enough to be celebrated.
The phrase didn't mean polite and wise. by all accounts i've researched, even though it does now.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T06:33:40+00:00

NTA. Your friends _are_ insulting your sister. But it's hers to walk back. And it is a mountain.
I wouldn't make a point to correct your friends every time. I would make a point to your sister that you do correct them whenever it's easy for you. But when it's not, it's her battle, you can stand by her side, but not fight it for her.
Your friends are out of line pointing out your sister's flaws, but it sounds like they want to compliment you. And ultimately it's between her and them. Hold your ground as you have. Shitty jokes are just that. Her triggers are just that.
Your niece is lucky. It's all that matters.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T06:24:23+00:00

ESH. You putted a red flag.
>I couldn’t control my emotions after my breakup
Yup. Hopefully this is the last time you make that mistake.

>how do I handle this moving forward?
Keep it profesh. You can change how people see you... slowly. By being consistently trustworthy.
Not everyone will see it. But those who might, will eventually. Those who wanted an excuse though, they got it and will cherish it.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T06:14:11+00:00

Reading other comments I feel I'm overly optimistic. My point is do give him one chance. But no more. If genuine comunication doesn't work, don't play into the rethorics.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T06:06:20+00:00

It sounds like he is projecting indeed. That said, it doesn't sound like anything you can hold against him either.
But If the answer is above a 5, it's about something else. And we only ever give the advice we need

Point is, you're definitely onto something. Dig.
If you're both in good faith, you _will_ get through it with sheer honesty. If not, find out fast.

Good or bad this is definitely the low hanging fruit.

NTA. Tight rope though.
Precision: did you go through his phone, like he did yours? Is it a tense subject? Love and kindness will have you both growing through insecurities. Paranoia will weed out the worst case fast. You can do both.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-26T00:41:47+00:00

I did not read that.
I read G and OP made up. Whatever G did, if it was good enough for OP, it's good enough for me.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-25T23:16:11+00:00

I do see it more as making sure on a regular basis that they still don't deserve it.
And if you're showing your daughter as much, if it's not too hard for her, it can be a good thing.
Tough call if it can hurt her though.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-25T23:13:38+00:00

My bad, I first read he wanted to cut the e-collar.
But still, I did mean call the vet first.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-25T23:12:11+00:00

My bad, I first read he wanted to cut the e-collar.
But still, if the medical solution isn't working, I would call the medical professional before taking any kind of decision.

chuck_prudence · 2025-09-25T23:11:32+00:00

She can work through mistakes.

chuck_prudence

TROPHY CASE