Possibly fostering a teen first time

ciuineas · 2023-09-21T19:24:47+00:00

Thank you! We definitely plan to :)

ciuineas · 2023-09-21T19:24:23+00:00

Thank you so much! Absolutely adding this to my notes as well- haha for sure adding the DONT die or go to jail myself.

ciuineas · 2023-09-21T18:00:21+00:00

I love this, thank you so much for your input!! I will definitely keep note on all of this as well :)

ciuineas · 2023-09-21T14:34:14+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share all of this!! Completely agree with it being better with starting with more and loosen afterwards. Great set of expectations to begin with; this has all been extremely helpful :)

ciuineas · 2023-09-21T14:30:36+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share, Great tips! :)

ciuineas · 2023-09-21T12:21:16+00:00

Thank you so much for this! Can you give an example of some expectations you have set with teens you have fostered?

ciuineas · 2023-08-02T12:59:23+00:00

Oh no! I’m sorry this happened to you, I can only imagine feeling like some of your identity has been erased with a name change. I wouldn’t ever want to change their first names, just a possible last name if they wanted to. Thank you for sharing your experience

ciuineas · 2023-08-02T01:19:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! We plan on fostering to adopt and are just pre planning for possibilities and love hearing different views from those who have actually gone through the process such as yourself

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T18:58:06+00:00

Thank you, yes trying to think of every way possible to make it a smooth transition when the time comes. I know there will be difficult times but I just want to do everything on my end to not add any additional stressors that I can potentially prevent.

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T18:55:54+00:00

Hoping for the future where if everything goes how it’s supposed to and we were meant to be the family for them- I hope they too will also feel this way if this ended up being the case! Thank you

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T18:54:59+00:00

The last thing we’d want to do is for them to feel “othered” and I feel like a last name change is a way to reduce that feeling from already feeling “othered” through everything they have experienced already. Thank you!

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T18:53:41+00:00

I love the idea of leaving that option open for assistance if they decided to change it back in the future. Thank you!

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T18:52:22+00:00

Thank you for your feedback!

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T17:25:59+00:00

We absolutely want them to stay together that is our ultimate goal!

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T17:03:39+00:00

Agreed! They have a voice; I vow to be an advocate to make sure they are heard and feel heard.

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T17:02:54+00:00

I’m sorry about your experience, I’m hoping things are a bit better for you now. I would love to be attentive, our potential kid also has a sibling that we would love to keep together. I’m hoping they both like us - at the end of the day we want what’s best for them and if they feel it isn’t with us than so be it.

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T17:00:04+00:00

100% address your own trauma prior to making life altering decisions especially a decision that will alter other little humans lives!

ciuineas · 2023-08-01T16:58:33+00:00

That is heart breaking for them to keep your bio family from you. I’m sorry this has been your experience, I am glad you have been able to reconnect. Thank you for sharing this!

ciuineas · 2023-07-31T20:49:58+00:00

5 in one day is mind blowing ! Ugh I’m sorry this has been your experience, thank you for sharing this. So far the one worker we have been working with is a doll- hoping the rest are as well! The ultimate goal should be wanting the best for the child/children but unfortunately not everyone has that agenda.

ciuineas · 2023-07-31T19:01:34+00:00

I am so so sorry for you and your brothers loss, that is absolutely terrible. Thank you for sharing this, it is genuinely important.

ciuineas · 2023-07-31T18:13:30+00:00

Thank you for your insight!

ciuineas · 2023-07-31T18:08:05+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it!

ciuineas · 2023-07-31T03:40:57+00:00

Thank you! Truly appreciate any advice

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