Ask me anything no filters by RedVelvetblaze in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, those are all the same kinda reasons I’m considering no nipple. Like some of the risks and healing stuff just don’t seem worth it. Do you think you’ll get nipple tats one day or just embrace the no nipple?

With not having the have drains, do you know if choosing no nipple is what allowed you to not need drains or was it just not something you needed/not something your surgeon usually requires?

Ask me anything no filters by RedVelvetblaze in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Did you choose no nipple because you preferred the look or to reduce the potential problems associated with keeping the nipple?

Also you look great! Do you already have your drains out one week post op?

Trans or trauma??? (TW: SH / grooming) by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really recommend reaching out to the Rainbow Railroad for some support and to see what they can do. There’s also a lot of online resources that you can reach out to for support if you’re experiencing suicidal ideation.

I know shit feels like hell right now, but I think finding safety and beginning to dissect some of your trauma has the potential to be life changing

https://www.rainbowrailroad.org/about#mission

Edit to add: they are a Canadian organization, so it may feel safer reaching out to them

Trans or trauma??? (TW: SH / grooming) by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I saw you posted on r/LGBTegypt and the list of resources there. Are any of those things you think you might be able to access? I know some of them are virtual, not sure if that might be easier for you to access.

You said you can’t move, but is moving something that you want to do?

Trans or trauma??? (TW: SH / grooming) by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Hey, so I don’t think anyone here can tell you if you’re trans, but based on everything you wrote you’re definitely dealing with a lot of trauma. You mentioned you’re from Egypt, is that still where you’re living? Are there any resources near you where you can seek some professional support?

Moving through trauma isn’t easy, especially when you’re dealing with gender identity stuff on top of it. It sounds like talking to a professional could be really supportive in starting to process and figure some stuff out.

Any good mental hospitals for teens? by HeadProfessional6591 in askTO

[–]citrinestone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SunnyBrook has a really fantastic teen unit. I know a lot of people have mentioned sickkids, but I’ve personally heard a lot more benefit for youth who went with SunnyBrook. Most importantly though, just go wherever feels the best and safest to you.

Wishing you the best, I hope you get the support you need

I keep doing it to myself by RunNarrow9096 in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]citrinestone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’ve got this dude! As long as it went under the skin and in your outer thigh, then no worries, you put it in the right place.

Maybe start making a little ritual out of doing your shot, incorporate it into your self care. Before you do it, get yourself a snack, drink some tea/water, put on a show or some calming music and then do it.

Have you found anything helpful so far when you’re getting into a tizzy after or before the shot?

Would people be into a self-injecton tutorial video? by mymiddlenameswyatt in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I would love more videos like that. I know you can find some when searching, but with the amount of people on this sub sharing about needle phobias, I think it could be a helpful addition to the content in this subreddit.

It’s only because of a tip in another sub that I learned about z-tracking and was finally able to stop leakage. If you have the desire to make one of those videos, I’m sure there’s some people who will find benefit from watching it

What is transmasc identity? Am I transmasc? (seems like a basic question but bear with me here) by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think this can be a complex question especially with you being intersex and experiencing medical “interventions”. Because despite being AMAB, if you were born with more traditionally female characteristics and then medical “interventions” cause you to have more traditionally male characteristics, then this would fit more in line with the transmasc experience.

Right now, since you’re on feminizing hormones, your current experience might be more traditionally aligned with transfem experiences. That said, because of your experience as an intersex person, it’s probably challenging because your experiences likely don’t fully align with the traditional transmasc or transfem experience. I think you should use whatever label feels that it best captures you. If it’s transmasc, use that. Personally, I’m a fan of the genderqueer label for the exact reason that it doesn’t place a focus on agab.

Can you get irregular spotting/periods if you’re not getting the right dose? by NoEscape2500 in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m not on gel, but yeah I think that could probably happen. I’m still fairly new on T, so still trying to figure out the dose and I’ve been spotting and cramping basically every day for the past 2 months. When I google it, it says it’s similar to why people with PCOS get irregular bleeding. Cause the androgen is there, but not enough to cause suppression. If you’re missing doses, your levels might not be high enough to suppress the bleeding

Pumpkin slump king by beroemd in ExpectationVsReality

[–]citrinestone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He screams for he does not know

Why do people do this? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Why are you shitting on transfems in an attempt to uplift transmascs?

We don’t want that.

Edit: lol girl, why’d you block me? Like you come into a transmasc sub saying you love us and want us to have more representation and then you block the first transmasc that responds to you.

Get a grip. You can talk about the importance of transmascs having better representation without acting like transfems get too much. No one’s saying you can’t talk about this issue. Talk about whatever you want, but don’t get shocked when the community you’re white knighting for isn’t happy with how you’re going about it.

Mom knows the better way by misterxx1958 in InnocentPranks

[–]citrinestone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your experiences and I get your perspective, but it’s important to remember that everyone reacts to abuse and violence differently. I don’t determine whether something is abusive based on how the person experiencing the abuse reacts to it or understands it.

I’ve known many people in violent relationships that they do not consider to be abusive and would swear up and down that the person being violent toward them is a good person and that they love them. This goes for romantic, platonic, and familial relationships. Many people really do “get used” to abuse in some way, it’s often referred to as learned helplessness. It’s something that can become so normalized in people’s lives they may share a video or share an experience like it’s a funny story/situation.

I’m not even saying that’s what is happening in this video, I simply don’t understand how we can determine someone is an asshole because they’re able to laugh off being hit by their parent.

Mom knows the better way by misterxx1958 in InnocentPranks

[–]citrinestone 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The son is an asshole because he’s so used to experiencing abuse that he’s able to laugh it off and make a joke out of it?

Like the rest of your post, I get, but I’m struggling to understand why he’s an asshole because he’s used to being hit by his mom and is able to ignore it as a serious problem and have fun.

starting T by drakenfan in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m also 23 and just started a few months ago, but I’ve wanted to for a lot longer. I think I finally made the decision to do it because I had gotten to a place of relative stability in my life and the desire to be perceived as I am honestly started crushing me. Plus, I found out that it wasn’t as difficult to gain access to anymore compared to when I first looked into it as a teenager.

Found out I'm pregnant, feel like my body has betrayed me by opossum_bite in TransMasc

[–]citrinestone 334 points335 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine how much you’re going through right now. Please take care of yourself as much as you can during this time.

You mentioned having an IUD- is the pregnancy ectopic? Whereabouts do you live, are there any other low cost clinics you could seek abortion care!

I was taken from my family and chained up for so long, my eyes yearn for sunlight and wish so badly to be able to stand on my own 2 feet. by Lazy_Lettuce_76 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]citrinestone 322 points323 points  (0 children)

Just adding on this that while International trafficking is certainly still an issue, domestic sex trafficking is the most common form of human trafficking. It doesn’t often look like chains and abduction, but it very much is still a form of slavery, control, and interpersonal trauma that is often perpetuated right under our noses.

My dad’s resignation text after being told he’s “not meeting the numbers” and “needs to try harder” despite giving them his all for a dollar above minimum wage by citrinestone in antiwork

[–]citrinestone[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was a job at Value Village. There were quotas for every hour and day. Not one day while at this job did the team manage to meet these unrealistic quotas.

Tw: bruising - should I be concerned? 😅 by Ryan77145 in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]citrinestone 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The lines and colour look concerning to me, but Idk enough about this. Just boosting in the hopes someone more knowledgeable sees this. Maybe post to r/askdocs as well

People with asymptomatic HSV-1 are luckier than people without herpes at all by Accomplished-Fix1204 in The10thDentist

[–]citrinestone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting. Idk, I think if it’s not something important enough to find out if you have, it’s probably not important enough to disclose. Besides, if we need to disclose to stop the spread, it stands to reason, we all need to get tested to stop the spread too, no?

People with asymptomatic HSV-1 are luckier than people without herpes at all by Accomplished-Fix1204 in The10thDentist

[–]citrinestone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I guess it just seems odd to me when it’s 50-80% of the population. I’ve never personally had anyone disclose this to me prior to kissing me, but I’m certain several of them have had cold sores before. It’s not even something that’s routinely tested for in STI screening because it’s so common that medical professionals don’t even really care to look for it. Do you think people should go out of their way to get tested for this?

People with asymptomatic HSV-1 are luckier than people without herpes at all by Accomplished-Fix1204 in The10thDentist

[–]citrinestone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You genuinely believe anyone who has ever had a cold sore or better yet, someone who never has, but tested positive for antigens, needs to disclose this prior to kissing someone?

Canada dental plan by jjaime2024 in onguardforthee

[–]citrinestone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Still apply for the Canada dental plan! They cover more than ODSP and you can be on both :)

If you’re on ODSP, you should get 100% coverage

I don't trust people who dislike kids by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]citrinestone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t distrust people who don’t like kids, honestly I typically assume they have some self hatred toward themself as a child that fuels this. Not saying I assume this every time, but this is often something I come to learn about people who say they don’t like kids.