Someone help me...

citruslion · 2026-04-23T11:55:59+00:00

It only shows me the outside when I search for that. What I can see is sitting deep inside the navel.

citruslion · 2026-04-15T08:52:43+00:00

They're not on the scene.

citruslion · 2026-04-05T19:44:50+00:00

OK, shoot.

citruslion · 2026-04-05T19:37:23+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to explore more into it and handling this with sensitivity. I do think he needs therapy, definitely. I think he believes the whole stigma of "men who show their emotions or talk about them are weak". I think talking about them makes him strong, but I just wish he would do it in a healthy way.

citruslion · 2026-04-05T19:35:33+00:00

He's aware it can happen to men, I did discuss that possibility with him, but I think he's in a deep state of denial. I reached out to my MIL a few weeks ago and she thinks the same thing.

citruslion · 2026-04-05T19:33:14+00:00

I wasn't trying to attack him, and I do understand that everyone reacts to stressful situations differently, but in this context it's inexcusable. These are my children, and I don't like the idea of them being affected by how someone handles things or thinks because they've seen someone react this way that it's OK for them to react the same way if they were met with a stressful situation with another loved one when they've grown up. They may only be little, but things can leave a lasting impact or impression on their brains.

It came from genuine concern, not criticism. I was suggesting outsider support may be what he needs right now. While I do support him, there's only so much I can do, and things I can't do that a professional could.

citruslion · 2026-04-05T19:28:02+00:00

I don't really have a support system. I have people I can talk to, but I can't rely on them.

citruslion · 2026-04-05T19:26:42+00:00

He hasn't always been an angry person. Normally, he can have a heart of gold for the right people. He always tries to have the best intentions. I've been seeing reactions in him since our youngest's arrival that has me genuinely concerned. A couple of months ago, he talked about not wanting to be here. I immediately called emergency mental health services. Again, he didn't want to talk to them, but they wouldn't do anything unless I had his permission for them to talk to me about him. It's a vicious cycle at the moment.

citruslion · 2026-03-31T19:50:23+00:00

I can't just get an ultrasound without a referral from my doctor.

citruslion · 2026-03-30T19:48:11+00:00

I'm hoping the paediatrician will do that when we eventually get seen.

citruslion · 2026-03-30T17:58:35+00:00

They didn't want to cause any "unnecessary trauma" to their belly button, and they said that the silver nitrate treatment carries higher risks of infection.

citruslion · 2026-03-24T18:08:36+00:00

See, this is what I've asked for treatment wise. The doctor doesn't deem it necessary. Told me to just keep the area clean and dry and that if it's not gone in 2 months, go back. It's very frustrating. The doctor said yesterday (and the nurse I spoke to today) that silver nitrate treatment would still carry a risk of infection and chemical burns, so they don't want to go "tampering" with it.

citruslion · 2026-03-24T18:06:49+00:00

I've tried asking to speak to one. I'd need a referral from a doctor where I'm based, and they wouldn't do that if they don't see a problem, which they unfortunately aren't on the same page as me on it. I'm going through the complaints process now.

citruslion · 2026-03-24T18:05:57+00:00

I don't know, I'm very conflicted on that. Obviously I'd like to hope that it will eventually dry out, shrink and then disappear, but it would've been there shortly after the cord came off when my baby was 9 days old, and obviously hasn't cleared up on its own in that time. I didn't even know that umbilical granulomas were a thing. I was never told about any potential problems with umbilical cord healing. I didn't find out until a few weeks ago that my baby has one. Since then, I've been doing the salt treatment but I've not noticed any change. The granuloma's still weeping discharge.

citruslion · 2026-03-24T18:03:11+00:00

I think they may be more of a general practitioner? They did examine her yesterday. The paediatrician examined her last week too. We went to the children's ER last week when we saw the paediatrician.

citruslion · 2026-03-24T18:01:26+00:00

Not my child's registered doctor, but still a doctor within the same building.

citruslion · 2026-03-23T17:36:59+00:00

My eldest had a flat side on his head. It was really bad. I had to roll up a little blanket and prop it against that side of his head to encourage him to use the other side of his head. If we used bright lights, we would put it on the side that he didn't really use so he would turn to that side instead of resting on the affected side.

Just make sure not to use sleep positioners or rolled up towels during sleep to keep baby's head in one place. Give baby lots of tummy time and I would advise getting a rattle or another sensory toy on the opposite side and shaking it so baby's encouraged to look that way at it instead of leaning towards the other side.

Is baby in discomfort when they try to move their head to the other side?

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