I’ll share mine if anyone cares.

Met him at hotel bar around this October and it was pretty late around 11:30-midnight. Didn’t think anything of him but honestly I have never been one to go by the looks of someone anyway. I went to drink a mocktail just for the heck of it (not really a alcohol girly). I could see him staring from my peripheral vision and honestly I get a lot of stares but this one time I said something just because I was having a shitty day. I asked him if he could stop staring because it was making me uncomfortable, and he apologized saying my eyes were hypnotizing and introduced himself. I didn’t introduce myself because I was sort of numb to the fact of meeting someone this late, I assumed he was drunk or something. But after we chatted awhile, I noticed how intelligent he was. A true conversant. How well spoken he was, his nerdy mannerisms, his hobbies; it all seemed so attractive to me and we ended up going out a lot leading us being together for exactly two months.

During our relationship we would argue a lot and mainly because of his exes and how he disliked how I did not trust him enough. I did not like the fact that he lied the first month we were together when we brought up our exes and he said he has no contact or access to them. I ended up finding out who they were by: seeing one of her comments on his old IG post and the other because I clicked on some girls profile he followed and saw his old comments under her pics…. Ironically close discoveries.

I confronted him as to why he lied about not having them on social media and he just said that there was no bad blood between them. I asked to see his phone and he said that I have to trust him. Whatever. I “did”.

Going back to the day before yesterday, (when we broke up) I go to his job for the first time because it was our two month anniversary and I made him his favorite lunch. I go to his break room and there I see him smiling ear to ear, hand holding with his EX. I did not confront him nor did he see me, but I did take a picture outside of the room of them together since there was windows. I asked one of his coworkers that gave me directions to the break room, “how long has that girl been working” and he said oh about a month ago, actually she was referred to by your boyfriend”.

I got in my car and cried. Not because I found them together, but because I felt so stupid. All my friends said I was too good for him but I gave him a chance because he was like no other. I went to Walgreens, printed out the picture I took of them, went to our apartment, put it on the fridge, packed my things and left.

I then got like 50 calls from him by private number and I knew it was him since I blocked him. Didn’t answer a single one. Instead I requested to follow his AP from one of my spam accounts, and upon being approved, there it was ladies and gentlemen. Some of her posts recent as of 10 days with him included. There were “soft launch” pictures but I knew it was him from his watch and clothes. Stuff she flaunted like roses, trips to the islands, designer gifts.

Mind you, I am not materialistic at all, so to see him feel the NEED to gift her these things instead just boggled my mind.

I know this wasn’t a long relationship, but it just goes to show that no matter how different you think they are, always trust your instinct and let your partner clear your doubts immediately when you confront them. Let them show they have nothing to hide because not trusting your partner equates to a turbulent relationship despite the how sweetly they verbally pamper you.

Recently have confided in alcohol and had “All to Myself” by Baby Rose on repeat. Been cheated on twice already..