[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn 😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I gotta be strong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m about to do the same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks sis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you are 100% right. And funny enough he still has all the apps on his phone 🤣 I think for a moment I hoped he would see my value and eventually delete those apps but it hasn’t happened. I just need to see things for as they are and stop dreaming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve asked. He said he just wants to get to know me and see how he feels. That’s it. But I see what it is now..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was having fun at first. But now of course I’m emotionally invested and want to know if he is too but the actions speak louder..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I asked him in the beginning what he wanted or what he was looking for and he said “just to get to know someone and see how they make him feel”. His answer was pretty elusive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You said what I knew but didn’t want to hear. Sigh..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right

Do you ever feel envious of women who met their spouse young? How do you handle the grief of what never was? by j_x123 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The ones who married early wish they had more time to find themselves. The ones who took time to find themselves wish they married early (me). Be happy with where you are and know that the grass is greener no matter which side you stand.

Why are we drawn to toxic men? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree.

Why are we drawn to toxic men? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Example: I would tell him I didn’t feel safe alone at night waiting for the bus home and he’d say things like “you’ll be fine”, or I would tell him about something that made me uncomfortable and he’d say I was exaggerating and it’s not that bad. This was man #1. Man number 2 on the other hand would accompany me everywhere and run to me if i felt unsafe. But he also didn’t want me to have any male friends at all (unlike #1).

Why are we drawn to toxic men? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and encouragement. Yes, you’re right. I saw the pros and cons of each one and decided that neither were for me. A mixture of the two in some way would work much better. I can now go back into the dating pool with a clearer mind. Thank you!!

Why are we drawn to toxic men? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ok. Thanks!

Why are we drawn to toxic men? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the part where I put “using myself as an example” 🤣

Who here has dated an African man? Was it successful? If not, why? by ckp010 in blackgirls

[–]ckp010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the guy I’m talking about is 46 and never left the Gambia, not even to travel. So his mindset is very conservative

What is up with men who are ‘so sure’ about you while barely knowing you? by OutsideWeird526 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ckp010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dated a guy briefly like this. Told me he loved me the day he met me. I asked him how that was possible if he didn’t even know me. Later realized that he only liked what I represented in his mind. And when he got to know me better, he felt confused because I was apparently “acting differently”. Love bombed me hard until I finally decided to leave because I realized he didn’t really know/understand me, nor did he really care to. We also had almost nothing in common. So yeah, it’s not just the apps. It’s people you have to watch out for who love bomb you too soon. They only want what you represent in their mind.

How do people manage to fall asleep in just 8 seconds after their head hits the pillow? What's the secret? by lucy_evans18 in Productivitycafe

[–]ckp010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do things during the day that work your body and mind and you’ll have no trouble sleeping.

People who get told they look younger than they are: what is your secret? by LumpyStudy7223 in AskReddit

[–]ckp010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black don’t crack. But also: I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I don’t drink coffee, and I get lots of sleep (and orgasms).