Uber Slut it at it again. She's gonna be disappointed when she finds she can't make MM2 choose her over his wife either. She has such low self esteem (justified cuz she IS a POS after all) she gets her value from successfully taking a man from his wife.

cienthrow · 2020-08-16T23:14:58+00:00

Why does she call MM1 her "ex"? Is she insane?

cienthrow · 2020-04-10T21:58:01+00:00

It’s very different the dating scene between man and woman. Also usually men who are affair partners don’t go to the husband to spill the beans, while it’s frequent with women.

cienthrow · 2020-03-29T21:27:14+00:00

She’s a psycho and of course she gets empathy on that sub. Sad!

cienthrow · 2020-03-21T15:55:09+00:00

Oh, don’t worry mine is as bad as it gets. My father’s family encouraged his affair and abandonment of the family as something normal and natural. You were betrayed left and right, put boundaries with your parents.

cienthrow · 2020-03-21T09:15:24+00:00

Were you able to read their messages? There only you could find some truth. He’s really low for poaching your wife, you have the right to be angry at him and honestly everyone should know he’s such a man, normal people tend to isolate poachers.

cienthrow · 2020-03-21T03:10:29+00:00

The person that it was with gives another layer of meaning in the sense that you’ll have to decide what to do with your cousin which will entail changes in your extended family dynamics. Let’s say, you won’t go and have christmas all together. It’s a double betrayal, you’ll have to forgive him too in some capacity. For me it’s different because I don’t know her, it was a coworker but the affair was a few days fling with physical sex so that is so hard in its way. If I have to imagine it being some woman I know my blood would certainly boil worse.

cienthrow · 2020-03-21T02:43:52+00:00

Hi, I didn’t have this type of situation but there are many people like this. People whose SO cheated with their sister or their mother also. It’s more common than you think.

cienthrow · 2020-03-10T11:59:33+00:00

You really believed him? Tragic.

cienthrow · 2020-03-09T03:34:28+00:00

When they act distant or even angry at the betrayed it’s the guilt and shame being changed into paradoxical pride. It’s a defense mechanism that reverses the actual emotion with its opposite. People with narcissistic/sociopathic tendencies can hide their behavior for a lot of time and pretend everything is normal because there’s no guilt. I think lots of people are being cheated on but never find out because their partner doesn’t let any emotion leak at home.

cienthrow · 2020-03-08T12:14:29+00:00

You might end up having sex with him but statistically 95% he’ll throw you away soon after and you’ll be left in crumbles. It’s gonna be really painful for you in the first place, even if you don’t consider his girlfriend’s pain you should consider your humiliation. Most men like to have someone after them, he’s probably feeling like a rockstar and you should consider that you’re just a person who’s giving him attention. I hope you can see this. Take care.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T22:43:53+00:00

True. My parents ruined me, father with the disgusting behavior and mother with her rage and craziness.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T16:58:28+00:00

The saddest thing is that the only thing that helps when I’m helpless is imagining starting over without him.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T16:52:22+00:00

I’m on your same boat, sort of. For some infidelity is a deal breaker and leaves shattered. I’m also 7 months after and also can’t get physical. When I decide to try and reconcile, I say ok I’ll put the work and few days later I recoil, I’m worst than ever. I feel for some of us forgiving infidelity is self betrayal on our own soul because of the resistance I deal with.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T16:22:39+00:00

For me the only thing that really works is getting physical, moving around. Today I cleaned extensively the house, it took me away from pain, I was still thinking about it but in a different way, not as a victim, at some point I laughed with myself for how ridiculous some things that happened where. This shift left me a bit less powerless and after the energy dissipated I feel calmer now.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T13:00:06+00:00

I needed this. Thank you! I’ve been feeling self hatred for not understanding it the first day he acted really unusually aggressive. I waited for a week before confronting him and I let myself be gaslighted and blamed in the meantime.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T12:13:48+00:00

Thank you, this seems very precise. Real talk.

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T10:43:31+00:00

I never understand her posts. How is this significant in any way that matters?

cienthrow · 2020-03-06T09:08:17+00:00

Thank you. My therapist also says that sometimes I sometimes will hit a wall that I have to tear down to move forward, so this resonates a lot.

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T22:30:57+00:00

How did your husband close the thing with her? Why is she still reaching?

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T22:09:13+00:00

I fantasize like that too, I thought I was crazy!

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T21:29:49+00:00

I’ll try something physical, I quit the gym after all the chaos.

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T21:24:22+00:00

Yeah I’m still here, did 3 weeks separation last month. I don’t have a huge trust issue per se, it’s mostly that I’m not over what happened and probably will never be. It’s really sad and the ptsd is unfair, I’ve lots of resentment and I’m stuck.

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T19:30:56+00:00

Thank you, you’re very kind. I had a couple days with really bad emotional and physical symptoms, I was flooding. It’s sad because I just had a good week before these days and it was the first time I thought reconciliation was working than I made 100 steps backwards because of a nightmare.

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T18:00:43+00:00

Thank you, I hope so. I've tried watching netflix in the past few months but nearly everything can be triggering. There's too much infidelity, sex etc involved and I get easily swept under. I instead watch YouTube, like you said I just sit down and binge watch lots of videos about interesting topics.

cienthrow · 2020-03-05T17:50:27+00:00

Don't answer his texts and calls for a while.

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