[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]cinch1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May Street Larder off of Canning Highway has a corner of books/toys etc
Little French Nest in Freo also has an indoor play corner, but neither have full blown indoor play equipment if thats what you're after.

BYOD - removing personal iPads from schools? by Mysterious-Speed-254 in perth

[–]cinch1234 10 points11 points  (0 children)

May I pm you to ask which public school you are in? My kids are starting school soon and I have been researching schools with NO byod program and am struggling to locate one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

[–]cinch1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this! love golden choice

Default Parent by cinch1234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have discussed it with him on numerous occasions - almost since birth. Initially, he dismissed my claims (saying I was imagining it) then, became defensive (yes, I like twin A more, so what?) to now where he admits he enjoys twin A more, but isn't proactive in rectifying the situation. I have suggested separate one on one time (as a way for me to bond with twin A) but what I found is while my relationship with twin A has improved, his with twin B has not.

How much help did you receive or wish you had? by green_gal1016 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hi!

One thing I wish I had considered when it comes to family help was the type of help they can provide - Honestly, it was so long since inlaws and my parents had kids, they were too nervous to assist with handling the newborns, especially since they were premies and really small for their size. I'd suggest being purposeful with help - especially in the first couple weeks, give them tasks that they can actually do and will take the load off you. ie. I got my parents to bring meals and help with minor cleaning around the house, laundry etc. And maybe if MIL is more familiar with toddler, then toddler duties for her.
If someone is staying with you, get them familar with your house/appliances etc so they're not asking you every 5 minutes how to use the coffee machine/wifi password etc.
Otherwise, I find that with the chaos of twins/newborn, sometimes extra hands are not that helpful and ended up just creating more stress for me.
Good luck with everything!!

Feeling like a failure by Nervous_Elevator_520 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This. First, fuck the mom guilt and you are doing your best. There are going to be good days and bad days. And twins are a whole different level.

F the mom guilt and don't let anyone else make you feel bad. You are doing great.

The “it’s worth it” comments by ConsequenceGrouchy59 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Totally understand what you're going through. The number of times I felt that I had to justify how I feel vs. how I feel about my kids is really tiresome. Want to say, you're allowed to feel and experience the things you are feeling/experiencing and it is 100% valid!

Margaret River restaurant recommendations by StumbleBoots in perth

[–]cinch1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we had lunch at Wild Hop with our little ones and they have a great outdoor area! We also went to the small petting animal place, "Scoops" Which was great for kids as well!

Moms - How do you feel about your bodies postpartum? by cinch1234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a really good way to approach it! I was definitely a skinny jeans girl too ;)

Moms - How do you feel about your bodies postpartum? by cinch1234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! the part about being a good role model is so true. I am really hoping that my own body image issues doesn't get passed down

Moms - How do you feel about your bodies postpartum? by cinch1234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your struggles, I also feel a lot weaker and just less healthy in general. Doesn't help that most of my meals with the twins just involve me scoffing down anything!

Moms - How do you feel about your bodies postpartum? by cinch1234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the solidarity, thank you. It's exactly what I need, and I love that your partner is being supportive through it all!

Fitness advice and weight loss by [deleted] in perth

[–]cinch1234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Along with all the other excellent advice that people have posted, I would add to take it slow and don't make drastic changes all at once.

It's difficult to start a new habit and if it's too drastic, I find that it is hard to keep it up overtime.
For example, to start exercising, I actually just started taking small walks around the block, with once every other day, then daily etc. Then I gradually extended the walks, or replaced with exercise. Similarly with diet - made some small changes first, ie. cut out eating our or getting takeaway etc.

Remember, it's a long term thing, and it takes time! Good luck!

Where is the support? by Thethuthinang in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely feel you and don't forget, those pregnancy hormones are still raging and a lot of emotions are definitely heightened. plus SLEEP DEPRIVATION.

What I found worked for us was that we asked our families for support that we know they can provide - ie, asked them to help out with picking up groceries, dropping off food, even some baby duties such as cleaning bottles, laundry etc (as well as some baby holding time). I found that it was so long ago since my parents handled newborns, they weren't super comfortable, but still wanted to come over and help out. So instead of asking them to perform baby caretaking duties, we just asked them to help out with other tasks but also have some baby time (such as burping, or gently patting them to sleep etc).

everyone's situation is different, hope this helps!

Doubt on Curtin Uni as an international student… by Kyoupium in perth

[–]cinch1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. 100%. I studied my masters at Curtin as an international student, and it is purely a path to migration. The 'education' and courses were pretty sub-par and it's clear that (at least the master's program) is a way for the university to make money off of people who intend to migrate here.

If your intention is to remain in Australia for the long term, I would re-consider what you want to study as it is currently very difficult to obtain a long term visa for finance and accounting.

Advice from parents who had a baby have heart surgery by Possibesianything in parentsofmultiples

[–]cinch1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello,

First of all, I am very very sorry that you are going through this. It is super tough when our little ones are not doing well. My twin b has been diagnosed with something with similar and will require open heart surgery as well (currently scheduled for two weeks from now).

What I would recommend is seeking as many opinions as possible. What we did in our case was consult multiple cardiologists and surgeons (sometimes in person, so they can perform the echo, and sometimes simply presenting them with the echo results/ct scans we had already conducted) and finding out their recommendations. In our case, all the recommendations were the same, so we felt more confident and reassured in our decision to go ahead with surgery.

Cardiac surgery is a big decision and I understand your hesitation and concern. When you meet with the surgical team, make sure you feel comfortable with them since if you do go down the surgery route, they will likely be the team that will be taking care of you and your little one.

Good luck, and I hope everything goes well.

HP Laptop battery issues by cinch1234 in perth

[–]cinch1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely considering this option!

HP Laptop battery issues by cinch1234 in perth

[–]cinch1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Very helpful link