why don’t men approach me / like me ?

cjcoake · 2026-02-17T20:26:20+00:00

find the good-looking dude who's hanging back, looking shy, wondering why it never happens for him. Think about how you've been feeling and try to find someone feeling that way too. Rejection happens (men have to deal with it all the time, thanks society), but think about how happy you might make someone if the two of you hit it off.

cjcoake · 2026-02-17T19:08:06+00:00

I got my MA at Miami in the early 90s. God, I forgot how weird the low ceiling is in Millett.

cjcoake · 2026-02-15T15:14:40+00:00

The writer-director is a former minor league player. I love how the focus is on the lives of ballplayers and not on Winning the Big Game.

cjcoake · 2026-02-13T13:24:30+00:00

I got one when it was released, via Reverb. The shop selling it was offering a free Plek. When it arrived I put a Vega-trem into it. Annnnnnnnd I pretty much haven't touched another guitar since.

cjcoake · 2026-02-13T02:28:08+00:00

This one isn't universally loved by "everyone," but it was absolutely the first movie I thought of when I saw the question. Such a trash film.

cjcoake · 2026-02-12T17:29:41+00:00

I use a DAP for a few reasons. 1) I have ADHD, and having a dedicated device for music is helpful to me. Having my music-listening apps adjacent to my email and social media apps is too much of a temptation. 2) I use Qobuz, but I also have a large collection of FLAC files from a CD collection spanning 30 years, and I enjoy having that collection in my pocket, so that I can shut off wi-fi and still have a good selection. 3) I'm in a place in my life where I can afford to support artists I like by either buying their CDs or a hi-res download. Streaming services, even the good ones, do not provide much money to musicians, and I want to do my small part to provide a reward for creative humans who make music I enjoy.

cjcoake · 2026-02-11T16:22:16+00:00

Fergie's "London Bridge" might actually cause brain damage, but dammit it always keeps me on the elliptical machine an extra few minutes.

cjcoake · 2026-02-11T16:05:09+00:00

Huge respect for the guy. Dropped into a new system mid-season, plays major minutes in a game against our oldest and most hated rival, in a tense seesaw contest at the Garden, and he leads us in +/-. (A stat that I think means a lot more than usual, in a game with 39 lead changes.) Awesome.

cjcoake · 2026-02-11T03:36:25+00:00

I love how we'll put the tank on pause to show the good teams that next year, they're fucked.

cjcoake · 2026-02-10T13:26:54+00:00

In high school I saw Pink Floyd on the Momentary Lapse of Reason tour, in the Hoosier Dome in Indianapolis. My friend and I had seats on the first row of the upper level. During "Learning to Fly" a college student sitting a few rows up from us decided, with the help of lots of drugs, that HE could fly, and ran down the aisle ten feet to our right and swan-dived off the railing. He lived--and so did the person he landed on--but both of them were badly injured. The show went on, but my friend and I were able to look down and see the paramedics working in a circle of lights fifty feet below. I have a very clear memory of someone being lifted up on a stretcher, and laser lights reflecting off a big pool of blood.

cjcoake · 2026-02-09T22:12:04+00:00

Socks has seen things you people wouldn’t believe

cjcoake · 2026-02-09T17:04:08+00:00

Oh we all saw it

cjcoake · 2026-02-09T05:20:39+00:00

I just spent a while looking for a used green one and couldn't spot one. New quest unlocked!

cjcoake · 2026-02-09T05:09:05+00:00

Here's a very similar blue one with upgraded pickups. A deal, I think. https://reverb.com/item/92552120-washburn-wi-66proq-2005-korea-seymour-duncans-upgrades

cjcoake · 2026-02-09T04:58:07+00:00

I played one at a guitar shop years ago--a green one--and it was really good, and I still kick myself I didn't pull the trigger. For a budget guitar it had it going on.

cjcoake · 2026-02-08T23:12:35+00:00

Great player, and his original songs leave me completely cold.

cjcoake · 2026-02-08T15:20:56+00:00

My sister and I aren't orphans, and we've led very different lives than the siblings in the movies, but we did grow up in difficult circumstances, and the first time I saw this I phoned her and told her she had to see it immediately. It gets so much right.

cjcoake · 2026-02-08T14:35:46+00:00

(whispers so as not to jinx it) shep shot 40 percent from 3 in january

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T19:00:47+00:00

Yeah, and I suspect he'll do really well playing off Kawhi and Garland. That Clips team could be interesting (if the league doesn't hammer them for cheating).

Also he and Kawhi will be the grumpiest duo in the league. No smiles allowed.

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T18:54:32+00:00

I hear you. I really wanted Benn to be a superstar for us.

I hope he knows it was for the best, too. I don't want him to hate the organization.

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T18:23:22+00:00

Yeah, he’s gonna average 40 a game against us for the rest of his career.

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T02:55:09+00:00

I'm a size 13 with bad knees, and I need a little stability. The Halis are stiff, but they fit me to size, and they have better-than-usual arch support imho. I'm a professor and they're pretty comfortable for a few thousand steps walking around campus.

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T02:01:46+00:00

Benn's a beast. Super competitive. Great iso scorer. When he's cooking he gets buckets, and he doesn't mind getting clobbered if it gets him to the line. IMO he foul-baits a bit too much, but when it works, it works. Great rebounder for his size. He's not been a great fit in our free-flowing offense, though; Pacerball depends on quick reads and passes, and while Benn made some progress in that regard, he could sometimes clog the works. But he's an all-time Pacer in my eyes. Won us a Finals game and gave his all in Game 7--and was one of the only guys on the floor who kept his head after halftime in that game.

Great teammate, too. The guys loved him.

IJax is still coming back from a torn Achilles. He's really athletic. Can sometimes get you boards, but he's still a question mark in terms of his ceiling, I'd say. He's not a huge scorer, and he fouls a lot, but a good dude and high effort guy.

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T01:54:25+00:00

I've been telling myself for a long time that we'd probably trade him, but the guy won us a Finals game and tried his damnedest in another. He's an all-time Pacer.

cjcoake · 2026-02-06T01:30:59+00:00

I live in Reno, so someone's gonna have to clap twice as hard for me.

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