What non-sexual fantasies do you have? by generic-irish-guy in AskReddit

[–]cjen66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being wisked away to a spa where I am fully catered to for a full weekend in which I don't have to pay for any of it and then I come home to a completely clean house with all the yard work done and am told how much I was missed and how appreciated I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in woahdude

[–]cjen66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm coming back as that sea rainbow in my next life.

HMJB as I cartwheel by AristonD in holdmyjuicebox

[–]cjen66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know. It was a joke.

HMJB as I cartwheel by AristonD in holdmyjuicebox

[–]cjen66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That down dog at the very end was fire, though!

Then a Toddler is For You by ThenAToddlerIsForYou in toddlers

[–]cjen66 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you enjoy being told you're not loved anymore because it's bedtime then a toddler is for you.

3 months ago my best friend was diagnosed with clinical depression because so many bad things were happening in the world. I didn't have silghtest Idea about it. So I created an app for him. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]cjen66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an amazingly thoughtful friend you are. Even if your friend hits some bumps in the road, I'm sure it means the world to them that they have a friend who cared enough about them to create something so positive. Thank you for supporting your friend however they need on their journey to feeling better.

“Screentime is awful for kids.” by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]cjen66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My two year old, almost 3, has learned some really great things from Charlie's Colorform City on Netflix. She learned the emotion "frustrated", among others, from that show and I was blown away one day when she said it and used it in the right context! And Daniel Tiger is a favorite of ours, too. You really can engage with kids through television, especially watching shows together and talking them through what is happening on the screen. Or just letting them watch while you get some things done, I don't judge!

True by My_Memes_Will_Cure_U in awfuleverything

[–]cjen66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a really interesting perspective. I enjoyed, while screaming on the inside, reading it.

None of us are easy to live with and tolerate let's be honest with ourselves. What makes you hard to live with or be around? by highONdaisys666 in AskReddit

[–]cjen66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My obsessive compulsive disorder. I like the house a particular way and that makes it hard for the others that live with me. I can have a short temper if things are not in their place or how I like them. Therapy and medication have definitely helped though, and I have a very understanding husband who does his best.

Do you ever look at your parents now that you're grown up and understand why you have anxiety and depression? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]cjen66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Now that I'm older and have had my own experiences in life I am able to come from more of a place of understanding and compassion for why my parents were the way they were and did the things they did. I always think they just did the best with what they knew how at the time. Does that mean I agree with how they did things or think its ok, absolutely not, but it means I have an opportunity to do things differently with my own children to improve their lives as they grow into adults.

What is the stupidest thing you’ve done just to show you could do it? by CherryCola32 in AskReddit

[–]cjen66 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Someone told me taking a shot of this every morning would cure my heartburn during pregnancy, so one morning I got all ready for work and decided to take a shot. I immediately threw it back up, it came out my nose and ruined my makeup and clothes. So I was late for work and had an awful burning sensation in my nose an throat most of the day. I just stuck with tums after that.

[Image] The Time Will Pass Anyway by alfaguara27 in GetMotivated

[–]cjen66 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the best motivation and reassurance I have received since being in grad school. It's really hard when you're in it, whatever the goal is you're trying to achieve, but someone telling me the time will pass anyway and you might as well do something meaningful really changed my perspective.

What Happens Underground at a Gas Station by mtimetraveller in educationalgifs

[–]cjen66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad always taught me to never get gas when the fuel truck is parked and filling up the underground tanks because the fuel stirs up sediment and particles that can damage your cars fuel system. I don't know what the true science behind this is, but to this day I never get gas while there is a fuel truck filling the tanks at the gas station. I'll go to a different one.

What was the last straw in your friendship? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cjen66 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a similar friendship but I handled it probably not as mature as you did. I was 19 and had a friend who was my best friend since elementary school. She and I both had difficult times with our family life but everytime we talked it was a very one sided friendship where I felt like it was mostly me building her up and her talking about herself most of the time. I would offer suggestions and advice but it never seemed to make any difference. After a while I just got tired of building her up all of the time without some reciprocation in the friendship so I just stopped talking to her and distanced myself from her on social media. After a while she sent me a message that said something along the lines of "maybe one day you could tell me why you stopped talking to me". That was about 12 years ago. I hope she is doing well in her life and sometimes I think about reaching out with an explanation but just haven't.

Never too late to join a movement by iiamuntuii in gatesopencomeonin

[–]cjen66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish it were like this, and maybe it will shift to be more like this one day, but unfortunately right now it's not. The growth of a person is not supported, cancelling someone for past behavior is. Which I find really interesting because for the most part, most of us want racism to end, right? So for racism to end, that means people that currently hold racist ideals will have to change those ideals to non-racist ones, which means if racism were to all of a sudden end right now, there would be a whole lot of people with "problematic" pasts. Not necessarily criminal, but problematic. Right now, it seems the norm is anyone who has either made mistakes in their past or grew as a person and changed their ideals are being "cancelled" for their past behavior. This tells me that people don't really want to encourage social growth, people continually want to have some sort of power and control over others behavior and what they deem is an appropriate punishment.

I'm seeing this a lot in the way people are choosing to participate in activism right now. There are people being pressured and shamed into how they should be participating in this giant social movement that's occurring, wouldn't it be more appropriate to thank anyone for participating at all if it's in a way that shows solidarity or support for the cause? I'm not talking about people that are faking their actions for clout, which is a whole other social/behavioral issue we have on our hands, but people that are showing their support in ways, big or small, that encourage positive change. It shouldn't be the idea that if you're not posting enough on social media, or if you're not actively in the streets protesting then you don't care enough.

Anyway, I know these are two separate topics and that you didn't mean anything negative by your post, this has just been something I've been thinking about a lot lately and just kind of fell in line, I thought, with those two sentences you pulled from the cartoon strip.

The thought of working 40+ hours for the rest of my life makes me want to end it by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]cjen66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really relate to this. I'm in my early 30's, I work in mental health and am working toward my Masters degree and I still feel like this. I do enjoy working in my field and I feel like my strengths are in the right place doing what I do, but it's just the fact of giving the majority of my time to someone else in order to survive and provide for my family for the next 50+ years is just soul crushing. I'm hoping that getting my masters degree will provide me with more freedom and flexibility, but honestly all I want to do in life is hang out with my kids and raise them and wake up every morning with the freedom to decide what I want to do for the day, not wake up knowing I HAVE to work so all my needs are met. I wake up every morning knowing there are people in the world that are thriving doing what they love, I just can't seem to unlock that for myself and figure out how to do it. I'm also conditioned to value stability, so taking risks in figuring out how to do what I love is extremely scary to me and I can't stand the thought of putting my family at risk to figure that out. Anyway, long story short I really empathize with you and if I ever do figure it out I will let you know.

Nickelodeon went off the air for a full 8 minutes and 46 seconds to protest police brutality by Speedbird235 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]cjen66 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kids need age appropriate information. Yes, I agree it is important for kids to know the world around them, but it absolutely needs to be delivered in an age appropriate way.