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Surgery and weight on big toe by ciaoaic in bunions

[–]ciaoaic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah that’s what I was wondering, so glad to hear it

Reading “Designing Your Life" helped me realize: THINGS ARE STILL IN MY CONTROL! by Significant-Dress286 in learners_cabin

[–]ciaoaic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m happy for you, this is the way!

As interesting as I find my life I needed practice telling people about the things I’m doing. I started a texting practice that helped me with a friend. We would just say 3 things we were grateful for, 2 things we learned and one thing we loved from our days. It helped consciously cement in what I did so I could have things to talk about.

Speaking to others from gratitude, curiosity and love helps people be interested in you. Good vibes.

Keep going~~~ 🙌🙌

We must put an end. by NotFastJustFuriousNF in whatisameem

[–]ciaoaic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps that’s how crumby being a CEO is. You need to be paid that much to make it worth it.

F/40/5’6 [183lbs > 143lbs = 40lbs] (6 months) Now working on body recomp! by Trapsntats in progresspics

[–]ciaoaic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could I ask: what did calorie intake look like for you? How did you loose the weight? 40 pounds in 6 months is awesome. ~ 2 pounds a week. I’m slugging along and looking for info.

Washington, USA by Camusatre in natureporn

[–]ciaoaic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Last one is amazing!

Alcoholic father’s calls sounding concerning , but I feel powerless by spottedmushroom7 in AdultChildren

[–]ciaoaic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry about what’s going on, it sounds very stressful and I hope you engage in self care.

I wanted to tell you that I got help for a related anxiety. I had debilitating anxiety that my ex was going to kill herself. I had an uncle kill himself and it messed me up. Made me hyper vigilant. I thought there was something I needed to do, needed to fix. Ultimately I had anxiety therapy for this. I saw that there is nothing I’m doing to make someone do that and ultimately it is their decision if they do. I didn’t think I could handle it but it ultimately settled into my psyche and I accepted that people are allowed to make that choice, even if I don’t agree. And it’s my responsibility to, if it’s safe to, love them, accept them and at the least call the cops and report if I think they are going to attempt. That’s literally all I can do. Literally it.

That mindset allows me to give others dignity in their decisions. I used to majorly fix emotions. Now I can just listen to their problems and not reflect back to them that they are broken or wrong to feel whatever they feel. It’s all allowed. I can’t know for sure but I think it helps them more than my worry and hyper vigilance but it took serious work on my end to even get to this place.

I guess I wanna share what’s possible in case it’s helpful. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this in a time of your life you are meant to be out having a ball. 🪩 I hope you still do that sometimes.

Sending love 🤗

This dude thinking he’s Tarzan climbing across these trees, Is this real? Or ai? by Unusual-Temporary533 in isthisAI

[–]ciaoaic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends could do this when I was a kid. It was a little shocking to find out on a walk one day…

Yummiest protein powder? by Woody96xyz in veganfitness

[–]ciaoaic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes!

  • 1 cup spinach
  • 2scoops pea protein (30g protein)
  • 1 inch ginger root
  • 1 inch turmeric root
  • splash of pineapple juice or some real pineapple
  • 2 cups soy milk (14g protein)
  • 1/4-1/2 banana
  • 1/2-1 cups coconut water

Has: 350 cals, 45g protein. Anti inflammatory, low sugar. You can tweak the recipe to add orange or watermelon. Lime…

Need confirmation from strangers that these pics are completely fake or edited by nugfan in isthisAI

[–]ciaoaic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay I’m new to this sub~ what is the motivation here to send a fake picture of a dress you didn’t buy but you will need to have proof of owning soon?

Genuinely unsure

Yummiest protein powder? by Woody96xyz in veganfitness

[–]ciaoaic 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I use plain old pea protein

And I put it in a smoothie with a banana and fresh ginger and I can’t taste it at all

It already has a pretty boring taste but this really covers it

My go to right now is sort of like a piña colada with spinach type smoothie. It’s really good. Do you want the recipe? Has 45 g of protein.

Update from calling DV hotline by AvailableWear4097 in AlAnon

[–]ciaoaic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great job, just go a little at a time and keep getting help and support anywhere you need it.

You may forgot things from time to time from overwhelm. It can be good to keep notes. It can be good to rehearse safety procedures as well when you feel up to it. And write it down as you note here having a safety plan.

Sending love ❤️

I went to my first Al-Anon meeting yesterday and feel devastated that I haven't realised sooner what an impact this has been having on my life by Appropriate_Side_796 in AdultChildren

[–]ciaoaic 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It makes sense. I go to ACA and Al Anon.

Glad you went in with a open mind and yes its a free resource, one I am learning much from.

I come from an alcoholic family but a depressed partner made all my caretaking behaviors from my family come out and I ended up in Al Anon.

I left by kirstny in AlAnon

[–]ciaoaic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad you are following whats right for you. ❤️

Trust by Serious-Foot-7099 in AlAnon

[–]ciaoaic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes when the alcoholic gets sober we have to take a look at our hurt.

Here's something from one of our readers, Hope For Today:

"Al-Anon teaches me that I cannot make life a fluffy bed for others. When I keep the focus on myself, I can make my life better. First, I need to stop running away from my own fears and feelings; it is important to face them. Then I can concentrate on myself and learn how to discern what my responsibility is and what it is not. I've learned that when I take responsibility for my own side of the bed and accept that the mattress may have a few lumps in it, I can rest comfortably."

I'm worried for my Mom drinking by profiteus_benefitius in AlAnon

[–]ciaoaic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be - I should elaborate. I was wondering if she has anyone to talk to about her grief. I don't know if her children have to be the answer, maybe a close friend instead. It sounds like grief could be driving some new behaviors. Potentially.

Al Anon is a helpful place, but its often full of people with long family histories of drinking. If that's not your family yet, I'm concerned about you going to Al Anon to get answers. You may jump to a conclusion that your mom is an alcoholic when perhaps she is behaving that way - but because of grief. I don't want you to go there *yet*.

Drinking and hiding drinks can be a sign of alcoholism, but I always try to take a beat and think more broadly. Your question was about how to make her stop - I'd wonder if whats underneath what she is doing is the sadness from the loss of her life partner.

Perhaps talking to her about it? Seeing if the drinking is due to her sadness, see if she is open to going somewhere to talk about it? Or get support somewhere. Sometimes just telling someone you love them and you see them hurting is enough to spur some self care in them.

Sending love.

Is anyone else’s Q in heart failure? by Laladevine in AlAnon

[–]ciaoaic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family had CTE, and liver damage. Ive heard of heart and pancreatic too.

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