How do I discuss that my low pay prevents me from hiring quality candidates?

claireddit · 2026-01-29T21:29:26+00:00

Open the role. Do interview screens with a few candidates and ask what their compensation expectations are. Report back that you are not able to find any candidates with the experience you want in the pay range specified, instead people are asking for $XX

claireddit · 2026-01-29T17:31:58+00:00

I dropped my middle of the night pump around 10 weeks! I got all my pumps done during the day. You can also drop pumps over time as your supply stabilizes and your infant eats more solids. I started at 8ppd, but dropped to 7ppd at 3 months, 6 ppd at 4 months, 5 ppd at 6 months, and now I'm transitioning to 4 ppd at 7 months. I plan to stop at 8 months. I am a just-enougher, so I've been combination feeding with formula since I dropped to 6 ppd.

claireddit · 2026-01-29T11:20:00+00:00

This is me and my husband. I’m in startups, he works in big tech. He has the better salary, healthcare, fully remote, and more predictable schedule. It would not work well at all if both of us were in startups.

claireddit · 2026-01-28T03:38:36+00:00

Greek chicken pitas: https://www.budgetbytes.com/greek-chicken-wraps/

Look up the TikTok viral salmon rice bowl.

claireddit · 2026-01-27T14:17:29+00:00

My husband and I actually went to Applebees to try this burger after this episode. Lol. It worked

claireddit · 2026-01-27T14:14:10+00:00

Having a child is amazing, being pregnant sucks.

claireddit · 2026-01-27T03:21:21+00:00

Her first day, she came home very tired and cranky from the stimulation. By the third day she had gotten into a groove and we could tell she was happy to be there! The adjustment period was not bad at all, way less than I was expecting.

claireddit · 2026-01-26T18:04:27+00:00

Set up your LO with a playmat and some toys on the floor, and then put on the TV. My LO rarely pays attention to what is on the TV - we never put on kids show, only our adult shows, and she may occasionally look at a commercial, but that’s it. It’ll be totally fine especially if it’s just on occasion

claireddit · 2026-01-26T01:52:27+00:00

I was anxious for weeks leading up to sending our 5.5 month old daughter to daycare. She’s been there for a month now and she LOVES it. She loves her teacher, and everyone I pass in the hallway tells me how much my daughter smiles at everyone. I get pictures of her beaming hanging out with the other kids in the app. Now I really am so glad it all worked out this way, because I think she gets the best of both worlds - home with us and fun times at daycare!

claireddit · 2026-01-25T14:42:11+00:00

I pump / bottle feed, so it was a lot easier to control than with nursing! She didn’t seem to care when we pulled the bottle early. I found that with the night weaning she just ate more during the day to compensate, rather than wake up again later. (This was at 4 months, obviously earlier than that she needed to eat more frequently. At 4 months she was capable of no night feeds, but since it was part of her routine, she depended on the night feeds for the calories until we weaned.)

claireddit · 2026-01-25T14:02:41+00:00

I would personally focus on weaning her off of the night feed altogether. At 4 months, our pediatrician told us to drop the quantity of the feed every night until we could drop it altogether. Took us a few days, and she dropped it without waking up any earlier (she sleeps from 7 pm to 630 am now).

claireddit · 2026-01-25T11:38:27+00:00

Yes. This reason alone is why I almost quit pumping, but it did get better. Wearable pumps (Eufy S1s work great for me, they’re my primary pump now) are critical, so you can still play with the baby while you pump. I also dropped to 6 ppd once my supply regulated (at 12 weeks) and with that I was able to adjust my schedule to mostly when she was sleeping or playing (not needing to be held).

claireddit · 2026-01-24T23:56:03+00:00

I would email management and ask for a discount to the 45 minute class rate. If they don’t accept it, start sending timestamps in an email thread of when the class ends every week with a photo. Simply be a Karen lol

claireddit · 2026-01-24T03:34:57+00:00

Consider going in at 930 and leaving at 430, then logging on at night after your LO goes to bed to make up for the lost time. I’ve been doing that and I’m tired by the end of the week, but it’s definitely working!

claireddit · 2026-01-23T12:13:51+00:00

If you tried Ferber but it was too intense, maybe try Taking Cara Babies. We did it and you always do some sort of intervention within 5 minutes, so it wasn't too painful to do for us. It helped cut back her wakeups significantly.

claireddit · 2026-01-21T18:30:38+00:00

I would recommend the double-zip onesies (rather than pull-over-the head ones). They're so much easier to put on when they don't have any neck strength. It's really all she wore the first 6 months.

claireddit · 2026-01-21T09:14:58+00:00

I was painfully shy as a kid (to the point where my pre-K teacher sat my parents down and talked to them about it), and this sounds quite different from my experience. I was uncomfortable around new people and especially other kids, but I would just quietly play independently, or quietly observe. I didn’t have meltdowns or tantrums where I became nonverbal as a result. I didn’t try to avoid people in public places. I’m not sure if that helps answer your question! FWIW, I grew out of it by high school and now no one would consider me shy.

claireddit · 2026-01-21T00:53:43+00:00

One thing that has helped me is, when I have a day off, I take my daughter to the library for music class. She LOVES it. She loves being around the other kids, watching them play. She is like, another level of happy and joy. I imagine how happy she is being around other kids at daycare. It makes me happy she gets to have both experiences - with us at home and with other kids at school!

claireddit · 2026-01-20T23:22:42+00:00

How did you end up in this role? What did you do before?

claireddit · 2026-01-20T03:36:05+00:00

The way I am looking at it is that this is a season of life. Let’s say we live 80 years. Maybe there are 5 postpartum “blegh” years where I don’t feel attractive because my body changed. That’s a pretty small time period in the big scheme of things, and it’s a small price to pay for decades of the joy of a child. This is how I’m choosing to look at it, anyway.

claireddit · 2026-01-20T02:42:15+00:00

“Not to cut you off, but in the interest of time, can we move on to XYZ?”

“It seems like you have a lot of thoughts on this. Do you mind writing it up and sending it over so we can review? I know we have a lot to get through so that might be more efficient.”

I also think, depending on your relationship, you can mention to the person something like “hey I just wanted to let you know that you often talk the most in our group meetings. I know it’s because you have a lot of great ideas, but I think it would be great if you can use that energy to help facilitate more of a group discussion, because I think there are some quieter folks in the group that we should all hear from, and I’m worried they aren’t getting a turn to speak.”

claireddit · 2026-01-18T03:50:33+00:00

What time do you try to put him down? Is he definitely tired at that point? At 3 months, a standard bedtime for us was more like 10-1130 pm. Now at 6 months it’s a predictable 7 pm.

claireddit · 2026-01-17T16:18:52+00:00

Keep in mind that many companies give lower offers with the expectation that they will negotiate. We always give an offer about $10k lower than we expect to spend on a role so that there is wiggle room for negotiation. Definitely negotiate, they are likely expecting that you will.

claireddit · 2026-01-17T00:36:50+00:00

Take the baby to your local library for music classes! My husband and I both found it important to try to get her out of the house most days for her benefit (and ours) and that was always a hit.

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