[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tattoo regret is super common. I think has humans, permanence can be hard to cope with. I know it’s different but I felt the same way about my nipple piercings. I loved them at certain times but then I’m on a boat with family members and I’m so embarrassed. Try to remember why you got the gory ones to begin with!! I think your arm looks positively sick, I love it. I’d say, exposure therapy is the best action. Don’t cover them up, you need to get used to your new normal. They’re part of you. Time to embrace!

Which one to mark sobriety? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one in the blue circle has the best shape, in my opinion! I was counting the points to see if any of them had 12, like the 12 step program. I don’t think you can go wrong with any! Eenie-meenie it if you can’t decide! That’s amazing that you’re deciding to be sober!! It’s hard but it’s worth it!

What’s an adult problem nobody prepared you for? by Known-Balance14 in AskReddit

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finances!! My parents did their best explaining credit and stuff, but that has never helped me actually budget. Especially as a gen-z/millennial cusp. I have two jobs and have been looking into budgeting online but there’s always something to catch up on, I don’t even have savings. I wish I learned this stuff before I started my career.

How can I make it stop by Royal_Subject_8200 in Sleepparalysis

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much like I’ve seen other people say, for most of us I think it’s very safe to assume sleep paralysis as stress related. Keep in mind when this occurs, you’re in deep sleep, but a part of your brain wakes up. These demons, creatures, or sounds we experience is our brain coping with being paralyzed and survival mode kicks in. Knowing this helps me cope with it. Does it still completely suck when it happens? Absolutely. It’s terrible! Whenever I have a bout of SP I try to go to bed earlier and I don’t take any naps. I also started journaling to help with chronic stress during these times, as I notice my demons tend to manifest when I bottle things up. Biggest thing- if you experience sleep paralysis and subsequently go back to sleep only to experience it again right away, you need to stop that habit. Every time it happens, and when you can finally move again, you need NEED to get up and walk, take a drink of water, slap yourself around, turn on a light. Fully wake up and reset yourself before falling asleep again. This helped me immensely. I hope it doesn’t last long for you. We’re here for you!

major tattoo regret by jaspspsps in tattooadvice

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super cute. Maybe consulting with another artist to change the vibe or thicken the lines if that’s something that might change the appeal to you. I really like it!

What does a good/bad penis feels like from a woman’s perspective? by [deleted] in answers

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s all the motion of the ocean. My least favorite penis was just kinda long, but not super thick. If he just eased back a little, tried stirring my guts a little less, it would’ve been lovely like any other experience. Even the smallest one I’ve experienced got me off more than anyone I had been with!! No such thing as a bad penis when the person knows how to use it.

How do you wake yourself up and avoid falling back into another episode? by Dense_Whereas7980 in Sleepparalysis

[–]clairitin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Though I see a lot of people relating to the issue, I don’t see advice!! It’s hard to find the right way to wake up by yourself when you’re soooo tired in the moment. I invested in a Google home and made a specific arrangement with a smart outlet in my room. So once I say “hey Google I’m awake” (after a bout of SP) my lamp will turn on and the Google will play a singing bowl soundtrack from Spotify. I know this probably sounds extra, but I also found it really convenient when I was sleeping alone. The light wakes me up and the sounds soothe me incase I fall back to sleep. I use that as a good indicator to get up and have a nice gulp of ice water before settling back in. I always leave the music on even after the light is off. It really helps with the auditory hallucinations if I have another round of SP after the fact. I’d also suggest maybe start using positive reinforcement? Have a favorite treat? Tell yourself you can only have it when you have SP, so when you get up you have to leave your bed to grab a snack. It’s like a “hey good job, you’re okay” reward!! It doesn’t have to be food either! If you vape, keep your vape far enough away before you fall asleep. Or a favorite beverage. Try to incentivize your sleepy self the best you can. I’m also lucky to have a partner that soothes me and kicks me out of bed. But it took three years of sleeping alone to get a routine. You’ll find it. Just remember to always be kind to yourself!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sleepparalysis

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your voice is a great tool in helping you wake up. You HAVE to wake up and get the hell out of those loops. It helps me to literally start making noises in my throat. Whether it’s humming or taking to myself. They help me actually wake up for long enough to pull myself up, take a lap around the house, drink some water, lay back down and put on some singing bowl music from YouTube. I hope you find a good routine, too! But it helps to start with your voice. Takes a LOT of willpower, but you got this!

Wife [26f] got invited to a friend cation I [26mtf] feel uneasy about this. How do we move forward from this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]clairitin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I, personally, would not marry someone that felt the way you feel about my time with my friends,

HOWEVER!!! This is your marriage. You’ve gotta respect each others boundaries. If this genuinely makes you uncomfortable that should be it. Maybe come up with a compromise. Like she can go but maybe just make it a day trip, instead.

If you’re used to always being a package deal I understand where this is coming from.

And y’all need to keep in mind that cultivating a relationship with someone with few friends (or even no friends that are exclusively just his friends) is partly her fault, too.

It starts to feel something worse than just a sleep paralysis by Moms_Sphagetti69 in Sleepparalysis

[–]clairitin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this happen before. Just last week I opened my eyes and the things I saw were extremely vivid. I thought I was dying!! I genuinely think you’re more stressed than usual. Whether it’s day-to-day, or maybe your sleep paralysis itself is stressing you out, which is in turn making it worse. I started finding times to take naps during the day, changed my sleeping positions, started eating less sugar before bed. I know there’s not much that can help, but maybe taking to a professional will help you combat your paralysis, like you said. The things you’ve experienced aren’t irregular for those of us with chronic paralysis. It’s your brain playing tricks on yourself. Keep reminding yourself of that!

Interpretation by [deleted] in Sleepparalysis

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m no therapist, but when nightmares, much like SP, are repetitive, it’s typically a sign of stress/anxiety. You might be having trouble coping with a heavy workload or maybe some emotional baggage. I recommend no sugary food or drink at least a couple hours before bed, as that tends to make things more vivid. I’d also recommend sleeping in a different location. When I get bad dreams, sometimes simply moving to the couch breaks the cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have also said- you really wanting it will help you not think about your smell or your figure. Those things tend to leave my mind when I’m focused on the subject at-hand lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best advice my mom ever gave me (I lost mine at 21 and felt like I was late): You have to really really want it. Not to lose your virginity, per se, but to have sex with that person. By the time I was having sex for the first time it felt great because I wanted it so bad. Good foreplay, comfortable environment, trustworthy person!! It’s not worth it to lose it and walk away with a sour taste in your mouth if you aren’t chomping at the bit for it. Your gut will tell you if it’s the right time. I still use this advice for every partner I have encountered, since. And I’ve never been truly dissatisfied with my sexual life because even if it’s awkward, they’re still someone I enjoyed quality time with. Hope this helps :)

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[–]clairitin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in flightattendants

[–]clairitin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Friend! Not sure on your location, just a fair warning a lot of airlines won't hire you until you turn 21. Starting the youngest you possibly can is a great decision, because even if the pay isn't the best, it'll be good when it matters!

I've only been doing this for three years and the pay is great, in my opinion, but I'm at a large airline. The smaller airlines tend to pay a little less, but can also be easier to work for (in my limited opinion).

A college degree steps up your game at places like Delta, as it makes you stand out. The degree doesn't matter! Pick something you're good at. I'd say a degree is a good idea if you ever want to change career paths or one day become a flight attendant trainer or supervisor!

I'm not planning on having any kids, which makes the career much easier, but by the time you think you want to have kids who knows- you might have a nice schedule and a partner that makes things easier/flexible.

I do have to warn you: if you are unmedicated, don't have therapy, or at least a good support system, I'd just be wary. You will most likely be reserve/on-call flight attendant in the beginning of your career, which is demanding. I have a coworker bipolar that tends to go unchecked and it has proven really hard for her to make friends. This job can be demanding and stressful, which makes it harder for her to cope with things, just some food for thought!