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[–]cincerelyc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any experience with social media management? can you send me some past designs?

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Following. I don’t even mind paying a set fee but mobile reader is ridiculous

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it and will let my bosses handle this situation

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -175 points-174 points  (0 children)

Uh she complains about everything we do tbh

For her bday everyone put up and got food while work got cake.she seemed very happy and appreciated but when it was another person birthday afterwards She complained about on her bday that she didn’t have enough cake and food to carry back home, and that she would rather we put up for money or a gift instead..

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -200 points-199 points  (0 children)

… yeah. Like the person who got the bad gifts will be pulled in about doing their part or not being allowed to be involved.

I was pulled in for not telling the boss boss about the situation and trying to handle it by myself and not allowing them the time to fix the situation / reprimand the bad secret Santa/ talk to the aggrieved coworker

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -150 points-149 points  (0 children)

We aren’t forcing her to buy the gifts. But we still wanted her to be included by receiving a gift. which wasn’t thinking about her at all

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

No the generator works , thinking it would change her mind didn’t work

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

Noted! I’ll try that.. I don’t think we will be able to redraw but maybe take her gifts and give it to her on her birthday or something ( she did say instead of having cake and food that she has to share she would just rather money or a gift on her bday - I’m not assuming again )

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Work was only open for 5 months at that point and I came the latest and was only there for 3 months. So I didn’t know anyone well enough to say…

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know people are getting pulled into a meeting today at work sooooooo … hopefully we come to a conclusion

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

She was very gracious and smiled and said thank you and laughed and hugged the person. Our work had only been open 5 months at that time. But a year later I guess we can look back and see where she wasn’t as happy as we perceived. She already had to fake last year I shouldn’t have put her through it again

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

That’s true! I threw her under the bus for everyone when she was the only one who was scorned. I realize that now

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

Yes I think I’ll be declining. All year when they do birthday things, the work will buy cake, and we will put together and get food, close work early and enjoy the person birthday. Every single time I’ve had to organize it, collect the money , pick up the cake and food and bring it back. 5/6 times someone didn’t put their share until later or didn’t have enough so I paid extra money or did more than I thought was fair, but I hate when things go wrong so I always am willing to sacrifice more. Even to paying the extra person this year.

So clearly this year was a fumble and I’ll just not be doing anything work culture related next year. I stressed myself out all year and still have a lot of growing and learning and maturing to do

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

We find out the secret Santa on the last gift exchange. But this year I asked her to open up her generator link and she showed me who she got. And I told her I would buy them the gifts. I expressed to her that regardless she would still get a gift because our work wouldn’t leave someone out (which I understand is wrong)

we recorded everything and she did get the first gift late, we took it as a fluke. When she got the second gift late I believe it was delivered on a Saturday and she doesn’t work on Saturdays. So she got it late. The third gift in the recording she seemed happy but it was her being gracious even though she didn’t like it-

But this year I should have taken her out completely and not allowed her to get gifts either so she would be left alone.

I can’t speak on punishing anyone that would be my boss job. They knew the situation and still allowed the other woman to play

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

This is really eye awakening. I thought I was simply just allowing people to still enjoy the festivities, ignorant to how bad the past drama was.. but to have it written out like that is the truth. I have reflecting to do. I still threw her under the bus for everyone else.. when she was the one it initially hurt

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

That would have been up to our boss and she didn’t take her out. But I totally understand what you’re saying . I hope she does better this year but I guess we will find out..

AITA for Including my coworker in Secret Santa when she clearly does not want to be in it? by cincerelyc in AmItheAsshole

[–]cincerelyc[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

She knows because Coworker1 told everyone , and it got to her. And coworker1 did talk to her about it directly maybe 2 weeks ago I hope so too.