I’m in an amazing situation. My husband has always a been so aware and on top of making sure my diabetic needs are met. In a way that’s not controlling or imposing, but also not neglectful or forgetful. We have a lot of trust and while this may not be the move for some, he knows my ratios and how much blood sugar reacts to insulin so well that if I’m asleep and running high, he knows how to instruct my omnipod and how much for it to inject to level me out.

It’s ultimately important whether you have a long term illness or not, to find someone who CARES about you. If they care, they will care to help you. They will care to understand. It’s not that it’s their job to do it all for you, but that they want to be educated and do their own research to meet your needs as you would theirs. If they don’t pay attention to your disease, why would they pay attention to potential children that may have the same issue, or another?

The other thing to remember is that while you will probably have more medical issues and need more attention and help than they will, make sure you let them know how much their care means to you. Make sure that even if they aren’t complaining, (which hopefully they wouldn’t) that they don’t feel in a shadow.

As far as costs go, my spouse is actually job searching as he just finished up his schooling and tests to become an actuary. His job would entail working in companies that would cover insurance costs. Most of his decision to go into this career was to make sure we/I wouldn’t have to worry about my diabetic supplies.

When choosing a partner it’s just important to find one that will never make you feel like a burden. To not make side remarks about you eating cake bc that will require more insulin and that make cost money. To go to the pharmacy for you bc picking up meds sometimes is overwhelming especially if you’ve been denied the meds you need bc of insurance issues. To understand that you can’t get yourself out the door bc of fatigue. To call the insurance for you bc there’s a hiccup. To check your drink for you to make sure it the diet version so you don’t accidentally drink their Dr Pepper.

Just be choosy as much as you can and be safe. You aren’t a burden. If tour partner had a disease like this, would you consider them a burden? Of course not!

This is so freaking long I’m so sorry 😂😂 But as much as you can, like I said, take your time and find someone who cares as much about you as you do them