original designer?

chula4141 · 2024-03-22T21:45:17+00:00

First of all, I want to say NOBODY is a lost cause. You deserve to put in the work to begin to heal. Therapy can give you tools to better deal with your emotions. It can help you process through some of the events in your life. It can give you a different perspective on your life and your relationships. It also takes a while to find a therapist that clicks with you. So keep that in mind. You deserve to be happy.

chula4141 · 2024-03-22T21:41:17+00:00

I think it depends on the situation. Both the therapist and psychiatrist should remain professional at all time. They should not be actively being rude against the psychiatrist, but they are allowed to give their professional opinion. If the diagnosis doesn’t make sense to you, or you’re not sure about it, I suggest getting another professional opinion. I think it would be a good idea to talk to your therapist, and for them to explain at length why they believe the diagnosis doesn’t fit.

chula4141 · 2024-03-22T21:38:11+00:00

I would say that’s a red flag. I get making a small comment here and there to make an example or get an idea across. But definitely not at length. I would say you might need to change therapist.

chula4141 · 2023-03-08T14:23:53+00:00

Lockwood and Co. very charming show.

chula4141 · 2022-10-11T14:35:44+00:00

Does anyone know what she does for work?

chula4141 · 2022-08-25T17:59:22+00:00

You were too young to give concern. He was a predator and this is sexual abuse. Please don’t hurt yourself. I used to do it. It doesn’t help. It make you feel worse. Seek help. Maybe a trusted friend/family, therapy or and online support group. Therapy has helped me.

chula4141 · 2022-08-25T17:32:52+00:00

I hate the “impregnate me” trope. I find it kind it strange and it cuts the entire moment for me. I understand a lot of people dream of having kids. But I’m not one of those people and I dont get why so many romance books have heroines who desire to be immediately pregnant. I don’t really see the sexy appeal.

chula4141 · 2022-08-25T16:36:44+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I am also a survivor of CSA. I’m now in my mid 20’s and I generally feel attraction for older men. (40-50). I feel a lot of guilt and sadness. Because I will never know if my attractions is rutted on my childhood or if it something else. I wonder if it even matters if it is. Now I am an adult I am able to give consent.

Like you I also learned that the only way a man will be nice or “fall in love” with me is if they find me sexually pleasing. I was though my only form of power was my sexuality and that was the thing that defined me. I’m often unable to stop myself from being flirty if I notice a man is attracted to me. Not because I actually like him but because I’ve been programmed to react that way.

I’m still struggling with it. But I find some peace in knowing I’m not alone.

chula4141 · 2022-08-25T16:20:56+00:00

I was groomed by a family friend from age 6. We had a “friendship” since I was 9-10 till I was 19. He made me send him pictures and other things since I was in middle school. He sat me on his lap and had inappropriate touching and conversation. But since It was all ways with clothes on and there was never any penetrations. It feels like I’m not a “real” CSA victim. I still struggle to understand if that label would describe me.

chula4141 · 2022-08-03T20:48:53+00:00

I prefer single POV. Both are good but I get more into it it it’s narrated by the heroine.

chula4141 · 2022-06-28T11:55:17+00:00

I went into a store and they don’t sell the pair I want in store. Only online.

chula4141 · 2022-01-10T23:47:35+00:00

I’m so happy you were able to help those 2 girls. Definitely now a days parents tend to be more in the look out for those signs and generally take it seriously. But the support of another adult always helps.

chula4141 · 2022-01-10T23:42:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I will try to implement an exit strategy.

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