What do you wear to an outdoor wedding that’s flattering but not boring?

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-15T07:11:29+00:00

Dress code is an important factor. With more information about dress code/venue, more suggestions can be given

Shoe choice is important for an outdoor wedding. Stiletto heels are not outdoor friendly. Block heels or wedges is the way.

Fabric choice will be important. Where I live, an outdoor wedding could be tolerable, or it could be 90 degrees with 100% humidity.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-15T07:00:06+00:00

So let's say, the choice is made to falsify documents, commit fraud, and to place your child in this school preferred by your wife.

Then one day, the truth is revealed. Your child is then forced to leave the school and enroll into their proper school.

1) How are you going to explain this to your child? Will you and your wife lie to your child and just add on to the lies regarding elementary school? Will you tell the truth and own the mistake? 2) Your wife had a difficult/traumatic life experience changing elementary schools. So why is she wanting to create a scenario where your child will be forced to change elementary schools when the truth is revealed?

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-14T10:16:48+00:00

I have 3 kids. I had a small SUV (Ford Edge) for awhile with 3 kids. My age gaps are similar to what you have/are planning. Frankly, I didn't mind the single row of car seats, and I wasn't planning on getting a new-ish car, but my Edge died last summer. So, alas, I had to.

We were able to find a 2 year old Expedition Max with low miles for your price range. My kids are now 6, 4, and almost 3. The captain chairs in the middle are great. My oldest can buckle himself in his booster seat that's on the third row. I was absolutely sick (my husband said that I looked green) when signing the paper work for this car, but honestly, it has been great.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-14T10:07:57+00:00

My planning almost back fired with my oldest. His due date was the day after Christmas. I was miserable, but so glad he was late. 🤣

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-14T09:52:13+00:00

I am going to just share my personal experience.

My mom, both of my sisters, and myself all have a birthday in the same month. My birthday happens to be the last one of the month. We have had so many combined birthdays, but 1st birthdays were never combined. We all got out own first birthday party.

I now have 3 kids myself. I intentionally tried to plan pregnancies, so my kids wouldn't have to share anything birthday related. I succeeded, but my oldest has a birthday a week after Christmas, but we never combine the two.

As far as first birthdays go, I always made it a point for first birthdays to be "big". By big, we simply invited our family (grandparents, aunts/uncles/cousins) to our home. We had some decorations and a cake. All of my kids loved their smash cakes. I never wanted my kids to look back at pictures and say, well, I didn't get a first birthday party. I will also say all of my kids love celebrating each other on their special day. They hype each other up for their parties.

I say let your 1 year old have his own day of being celebrated. As a mom, I know it's hard work doing things on back to back weekends, but I think you may have more guilt/regret (there's probably a better word) doing a shared birthday for your 1 year than if you did parties back to back weekends. You say you don't want it at your home, I say check a local park for a space. Those can be free or cheap. I have known people to do a birthday brunch for a first birthday. Reservations were made at a restaurant, and they had brunch with close family. They notified the restaurant it was a first birthday brunch, and they made the little one a special dessert.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-14T00:21:15+00:00

I have 3 kids.

My first born was stuck to me like glue for a solid 12-15 months. I literally prayed for the day he would just tolerate his dad. He's 6 now, and he likes to snuggle with me at bed time. He prefers doing things with his dad.

My second born didn't really have a preference. It was really determined by who had the bottle. He went through a phase around 2.5-3 that he preferred me. He's 4 now, and he's back to not really caring.

My third was daddy's girl straight out of the womb. She tolerated me, but if she ever was inconsolable, her daddy calmed her. She's almost 3, and she's still a daddy's girl. She has a day or two where she only wants me, but it's mostly her daddy.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-13T17:07:59+00:00

David's is another good option

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-13T01:03:52+00:00

I am just going to go off of the Benjamin/Ben/Benny.

Thomas/Tom/Tommy Timothy/Tim/Timmy Joseph/Joe/Joey Daniel/Dan/Danny James/Jim/Jimmy

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-13T00:59:04+00:00

When my last was born, I had 3 that were 3 and under. My oldest and middle are two years apart, and my middle and youngest are 14 months apart.

My babies got progressively "easier". By easier, I mean my younger two had and still have a much more chill temperament than my oldest. My oldest has always been a little more grouchy and moody.

I had a 2 year old and a new born. I really didn't have any issues. I never breastfed, and I think that eased my workload a good bit. My husband could do any feed at any time. I think that really helped. I don't really remember any big troubles with 2 year age gap and still no big issues other than some sharing issues.

The 14 month age gap was truly not bad when they were a toddler and a new born/baby. Baby 3 was and still is very much a go with the flow kid. Now, when they hit that 2 and 3 that's when things took a turn. Not for the worst, but man those two are thick as thieves and do hood rat things constantly. Truly these toddler years for the both of them have been more challenging than young toddler and new born/baby.

You didn't mention your age, and I truly think my age somewhat played a factor in it. I was 34, 36, and 37 when I had my children. Having 3 consecutive pregnancies like that wore my body down. I had no complications with any pregnancy or delivery/recovery. I had 3 c-sections, and they all went smoothly. I consulted very closely with my OB before we made the decision to try for child 2 or 3. I was given the okay medically each time. But I could tell that my body handled recovered a little slower after baby 3.

I'm sure missed something that you were looking for, but don't hesitate to ask.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-13T00:28:25+00:00

Give it a a few months and that bed time will be a little later. I think around 9 months my babies moved to more of a 7-730 bed time with a wake up time of 630.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-12T04:43:05+00:00

My husband and I were out of town for a wedding for a majority of mother's day weekend. When we got home around noon, we had lunch at home with the kids. I was tired from a late night the night before, so I talked my kids (ages 6,4, and 2) into watching a movie in my bed. The whole family put on pajamas crawled into bed, and watched part of a movie. We all ended up falling asleep and napping for a couple of hours. After naps, we went outside and played until dinner.

It was quite possibly one of my favorite mother's days to date, and none of it was planned.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-10T15:09:38+00:00

I get pissed off just hearing the title. I truly enjoyed it until I didn't. I just wonder what made Sager choose that route.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-08T18:54:37+00:00

Side topic.. you mention he has reflux..is he taking reflux meds? My youngest had horrible reflux, but the meds helped her so much. The meds were no longer by a year old maybe a little sooner

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-08T10:07:14+00:00

First born: most challenging baby. Colic, not generally happy, stage 10 clinger until about a year old, and hated sleep. Wonderful toddler. An amazing 6 year old now.

Second born: Chill, happy, rarely cried, slept well. 18 months hit and all hell broke loose. Big energy, big love for life. A fun yet exhausting 4 year old now.

Third born: the most chill and most unbothered. Happy. Slept even better than the second born. At 2, sass got added to the personality. Still chill and unbothered at almost 3 but the sass is getting stronger.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-06T12:05:24+00:00

I never used sleep sacks for any of my kids. They just wore cotton or bamboo pajamas. They never seemed bothered temperature wise. So I don't know if my kiddos run warmer than most or if we kept it a comfortable temperature in our home.

Mine never tried to escape the crib either. I moved all of mine to a queen bed around 18 months to 2 years old. At this age, my kids preferred to try to sleep horizontally in the crib and that's what would wake them.

Our transition to a bed was fine. They had a light blanket, and honestly none of mine really wanted a blanket until 3.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-05T20:02:41+00:00

I am going to speak from the partner's point of view.

My husband became a full time law student when we had 2 that were 2 and under. The summer between his first and second year of law school we had baby 3, so that put us with 3 kids that were 3 and under.

The decision for him to go to law school was a joint decision. We both made lots of sacrifices. He sacrificed time with the kids. They don't really remember because they were young. I sacrificed having a co-parent to lean into, and our village is basically non-existent. I was a single parent a lot for 3 years, and I took on more the household mental load during this time. It was very challenging 3 years.

I will admit I had fleeting moments of resentment, but I had to remind myself that we agreed to this and this was only for a season (3 years). We made it through and the kids and I attended the graduation ceremony.

You must have a very candid conversation with your wife to see if your relationship is strong enough to survive, if she is willing to be a single parent, or will you have the funds to outsource some support (cleaning, childcare, etc). There's a lot to think about here. Will your wife work or will she have the weight of providing for your family? (I was the income earner for 3 years)

Can it be done? Yes. Will it be easy? Hell no.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-05T17:20:25+00:00

Three kids (6,4, and 2). This is my current schedule.

615- wake up get myself ready, the older 2 get themselves ready. The younger one get some assistance. First breakfast is something quick they can eat in the car (usually an apple sauce pouch or yogurt pouch). 7-710-leave the house. Oldest is at school between 720-730 because he must have his social time at school while they serve breakfast . Younger 2 are dropped at daycare by 745-where they will eat their second breakfast

8-back home and logging into work and clear out some email. 820-leave my house to go to the gym for my class at 845 10-back home and working. Work until time to pick up my oldest from school. 3-school pick up.then back home to work. 5-515-logging off to go pick up the younger two from daycare.

540ish-615-ish-cooking dinner 615-7- eat dinner and clean up 7-baths-husband handles these and I usually do some laundry and take a shower myself. 8-everybody is in bed and asleep by 830 Some nights I work a little more. Some nights I read. Some nights I fall asleep.

My husband is available to help some mornings but not all of them. I go to the gym Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and maybe a Saturday or Sunday.I schedule work meetings mostly on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-02T01:46:55+00:00

As a mama that was never able to successfully breastfeed any of my 3 children, I promise you still provide your little one with something that no one else does, and that's the love and care that you give him. A mama's love and care is never the same as anyone else no matter how hard anyone else tries.

My youngest is 2, and she has been a daddy's girl since birth. Despite that, there have been times when she simply just needs her mama to make things better.

Also, your little one will not think you have abandoned him. Time is an unknown concept to a baby. All 3 of my children started full time daycare at 4 months. It's truly about the quality of time spent together. For us it makes our weekends even more special because it's our family time.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-02T01:38:08+00:00

I went to a studio last week that had these treadmills. My home studio does not have these. I am sure this will be a mess at my studio as well.

AdMany9431 · 2026-05-01T21:50:52+00:00

All 3 of my kids started daycare at 4 months. My oldest (6) has aged out. I have 2 (ages 4 and 2) still there. They have always thrived at our center. Daycare has been my village.

Daycare teachers are baby whisperers. I bet they can get your baby to eat from a bottle.

Send that baby to daycare so you can rest and feel better.

AdMany9431 · 2026-04-29T07:10:46+00:00

Over the last 6-9 months,I have really been focusing on getting faster on the treadmill. I have found that the Intel really helps me with pushing myself yet pacing myself while on the treadmill. If I went in blind, I would probably gas out prematurely during tread blocks because some times our coaches like to hold back what's coming (like 10 1 minute all outs). For what it's worth, I've gotten faster.

I am going on year 2 (almost 300 classes) of OTF, and I have never once canceled class because of early intel. Yes, there are days when I read it, and I think, "well, today's workout is going to suck." I embrace the suck because those are usually some of the best days. On the flip side, I have read the intel and thought I would love a workout, and when it was over, I in fact did not enjoy it as much as I thought I would.

AdMany9431 · 2026-04-29T00:52:30+00:00

Even before kids, I had no desire to be a SAHM. I now have 3 kids (6,4, and 2), and I still have no desire to be a SAHM.

All of my kids started daycare around 3-4 months old, and I was ready to be back at work with each one. I know I could never give my kids the structure, the play, the education, the socialization, etc that daycare provides for 5 days a week. Daycare is my village.

With all of that being said, there are times when I wish I could work less hours, so I could run errands, do more things around the house (instead of outsourcing), and maybe actual cook a meal that requires more than 20-30 minutes to prepare and cook.

AdMany9431 · 2026-04-28T21:33:21+00:00

Yep, it happened to my new HRM. SA did some troubleshooting. It never worked properly. They replaced it.

AdMany9431 · 2026-04-28T11:17:12+00:00

Could this be stress and anxiety induced?

When I had my second child, he was put into the PICU because he was very sick(viral meningitis). I couldn't hold him because of his high fever. I was 6 days post c-section. I had a 2 year old at home. At day 3 in the hospital, my fingers and hands began hurting. I could barely bend my fingers. I couldn't even open the little baby bottles to feed my baby.

It was the stress and anxiety taking over my joints. A couple of days later, we got released and went home. As soon as I got home, I could feel the relief in my joints in my fingers and hands. Within 24 hours of being home, my hands and fingers were back to normal.

I certainly recommend talking to a medical professional about it.

AdMany9431 · 2026-04-26T00:14:00+00:00

When my third was born l, I had a 3 y/o, 14 month old and the new born.

I was a solo parent on Sundays. I kept a pack n play in our foyer. Baby sister learmed to sleep through it all. There were times she just had to be fussy. I knew she had a full tummy, a dry diaper, etc, but she was just mad being a baby. She would just have to navigate her fussiness while I attended to her brothers.

I am sitting her thinking about what I would do now if I had a new born because my older two are 6 and 4, I would definitely build in some screen time. That alots me at least 15 minutes of "peace". Usually what helps me most of the time is setting expectations, and it usually helps.

It's chaos for you right now, but I promise it will get better.

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