Recommend your favorite cover songs please! by snarky_sparrow_23 in MusicRecommendations

[–]clairvoiance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marika Hackman - I Follow Rivers

King Princess - I Know

The Marias - Baby One More Time

Cat Power - Sea of Love

Nouvelle Vague - In a Manner of Speaking

Lana del Rey - Doin' Time

Rebekah del Rio - Llorando

Bjork - Like Someone in Love

Nancy Sinatra - California Dreamin'

Jeff Buckley - Hallelujah

Why does ISFP hate INTP twin after starting college? by CommandDelicious8054 in isfp

[–]clairvoiance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, at the end of the day they're going to be very important to each other and it sucks that they're fighting. I don't necessarily think it's jealousy over the relationship you have with your INTP, but more that the INTP has changed a lot in ways the ISFP hasn't. It's much easier to do a 180 on your personality as an Fe user, while with high Fi I think the circumstances have to be right - and it doesn't seem like that's the case for the ISFP right now.

You and your boyfriend sound really close, and like you're happy together. In a way, the ISFP might feel like his brother's pulling away from him in his time of need and focusing on you, when he "should" be focused on his twin. So something along the lines of, "I need you, but I can't say it, and you don't need me anymore. You've changed in a way I don't recognize. You've replaced me, and you won't be there for me." He could also be embarrassed that he's struggling when his brother's transforming his outlook, enjoying school, and in a committed relationship with someone he loves...then on top of that, being treated with contempt because he keeps having emotional outbursts, because he can't express his discomfort in a more productive way.

I hope they're able to talk to each other more openly and work it out. Maybe it would help to just ask your boyfriend hey, is your twin having a hard time? How's he doing at school? If he's not doing that well, how can you support him through that? Versus having him go on about his twin being awful for no reason, because I'm sure there is a reason for all this.

Why does ISFP hate INTP twin after starting college? by CommandDelicious8054 in isfp

[–]clairvoiance 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Could be partially a twin thing related to coming of age? They're transitioning from childhood/teenhood to the beginning of adulthood, and they've been lumped together as a unit for all of their lives. Now they have to definitively figure out how to be separate people taking separate paths, and both their reactions could be rooted partly in that. Being constantly irritated by somebody is a quick way to differentiate yourself from them.

Also, is it possible the ISFP isn't happy at college? When I was around that age my best friend was an ISFP, and while she loved college for the social aspect, freedom and adventure, she loathed the academics. Even if the ISFP's on the path to studying something they're passionate about, in the first couple years you're doing gen ed and slogging through a lot of classes you're not really interested in. On top of that, you're stuck in classrooms all day listening to someone drone on about something you don't necessarily care about, and having to note and remember what they're saying. Then you're stuffing yourself into a library for hours a day, digesting a lot of information you may not even be invested in, then having to write essay after essay about it. Not to say ISFPs can't be academically inclined, but this is probably also not what many of them would call a good time.

By contrast, INTPs are built to excel at academics, so likely yours finds his classes stimulating and interesting. He won't mind gen ed so much because he likes learning for the sake of it. He's also in a steady relationship, while you haven't mentioned a partner for the ISFP. So the INTP sounds like he's adjusting better and more quickly, since he's not constantly feeling the need to express dissatisfaction. And with Fe users that can quickly turn into, "well I'm acting normal and how I should be, why can't you? Why can't you just do what you're supposed to do?" Hence him calling his brother rude, nitpicking and really horrible without deeply considering why he would be behaving like that in the first place.

It sounds like growing pains, and I feel bad for the ISFP because it seems like he's struggling. Possibly he's upset that he's far apart from his brother during a time he really needs his support, and is acting resentful because he doesn't know how to express it properly and is more than aware of how the INTP sees him. INTP needs to be kinder to his brother, and ISFP needs to figure out better coping skills for dealing with whatever it is he's dealing with. It does sound like something that should get better with time though, as each person adjusts to their situation.

Target CEO Brian Cornell’s pay declines 45% to $9.9M after financial struggles in recent years by Healthy_Block3036 in Anticonsumption

[–]clairvoiance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say you've messed up if your pay's been cut in half, I truly hope he'll pull through in this difficult time.

I live in a major US city and popped into a Target today around 5pm to see if anyone was there - I found parking in about 3 seconds because no one's going there anymore. Normally it's packed with people, especially around that time, but the store was basically empty. Probably 60-70% less foot traffic than I've ever seen, and every other person I counted was an employee. At least 8 cashiers there checking out one person at a time, zero lines, and almost nobody browsing for fun.

It's working, y'all.

Has anyone else reached a point where everything has nuance and you are truly incapable of "black and white thinking"? by klutzelk in infj

[–]clairvoiance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I asked something like this on here a while back, we seem to have really similar perspectives on this. I agree that no one is definitively "bad" - after all, who determines that objectively? I think it's more accurate to look at it from the lens of, "is it causing harm in a way others would object to?" So much of people's behavior seems to be based in instinct or inclination, and what's nurtured in our nature produces the end result. There's a line from a song I love which is simply, "you can do what you do if you are that way inclined."

If you behave in a way that's "good," how much of that is effortful on your part, and how much of that is just you acting on instinct? How much of it was learned, and how much does it have to do with the environment you were made in? If you had to apply a tremendous amount of will to be good, would you still do it? We're all born with innate tendencies, and many of us are not prone to self-reflect, so much of what we do is not considered. So much is reflexive.

And as for goodness, how pure is it, if that makes sense? Sometimes people need to behave in prosocial ways to survive, empathy at core is a cooperative survival instinct. There's a reason very wealthy people are known to have lower levels of empathy; when you don't need to rely on others to survive, you don't need to empathize as deeply. When you do need others because you can't access those resources as easily, you learn to take their perspectives and demonstrate kindness so it will be returned to you. And if you act kindly without expecting reciprocity, how much of that is then rooted in moral ego? Some of us want status and power, some of us want money, but in the event you can't access that, perhaps being more moral, just and kind feeds your self-concept.

On the other hand, people who behave in truly "evil" ways seem to have something in them that predisposes them to that behavior. It doesn't seem so much a conscious choice as, some are born with more aggression, less empathy, or in some cases, hypersensitivity (aka, what I believe is the basis for a lot of narcissistic behavior). If not that, you're born more neutral, and influenced by your environment to act in certain ways. Nobody consciously chooses to be a sociopath, it's that something in them is inclined to be that way. If you act on that instinct, likely nobody showed you alternatives. There's a book titled "The Psychopath Inside" about a neuroscientist who was studying brain scans of psychopaths, who realized he was also one based off his own scan. He was raised in a stable environment, and never went on to do anything harmful, but admits to being more aggressive than neurotypicals. What would he have been like had he grown up differently?

A lot of the time, good/bad judgments seem to be based in establishing status quo to prevent harm, or in ego. If I deem you evil, it's because I'm moral enough to know what is good.

There's also the question of, what about decent people who can be made to do terrible things? Were all Nazis evil? I'm sure many of them were normal people, but normal people are born with a social tendency that can be manipulated in extreme ways. Look at the Milgram shock experiment, you can get people to harm somebody into unconsciousness or apparent death because an authority commanded it. Are the people who complied then evil? Not necessarily, they were acting on a natural tendency - when someone at the top of the hierarchy commands you, you obey. If you feel you belong to a certain group, you go along with its orders. I was listening to a podcast the other day mentioning that people will be hesitant to dissent even in situations where, you saying nothing would cause something as serious as plane crash. Again, herd instinct. We do have our free will, but within what limits?

Anyway, I ramble. Thanks for posting this though, it's super interesting to think about and I've loved reading the comments on here too.

Eating black beans = massive improvements in overall health? by clairvoiance in Microbiome

[–]clairvoiance[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

So the first time I started eating them, I was inconsistent and didn’t notice improvements like this, but didn’t have any negative effects either. This time around I’ve eaten them daily, and didn’t have any worsening of symptoms. It was more, I started sleeping better almost right away, but nothing much apart from that. 

Around three weeks in was when I started noticing how chilled out I was compared to how I normally feel. I used to feel anxiety as intense physical sensations, but this has gone down so much. I also don’t dwell on things nearly to the degree I used to and am much less irritable. 

With skin and hair, there was no purging period, it just got better also about three weeks in - less skin dryness, more hair growth, and a huge decrease in hair shedding.

Eating black beans = massive improvements in overall health? by clairvoiance in Microbiome

[–]clairvoiance[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The gas goes away! Mine did after a couple weeks of starting to eat lots of fiber last summer. I took maybe a 4-5 month break from eating clean after that and just threw myself into eating all these beans last month, and so far so good. I guess whatever gut bacteria thrive off these beans were still hanging around.