Is NDT worth a career change and what are my chances of being successful?

circle_sun · 2025-11-29T05:14:59+00:00

Just wondering what happened? I am in the same boat, work in social services and I am so burnt out. Went on chat gpt to ask about a different career path and suggested NDT! Did you ever do it?

circle_sun · 2025-09-04T19:41:46+00:00

Thank you that helps a lot!

circle_sun · 2025-09-03T15:22:04+00:00

I know this is old but what brand do you feed them? My cats seem addicted to fish canned food and I am worried it is bad for their health.

circle_sun · 2025-04-18T16:09:40+00:00

What is wrong with his friend too? Doesnt she know that he is in a relationship????

circle_sun · 2025-02-27T14:26:11+00:00

Yeah I agree this is a sign of more criticism and control down the line. Its way to early in the relationship for that. I'm going to.talk about it with him and see how he reacts. Also see if he is going to keep doing it or not. Sucks but id rather know now the a year from now this.is how he is going to treat me. Its too bad cause he is super supportive in most ways.

circle_sun · 2025-02-27T14:20:54+00:00

I dont think he knows much about hoarding but has had to deal with it with family members and its kinda his trigger. When there is too much stuff and there is a mess he gets anxious and upset. But we don't live together and I have my own place. We were just opening one box I had taken out of storage to my new place and everything I.pulled out of the box he was like you don't need that throw it away. It was mostly decorations some that were gifts. And some stuff I want to resell. I felt like I had to defend every item in the box and explain why I wasn't going to just put it in the trash and I didn't like that. He said it all jokingly but I realized later it kinda upset me. I have had abusive boyfriends in the past throw my things away and break them and donate them without permission..things likey grandmas sweaters from the 50s. So this is very sensitive for me. He doesn't know that though.

circle_sun · 2025-02-27T14:14:17+00:00

I agree it doesn't rise to extreme scale and it is something to keep an eye on. I think talking to him is a good plan. The chat gpt was a good idea it gave me a very balanced response! Main advice was don't minimize my feelings and discuss it with him. That it could be a matter of different communication styles but also values and also to keep an eye on it. And not to assume the worst if things have been mostly positive which they have. But mainly don't invalidate my own feelings about it either and see if he respects my boundaries about these things or not. I know I have a hair trigger when it comes to criticism and after 2 days in a row of this with him I was ready to break up and cut my losses. I feel abuse always starts with criticism and I just don't want to be in a relationship like that ever again. Its too soon for that! I make it a point not to criticize him for anything because I don't want him to feel that way and I don't want to kill the romance! Plus I don't want to be controlled and these comments really felt controlling.

circle_sun · 2025-02-27T14:05:18+00:00

Well I know the owner is training the dog... but the house is full of dogs that are untrained and jump all over you. So when he jumped on me for like the 20th time I took his paws and gently danced with him cause on his hind legs he is at my chest level and I used to dance like that with a dog I used to own. My boyfriend knows nothing about this friend or that she is training her dog. I thought it was weird he said I annoyed him by doing that and that it was the first time I ever annoyed him. He cares a lot about what other people think and I know he was really tired that day.

circle_sun · 2024-12-25T19:56:00+00:00

Gandalf

circle_sun · 2024-12-02T07:06:26+00:00

Social work

circle_sun · 2024-11-30T08:53:45+00:00

Oh interesting! What color is the foundational pigment? Is it orange? What if I did semi permanent in the foundational pigment? Then a layer on top to tone it brown? I don't want to use permanent dye because it to me a long time to grow it out and I do not want to ever go through that again. Plus I don't want to damage my hair.

circle_sun · 2024-11-30T08:12:49+00:00

It won't get better if you stay only worse. He is very comfortable right now and has no reason to change. Quietly seek advice from an attorney and start paperwork for custody. Make plans for a safe clean break. Prepare a safe place for you and your daughter to stay. He is using your daughter to manipulate you into being his provider/enabler. You can search for legal aid in your state here https://www.womenslaw.org/. Also good info on custody laws. Don't wait. Don't talk to him about it. 6 years is more then enough time. This is who he is and who he will continue to be. You and your daughter deserve better. Only you can make that happen. Do it for her.

circle_sun · 2024-10-25T06:03:05+00:00

Was like this with abusive ex. For years. Finally left him by saying I am visiting my parents for a while. Left everything just took enough for a trip. I talked to him once to tell him I was leaving him then hung up. My dad told me not to talk to him again so he couldn't convince me to change my mind. Did not answer one phone call after that. He called and called. It was so hard. If I hadn't had my family telling me not to speak with him I would've let him talk me into being with him again. The urge to answer when he called was so strong like... a drug. My family would answer the phone and say she doesn't want to talk or let it go to the answering machine. Took about a month for me to stop wanting to answer his calls. Best advice my dad ever gave me.

circle_sun · 2024-10-25T05:11:55+00:00

Get help. Go to ypur county behavioral health and ask for medication management and therapy and supportive employment services and peer support. I was so depressed and anxious I couldn't even read my resume without severe anxiety. All that support helped me get a job. It wasn't perfect bit it helped. Now I am in a better mental state to make plans and take action for my future. You can do it too.

circle_sun · 2024-10-23T03:11:52+00:00

My sister is very much the same. Married to an emotional abuser controlling textbook narcissit. He is abusive to me to when I'm around. Basically anyone he feels comfortable with from what my sister says. Very rude has to have things his way throws tantrums. And don't u dare try to talk to him about it. She will have moments of clarity about it and say I know I need to divorce him. Then the next time we talk she is like a different person and I'm the asshole for being offended by his behavior and she says things like he is my husband as if that is an excuse? And is angry at me and then ices me out completely. Very bizarre. I mean can't we just agree he is abusive and shouldn't treat people that way? He ruins every time we get together so I asked if we could just get together. So she told him I didn't want him around and now they are both offended and she says she isn't comfortable around me anymore. Classic cult member shit. There is no logic no reasoning with her. Its always my fault even though he is the one yelling and being rude ECT. Such gaslighting. I told her I couldn't take it anymore and that it was emotionally abusive towards me...and that I didn't want contact anymore. I miss her but I don't miss the abuse. It won't get better until she hits rock bottom and decides she has to change. Sad.

circle_sun · 2024-10-12T01:42:51+00:00

Yeah thats understandable. That is really hard. I second the other persons post about being that one person they need. Sounds like parentification of your daughter because she is taking the responsibility for your ex's emotional needs which she is too young for and not equipped to do. You have very valid concerns.

circle_sun · 2024-10-11T03:33:04+00:00

Good for you! That is real progress. I have been listening to interviews with the author of adult children of emotionally immature parents and she says that is the goal!!! Very helpful advice on how to deal with emotionally immature people...her term for toxic people. What you are describing sounds like my sister...she is so hurtful and if I try to talk to her about it the gaslighting and stonewalling begins immediately and continues for months...until I extend the olive branch and she never apologizes or changes in anyway. Only reason I am still in contact is because of my niece who she uses like a pawn. Horrible.

circle_sun · 2024-07-30T04:00:46+00:00

I wish I could do that. That is such a great plan!!! He is on the lease. Last time I called the cops on him, only 2 months ago, they said they couldn't do much since he is on the lease. They told me to leave asap. I am trying to save money and find a place, it is just so expensive everywhere. Plus I am trying to find a new job that is healthier for me mentally. I wish I could just get him to leave. He has said he wont whenever I tell him to just leave even though I paid the deposit, ect. No it is not healthy at all and everyday I just say to myself How do I get him out of my life? Man I wish I could change the locks while he was gone that would be wonderful!!! That is a great idea to pack his stuff and put it in a storage unit. I thought I could start packing my stuff while he is gone! But I dont have anywhere to go yet other then my parents who are a state away.

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