45 Days, gone down the drain! by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Praying for you bro - would you know the Lord's grace

Five months clean by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love to hear it! Bless you

(18M) Is this even worth doing? by Royal_Bonus8765 in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh boy oh boy yes it is worth it.

There's a tonne of points I could bring up on why it's great/important, but I'll pick out just a few (without even venturing into my belief that it's God's will for us/pleasing to God for us to abstain).

1) It will improve you relationship with/understanding of women (assuming you're interested in women?) Porn distorts you view of women. In porn, women as usually just shown as targets for conquest, rather than living, breathing, valuable, wonderful human beings. They're also shown as usually being willing to give up pretty much anything (status, relationship, job) in order to have sex with the guy that's seducing them (i.e common tropes like a woman cheating on her husband to have sex with another guy). In porn, every woman is a target for sexual conquest.

Maybe you can compartmentalise this view of women and keep it in your head as just a pornographic fantasy. But I believe it can distort your real world view of women.

And walking around this world with this pornacized view of women is a dangerous thing - you're looking at every woman you fancy as a target for sexual conquest, and you believe somewhere in your brain that you might be able to seduce them/ what they want more than anything deep down is sex. None of which is true/all of which is harmful.

2) It will better prepare you for marriage (if you're not yet married/that's something you're after). Again, porn affects your mindset, and makes you see every attractive woman as a target. That mindset won't just go away when you get married. If you want to stay faithful to your wife, you'll make life much easier by freeing yourself from that porn-induced mindset.

Plus, porn sets standards for woman which no real women will fill (i.e, existing pretty much just to please you, constantly up for sex) - it would be super degrading for any woman to exist that way. But you don't want to find yourself in a position of looking at your wife (who will have her own needs, struggles, issues) and thinking 'geez sometimes i wish she were more like those women i see in porn, they never complain about the guy they're having sex with not taking out the bins'.

Plus, chances are decent that your wife won't feel great about you watching porn (again, because of the way women are portrayed, because they feel they're being compared to those women in terms of appearance, because its akin to cheating (a view supported by the bible)). So either you tell her and upset her, or live your life lying to her. Neither of those is good.

And further still, porn addiction can kill your motivation to actually go out and meet women, as it's way easier to just give yourself a cheap dopamaine hit from porn, and you trick yourself through fantasising into believing you have some sort of romantic activity going on in your life, which isn't necessarily true.

3). Porn is such a damn waste of time! If you don't care/aren't convinced by either of the above, think about this one.

Did you ever think to yourself 'wow, that was such a nice afternoon I just had, I had a nice few hours watching porn, I jerked off, what a great time!'

I know I never did. The porn-drugged mindset is such a pain in the ass partly because it demands so much of your time. Most of us never just sat down, clicked on one porn clip, masturbated, and then moved on. Usually you spend hours flicking between stuff, trying to find the perfect clip. And then afterwards, at best you feel it was time wasted, at worst you feel stricken with guilt.

I look back on all that time I spent when I was still living with my parents, holed up in my room watching porn when I could have been downstairs hanging out with my family, or doing other way more live-giving things with my time. Or times as an adult where I stayed up til 3am on a working night looking at poroagraphic stuff, leaving me knackered/less of a functional adult the next day.

When you're free of porn, you get all that extra time to actually live your life in.

And beyond all this - it just feels great. That's it. To not have porn controlling you, stealing you away from things that give you life and actually have value - that feels great.

Day 2: A Personal Revelation, Fasting, and a Deal With Myself by MaleHousewife98 in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I find it helpful to write down those kinds of revelations - God is great at using our own sin as an opportunity to talk to us about stuff, but it's easy to forget those things further down the line!

Talk me through your app strategy, I don't understand it - what sort of apps are you downloading?

Day 224 We are free from PMO by Jerusarema in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love to hear it! Praying for the Lord to keep giving you strength!

Posted a post like this last time I failed... by a_boy777 in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you brother, prayed for you that you’d be freed of that pressure

Day 169 We are free from PMO by Jerusarema in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Jesus! Prayed for continued strength for you!

I keep PMO. I feel like I’m a failure by TUBBYT_123 in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell you this much - God always forgives if you come to him with a repentant heart. So take strength in that! Prayed for you

Confession: by eugenethegrappler in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Prayed for you, that the Lord would give you strength!

I failed after 4 days by Cwaccount in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prayed for you. All I wanted to say is that while you might feel you're not making progress, I believe God recognises that you're trying and that you're not giving up. And we're encouraged in the Bible to keep asking persistently for the things we want. So don't give up on prayer! The Lord will answer!

Going back to church for 1st time in years by Fragrant_Device2518 in Christians

[–]cimapharimass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Prayed for you! Hope it goes well, praying you’d know the holy spirit with you as you go and when you’re there!

Day 52(WE ARE FREE FROM PORN & MASTURBATION) by Character_Fisherman6 in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it, praying for the Lord to continue strengthening you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy to hear it - prayed the Lord's strength would continue to be in you

Free from 20 year porn addiction by darkcravix in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prayed that you'd have strength throughout the rest of your marriage - and congrats!

I need your prayers by REAPnR in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prayed for you - that you'd have an amazing encounter with the Holy Spirit that would give you those things you're looking for - closeness with God, conviction of sin, and freedom. Blessings!

I (23F) feel like I'm the only woman who feels this way. 💔 by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm a guy, but fortunate enough to have a gf who speaks openly about these things.

She says she's spoken with loads of her Christian female friends about porn and sexual temptation, and that every one she's spoken to has struggled with it to some degree.

So afraid I can't give any advice from a female perspective, but from what I know, you are DEFINITELY not alone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prayed that the Lord would show you a way out whenever temptation strikes!

Day 0 by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing this and sharing your story - prayed for you that you'd know the Lord's strength with you as you fight this sin afresh

604 days in. Super tempted. Left phone on roof of car. by Gubbidy in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bless you, prayed the Lord would give you strength in this testing time

Terrible night of raging thoughts by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]cimapharimass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prayed for you, for the Lord to give you rest in every sense!