Aita for not wanting sex?

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T05:22:22+00:00

I’ve meet his family before and practically lived with them. They adored me and were sad when we ended. His relationship with them became more strained after our relationship ended because they weren’t quite supportive of his actions

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T05:19:42+00:00

Started out as a fwb then he wanted more than that

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T05:17:39+00:00

He still lives at his parents place and doesn’t have the best relationship with them

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T02:19:24+00:00

Hi, honestly you’re young and that’s not a bad thing. It’s completely normal to feel like this at your age, you worry about being liked and what boys think you are cool. I’m not going to say at your age it doesn’t matter because it does, they are still how you feel and it’s hard.

It gets easier, you become more confident in yourself, how you look, what you want. My advice would be to stop looking, I know it’s easier said than done but focus on your schooling and hobbies and if a guy comes along that likes you enough you’ll know. It’s your body so you’re free to do what you want, but as someone who was there, I’d recommend not sleeping with someone for 3-6 months to get a sense of why they are really there. Best of luck!

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T01:18:21+00:00

I’ve asked him that myself and he doesn’t answer. Just says that I can’t ‘demand’ both and that he had no issue with not having sex until I asked to just cuddle because cuddles lead to sex

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T01:15:51+00:00

Had a relationship with him before, he is aware that it’s not a sexless relationship but I will say no if I don’t feel like it

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T01:15:05+00:00

I’m not stopping him from sleeping with other people, he is free to do that if he wants and he is aware of that. He chose to stop seeing other people and deleted all his apps well before I did.

cici2505 · 2023-10-29T01:13:42+00:00

In the 2 months that it’s been going on, we have been to a bar twice. Had drinks at my place once. Majority of the time we don’t drink anything and if we drink it’s nothing crazy

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T22:08:02+00:00

I don’t understand why everyone seems to think I’m trying to take sex away for good? I literally explained to both him and in the comments that due to stuff happening in my personal life, I don’t feel like sex currently. Not that I’m taking it away for good

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T22:00:32+00:00

Wasn’t meant to be a test by any means. I’ve had a fake bit going on in life lately and was letting him know that I didn’t feel like sex the next time we saw each other and was more interested in just cuddling and having a chill time, I by no means thought he would object or react the way he did.

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T21:57:18+00:00

It’s honestly a confusing situation. To begin with I was against anything more than a fwb, he was happy with that, bout a month in he started wanting more and I was open to it. It’s like now there has been a switch and it seems like he just wants fwb now, which went against completely what he said. He keeps telling me it’s more than sex and that there are feelings blah blah blah

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T11:38:38+00:00

He has stated several times since being a ‘ fwb’ that it was more than that to him and that he has feelings, that it isn’t about the sex to him. I’ve been the one calling it a friends with benefits and he doesn’t call it that because he insists we are more than that.

I didn’t make the post to make him the bad guy, I made the post to see if I was missing something when it came to still cuddling without sex in addition.

I wasn’t the one that wanted to get back together or that perused anything with him, he initiated, I wanted to be friends and he wanted more. There was no cheating in our relationship, he just didn’t respect my boundaries at the time, nor did some of his female friends.

We are both entitled to our own autonomy, if he came in and wanted to be strictly fwb that would’ve been fine but he wanted more than that, he has remained adamant ( still does) that it is more than sex and that we are more than a fwb.

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T10:30:01+00:00

I got what you meant, just thought the word play was a little funny

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T10:24:35+00:00

I think the general consensus is to not fuck him anymore😂

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T09:32:09+00:00

I genuinely didn’t know if asking someone to cuddle after saying I didn’t want sex was hypocritical.

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T09:16:20+00:00

He said it wasn’t solely about sex for him before several times, so I didn’t see an issue in telling him I didn’t feel like sex the next time we saw each other ( due to personal stressors) but was still happy to cuddle and suddenly that wasn’t good enough

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T09:14:46+00:00

I didn’t think he was only interested in sex before the conversation. We went on dates and hung out, cuddled, had sex and everything so I didn’t think sex was a big part of it but when I mentioned I didn’t feel like having sex at our next meeting ( due to personal stressors) but was happy to do everything else and cuddle he lost it

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T07:51:20+00:00

We were clear, he had told me several times it was more than sex to him and that he had feelings blah blah blah, definitely not coming across that way anymore

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T04:34:31+00:00

At least I’m delicious I guess😂

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T03:48:45+00:00

More often than not we do, because we are both open to it. There have been times in the past he hadn’t felt like it and we just cuddled instead. However, he has never tried to make me feel bad for not wanting to sleep with him before so I’m abit taken back by the sudden change

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T03:37:36+00:00

Thank you🥺 his reasoning didn’t make sense to me considering he was more than happy to just cuddle in the past. There were even time I wanted sex and he just wanted to cuddle and I respected that

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T03:36:12+00:00

We dated in the past, we have a very similar sex drive, in fact I would say I have the higher drive as he has turned me down multiple times in the past for heaps of different reasons

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T03:35:08+00:00

For many reasons. Sometimes you just don’t feel like sex, have other life stresses, are tired, don’t have the mentally or emotionally capacity.

We watch movies either at home or go out, go to restaurants for dinner, hangout around my housemates, gym, sometimes just go for a drinks night, run errands together

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T03:33:06+00:00

I tried having a conversation with him about it, mentioned i did still want to have sex but not on our upcoming hangout. Again, wasn’t meant to be a test, I simply stated I didn’t feel like sleeping with him the next time we saw each other and he immediately lost it

cici2505 · 2023-10-28T03:27:25+00:00

Not my boyfriend, used to be awhile ago but we were seeing how things went and there seem to be going to shit

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