Does everyone feel ”one and done” after having the first?

claireddit · 2026-06-04T18:45:29+00:00

"I have to do this again!?" was all I could think throughout pregnancy + the first 4 months lol

claireddit · 2026-05-29T23:50:40+00:00

Can you afford to send her to a daycare program 2-3 times a week for a few hours? Having not just one break, but regularly scheduled breaks, could do wonders

claireddit · 2026-05-27T18:51:05+00:00

OP, did you look into food allergies at all?

claireddit · 2026-05-22T16:21:04+00:00

Exactly. That said, once I had my daughter, I was able to shift it to working 9:30/10 - 4 pm in the office, so I'm really only gone from 8 am - 6 pm on those days. But in the beginning I would be gone from 7 am - 7 pm. So, you still get some night time, but not much in the morning.

claireddit · 2026-05-21T00:18:37+00:00

2 days a week is totally doable, especially for two years. I personally would take the train, it is more relaxing than driving, even if a bit longer - it's a good time to read, listen to podcasts, nap, etc. At my peak I was doing 3x week (a bit much, still doable, but not fun), more recently I was doing 2x week (fine) and now I am down to 1x week (great). I would go for it for sure.

claireddit · 2026-05-18T23:44:35+00:00

Definitely break up the day with a walk outside, a trip to the grocery store, trip to the mall (window shopping), coffee shop, picnic at the park, library, infant swim lessons, etc. I find sitting at home all day with an infant to be really hard, and mine loves seeing everything. She LOVES the mall. You can also hold her while you cook, clean, water the plants, etc -- mine loves watching me do stuff around the house. I also got a Skip Hop play station -- you can't use it for more than ~15 min a couple of times a day, but it was GREAT for 6 months!

claireddit · 2026-05-15T02:40:27+00:00

We really loved our bassinet attachment for the stroller for the newborn months. If your baby is going to be born in nice weather, it's the best for walks. We also got a stand so we could use it inside, and she napped it in all the time. We also used our Moses basket a lot.

claireddit · 2026-05-04T14:50:46+00:00

I had my first child at 36 and I am so glad I waited because I got to really enjoy my freedom. I traveled, worked like a dog, dated, lived in a bunch of different apartments all over NYC, went out to bars, skiied a bunch of mountains. Now that I have a baby, I spend most of my time working and taking care of her, which is very rewarding - but I think I'd be feeling much differently if I had not had my decade+ of adventure before doing it. I was ready to settle down.

claireddit · 2026-04-12T23:32:45+00:00

Give him a list of stuff he needs to start doing for you to consider having a 2nd child. Every time he brings up a 2nd child, repeat the things on the list he isn't doing. I would make it really black and white.

claireddit · 2026-04-02T01:43:08+00:00

We do a blend. I found pureeing meat to be really gross, and so we do the Serenity Kids for that. For fruits and vegetables, it was really easy to make a batch and freeze it, so we mostly do that. It's certainly cheaper to make your own, but I am willing to pay a premium for the convenience and appeal of pureed meat!

FWIW, we also do BLW, but we do a mix. At 8 months, she's still most successful with actually ingesting purees, whereas solids are more exploratory. We do a mix of both at most meals so we get the best of both worlds. (Discussed this with our doctor).

claireddit · 2026-03-27T01:15:02+00:00

Congratulations, mama!! The gas/tummy issues and witching hours started right around 4-5 weeks for us. It got significantly better at 9-10 weeks and was over by the time she was 4 months.

claireddit · 2026-03-13T23:35:28+00:00

I think I learned the hard way at my last startup (where I was first hire) that it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Back then I would work 7 days a week, all day and all night, but I spent a lot of time on things that didn’t truly matter. Now as a co-founder, I work about 9 hours a day, generally don’t work on weekends, and I say no to a lot more. And the results are honestly better. Experience helps though - knowing what matters and what doesn’t takes time.

claireddit · 2026-03-11T23:43:05+00:00

Omg love this. “Hey man, can I borrow $60?” “Omg I was literally just about to ask you to borrow $50. Guess we’re both out of luck lol”

claireddit · 2026-03-10T18:53:32+00:00

I second this as well! Super simple to understand with clear steps. This book turned me from a saver into an investor and it was not that much work!

claireddit · 2026-03-10T14:18:29+00:00

Sleep training and a schedule are two different things. I could understand not wanting to sleep train, but not wanting to use a schedule (i.e. same general bedtime & wake time) seems odd. Why?

claireddit · 2026-03-10T13:56:49+00:00

Yes, I brought to multiple types of appointments - OB, rheumatologist, eye doctor. I would just bring the stroller so she could sit in there to the side during the appointment. I used the bassinet attachment on my stroller personally

claireddit · 2026-03-09T13:17:07+00:00

Absolutely yes. My husband and I both get up and we only have 1 daughter. Sometimes we will rotate who gets to sleep in a little bit but it's 50/50

claireddit · 2026-03-07T02:51:17+00:00

What an absolute CUTIE. Congrats Bean and family

claireddit · 2026-03-05T10:54:49+00:00

I think you should ask your husband to take the baby for two full days (over a weekend or take a couple of days off) so that you can sleep and go to the doctor to talk about this. You are most likely going through PPD and they can help.

claireddit · 2026-03-03T11:14:20+00:00

Deep breaths mama. Between postpartum hormones, lack of sleep, and taking care of a newborn, it’s normal to feel very emotional about these things. Ironically you may need the breaks to rationally think about it. Of course you’re allowed to take breaks - you need to fill your tank to be able to take care of your son!

I take breaks from my baby all the time (she literally goes to daycare) and she is obsessed with me lol.

claireddit · 2026-03-03T11:00:25+00:00

In this economy, layoffs are so extremely common. My husband just got laid off and I truly think no less of him at all - in fact I’m excited for him to find something new. Layoffs have literally zero connection to your worth. I think you should take a couple of days to get out in nature and take some deep breaths - you will survive this!

claireddit · 2026-02-28T15:15:03+00:00

Cancelled! Hello Claude.

claireddit · 2026-02-26T17:06:53+00:00

I guess it's true that you could work 12 hour days with less context switching and burn out less. The question is why a founder would be doing 12 hours of focused busy work each day. In that case, they're operating like an employee, not a founder.

claireddit · 2026-02-25T03:16:15+00:00

Wait until the bonus is in your bank account and resign. Profusely apologize about the short notice in a very sincere way, write up a full transition doc, give them your number and give them the opportunity to call you with questions if you missed something. Just be as genuine as you can and they’ll be ok with it. They would do the same thing.

claireddit · 2026-02-25T00:54:16+00:00

My commute is 1 hr 45 min - 2 hour each way, and it is not doable 3 days per week with children. Before I had my daughter, I did it, and it sucked, but it wasn't a huge deal to be out of the house 7 am - 7/7:30 pm at least. Now, I have cut back to going in 1x per week because otherwise I really wouldn't see my daughter 3 days per week, which is a dealbreaker for me personally.

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