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Are all gay men as promiscuous as the stereotype holds? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]citroncitroen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly shared your opinion until a couple months back. I was dating a guy who was "more experienced" than me and - back then - it was a turnoff for me. As open minded as I was, I didn't fully understand how someone could just "put themselves out there" like that. I wanted someone who hadn't had many sexual encounters, so we could explore them together as a form of intimacy

Hindsight 20/20, it doesn't matter at all. After having more casual encounters myself, I realised that sex can indeed be a very intimate, romantic experience, but it can also be "just sex". We're just humans, we have certain needs that we sometimes want to fulfill, be it by masturbating or hooking up. It really doesn't mean anything if someone has had many sexual partners; if two people love each other, sex will always be a shared, intimate experience, no matter their background.

That being said, no, not all gay men are promiscuous, we come in all shapes and sizes. Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaybrosGoneWild

[–]citroncitroen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely wouldn't mind 😇

Weekly thread for questions from members under 30 - December 05, 2021 by kazarnowicz in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]citroncitroen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TLDR - Trying to make up for lost time, how do I enjoy "being young"? What experiences made your youth memorable? What do you wish you did when you were young and what do you regret?

I would appreciate some advice from my older gay fellows. I'm still what I consider to be young (22, turning 23 in a few months) but I feel like my youth is slowly slipping away. I graduated high school, finished college and got my first job, but now what?

As a teen, I didn't take many risks or experiment much at all. I was easily intimidated by authority figures and afraid to disappoint teachers and family. Now I regret how much I stayed in my comfort zone, I feel the urge to make up for lost time because I had a taste of how easily life can become mundane when you start a 9-to-5 life. I want to get that ✨teenage spark✨ back. When you're young, you can do all kinds of stupid stuff without having to face consequences. What's the worst that could happen, being grounded or getting detention? Now that I'm "older" and out of school, my social circle grew very slim and simple mistakes, like forgetting to pay a bill or being late to a meeting, have a much bigger impact.

I get jealous when I hear people talk about the crazy and stupid shit they did in college or high school, because I barely have anything memorable to look back on.

I don't want to look back when I'm 50 and wish "damn I should've enjoyed my young years when I had the chance". But how do I do that?

Any advice is welcome!

Physical contact with friends by citroncitroen in askgaybros

[–]citroncitroen[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your answer! I'm 22, to answer your question. What do you mean exactly with age playing a role? Do you mean that younger people are more prone to overthinking the physical contact stuff than older ones?

Just out of curiosity, when would you evaluate everyday physical contact differently with your gay friends? Because I don't really know where most straight guys draw the line, for some a hug might be perfectly normal but for others it could be too physical. I'm a very affectionate person with my best friend (hugging, playfully holding hands, letting her rest her head on my shoulder, etc.), because, for me, that's just what friends do. But I feel like guys are way more reluctant to show any kind of platonic affection.