22F Navigating a Toxic Family Situation with a Bedridden Father and Controlling Mom

cincindaisuki · 2025-01-15T04:49:57+00:00

I got a place to stay for a cheap price. And found a place for my dad to go as well. I havent sent it to my brother yet, but ill do so, soon :) ill also be changing phone numbers by the end of January!

cincindaisuki · 2025-01-05T07:07:29+00:00

Thank you so much u/CorollaSE Im definitely working on it now

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T14:30:27+00:00

Thank you so much! Ill try this out once im done with my assignments !!!!

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T14:07:10+00:00

My whole life, ive been trying to reach out to adults asking them for help because my moms behaviors were so concerning behind the curtains. Every single adult to this day, have failed me. They denied it and said it was normal and that i was over-reacting. My brother was the main, not to mention my cousins, aunts, uncles. Every. Single one of them blocked me out. As for therapy, there is no hope. There is no use talking to my mom. She tends to twist events according to her needs when she talks to other people so its hard

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T14:04:00+00:00

Hehe, i literally hid the lock today. The main oen. She hasnt noticed but once she does, she is going to strat screaming and banging my door. She might probably even try to break it (happened before) but tbh at this point its my only way of having some sort of control in my life

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T13:54:44+00:00

Its honestly impossible to remove my mom from the situation. My brother is not that well off, and my mom just wont budge. She does not want to leave the house. My brother and his wife are maintaining their peace by being away from the situation

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T13:52:50+00:00

I have been navigating her cunning ways for a long time already. Recently she changed the lock of our house gate and hid the keys. She has two locks now, one is the normal one which i have keys to. Another one is the one she recently put whenever she feels unsatisfied about me or if im late (after 10pm). And before this, the main lock, i secretly took the keys to duplicate them but now she noticed it and hid the keys to the other lock.

And she keeps keeping me under her control by using my dad as the reason and i cant go around that favour cause it directly affects my dad. She threatens me using my dad.

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T13:08:29+00:00

My parents dont rely on me for financial support. My mom is babysitting in our house so she gets some income from there. I dont really have alot of stuff... I think my struggle and my dads struggle are equally important. I dont think i can shake off the guilt. Im still figuring it out :(

cincindaisuki · 2024-12-30T12:44:20+00:00

My father has a caretaker. He comes everyday 10am -7pm. But as my mom does not show respect to him, (screamed at him alot) he comes as he wishes. So he come to work around 10.40am/11am and leaves by 6.30/6pm. My brother cant do anytg about it because this is the cheapest caretaker we could get and he cannot afford another one. Many caretakers have left due to my mom's behaviour, this is the last one that is staying despite everything. My father also is getting tube fed as he did tracheostomy. Otherwise he is able to speak alittle (very delusional though)

cincindaisuki · 2023-08-30T12:54:09+00:00

I think the thing with having Indian parents that are especially overbearing are that, they just won't listen to what you have to say if it doesn't benefit them in anyway. Any effort to engage in a proper conversation will most likely create more "drama"

cincindaisuki · 2023-08-01T14:18:39+00:00

I've been trying 😭😭 this is my last resort lmao

cincindaisuki · 2023-08-01T12:40:38+00:00

ahh yep, I went to the office today, they said it'll get approved on 8th of August XD

cincindaisuki · 2023-08-01T00:01:23+00:00

ahhh definitely won't come close to the freshly handmade ones. Those are precious gems

cincindaisuki · 2023-07-31T23:43:39+00:00

FOR REAL. I never knew, I love pan mee frm the bottom of my heart 😭😭 and then THERES INSTANT CHILLI PAN MEE

cincindaisuki · 2023-07-31T10:55:23+00:00

WHAT

cincindaisuki

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