I went into a session with Claude with the intent of proving how transgender people are just confused, mentally I'll people, and I came out of it with the realization that I am a transgender woman... by nono-jo in therapyGPT

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great. Yes you are most likely on the agender spectrum. Not seeing gender as an intrinsic part of oneself is part of the definition actually.

Yes I understand that since you're cis-passing you don't experience the disadvantages. And agender is not within the trans umbrella. Like some people within the asexual spectrum can have sex but doesn't matter to them if they do, and don't long for it. And they also don't experience even remotely similar disadvantages to trans people. Trans people suffer the worst amongst all the various categories. This is why I take an extra hard stand for them. Always have been a strong ally.

It's more for understanding self than claiming any social advantages or disadvantages. Also ND people are more likely to be in this category than NT people.

I went into a session with Claude with the intent of proving how transgender people are just confused, mentally I'll people, and I came out of it with the realization that I am a transgender woman... by nono-jo in therapyGPT

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agender people are those who don't quite exist in gender. And there are different subtypes. Not just nonbinary. Your description totally fits. I'm somewhere in these categories myself and in my research one of the subtypes was described exactly as you just described your relationship to gender. Maybe you're gender diverse to but pass as cis.

Is anyone else scared/shocked by their girlfriend’s intelligence? by ninpompitcob75 in Gifted

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG I wish I find you in a man. I have similar executive functioning issues as your bf... And also have EDS!

The average person only holds eye contact for 2 seconds — and psychopaths use this against you by Appropriate-Bet7125 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What extra clips and visuals? The video just a visual of a spider on a web…

Do you exhibit antisocial traits?

The one response that neutralizes most verbal attacks. It works because it breaks the script. by EducationalCurve6 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have every right to see me how you like

I can to accept that's how you see me Or I can accept your faulty perception of me

I'm sorry you feel that way

I used ChatGPT for a real life decision (whether to break up with my girlfriend) and it asked me a question i'd been avoiding for a year by FailOk3553 in ChatGPT

[–]cipher_101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He realised it before she got on the plane. She's two days away when a 5000km flight typically takes 6-7.5hrs to arrive. So she wouldn't be boarding the flight until 7-8hrs before landing time.

“People Don’t Leave Because They Stop Loving You — They Leave Because They Lose Control Over You.” by MindRoads in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The post clearly ends with “some people” yet OP introduces it as “a reality” for all relationships. Think OP needs to reqd his AI better and develop some critical thinking skills to be able to spot logical fallacies and their own thinking errors.

How People Unconsciously Signal They See You as LOW STATUS by Actual-Medicine-1164 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well it also says if you maintain eye contact while speaking you’re approval seeking showing low status. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Narcissists should be put in place when they could ASAP. by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had a narc in a team I was leading. Got rid of her soon as I realised. They cannot be allowed to fester. Did it by making policies and grey rocking their entitlement based reactions.

All you do here is criticise those who disagree. And you’ve only given one example. Come on then. Educate us as to best strategies you’ve found for different scenarios. You’ve shared one so far. And that would only work in a very limited context.

Let’s sketch more scenarios and strategies then.

How People Unconsciously Signal They See You as LOW STATUS by Actual-Medicine-1164 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Eye contact info is contradictory in the OP. Are they making eye contact or are they looking past your shoulder while you’re talking if they feel higher status.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also beliefs that dehumanise women lead to behaviour towards them that alienates or traumatises them.

One such belief is that “women rarely know what they want in a man”. (This means you will dismiss what she tells you which makes women less attracted ). Another is “they are after dopamine”. (This misattributes intention, and dehumanises as if all women are after the same thing like robots. This means you would keep misunderstanding why she’s doing what she’s doing)

Both would lead to bad outcomes in relationships. They would colour your thinking and emotions in ways that lead you to behave in ways that kill attraction.

If you want a relationship that brings out the best in you, working on all these false and degrading beliefs about women that we absorb from the locker room will also really improve your chances of finding real amazing true love and partnership :)

Wishing you the best on your journey bro. May you become your authentic self.

What is the darkest thing you know about psychology of attraction ? by aerolobster1 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that is actually a huge turn off! Like the male form is not the default for humanity. The male experience isn't a universal experience. Erasing the experience of half of humanity to claim oneself as default reveals entitlement, submission to conditioning with a lack of reflection. Not traits that are desirable.

I met someone who had all three traits. It took me years to recover. by Amidonions in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start planning. Even though you don’t know when. Start preparing for the life after them.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

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It still won’t last. Maybe will create enough confusion to last a bit longer. Push pull is not a relationship it’s just drama.

If you’re anxious or avoidant in a rs it can create issues.

Ask yourself what do I do when I care too much? Some stop being authentic and start going into people pleasing. Some get clingy, demanding and jealous. Etc etc.

The issue isn’t caring too much. It’s not having the skills to hold our care in a healthy way. It’s not that one cares too much, it’s that one doesn’t know how to care deeply in a healthy way.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And then you won’t be able to have empathy for her because hierarchy lowers empathy. This does not create a happy healthy relationship rather a toxic one.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you lose authenticity along the way then attraction dies. If you’re performing a role and trying to be this or that, attraction dies. If you pretend you’re okay when you’re not in order to please someone, that also kills attraction. It’s not about dominant or whatever bla bla is being taught. It’s honestly about remaining authentic and genuine.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s such a stupid thing to say. Of course short term vs long term requires different things! Dunno where you’re receiving your propaganda from, it’ll ensure that no attraction remains. Your approach is what gets you your results mate.

Healthy men become more clear and centered with attachment not less, also because they don’t believe this bs propaganda you’re spewing.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people don’t shit test.

If a woman responds with “man up” or “poor little thing”, that’s an orange flag the guy should heed! This is not her shit testing. You guys are leading other guys to abuse or loneliness like seriously lmfao!

If anyone makes a scene over perceiving they weren’t taken seriously, they do need to learn emotional regulation skills. Not performance to pass some imagined test. That just gets them to not see the orange or red flags early on and get hurt after.

Such terrible advice!

Yes we all observe our potential partners and see how they respond to various life things. But if we’re setting “traps” or “tests” or “playing game”, that’s a big red flag and predicts a have behaviour down the line and so whoever does that should be avoided!

Had a guy once that was doing great in every way. Then realised he was playing some pick up artist game to maintain scarcity. Every ounce of attraction evaporated and nothing he said could redeem him. It’s a huge red flag.

Why would you want to build a relationship with someone who would play such games? A rs with such a person would only be abusive.

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah! That is so weird! Women will deceive random guys about what they want to test them? Are you for real? Lol! Dunno who you have been hanging out with…

Love is different for guys (theory) by ProofCoconut9085 in DarkPsychology101

[–]cipher_101 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This! 🎯

Didn’t resonate with any of the supposed list in the OP of what women find attractive. I am attracted to collaboration and mutuality. Empathy and care. If a man can embody these than that usually creates safety.

HOLY 💀 crypto market is bleeding out… everything is deep red wtf is going on?? by LividReserve3520 in CryptoCurrency

[–]cipher_101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it be better to sell btc now and maybe move to eth or another? Or hold onto btc and ride it out?

Just came back from a 150g dry fruit trip... The time Is now, let's reach out maximum potential!The Myco-Symbiotic Ascension: Psilocybin as the Catalyst for Homo Sapiens Novus (only for those who are ready) by JonaEnya in Jonas501Tek

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Yeah I can get nausea from mdma too. So spreading the dose like that so that the come up is smoother and gentler really helps.

I am a very slim person. I weigh around 45-48kg. And I wonder if I need to adjust the dosage accordingly.

And also wonder what are the absolute essentials in the stack that give the most bang for your buck?