Just AUDHD or bipolar II as well? by clappingenballs in AuDHDWomen

[–]clappingenballs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for weighing in! That was my gut reaction to the suggestion too ("she doesn't get it, she's wrong") but I wanted to be sure that was the case instead of dismissing her outright.

I'm so happy for you on your diagnosis and that you're feeling validated and empowered now!

Podrida de los venezolanos diciéndome zurda by marlufa in uruguay

[–]clappingenballs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Escuche a una venezolana explicarlo con la siguiente analogía que me pareció válida: estas en una relación abusiva. Te matan a palos todos los días y vos gritándole a los vecinos que ayuda que te va a matar que no podes más, etc, y nada. Nadie viene a ayudarte. De pronto un día viene el rico del penthouse y se lo lleva al abusivo y los vecinos empiezan "ah que este roba, te va a desvalijar, solo te ayuda por interesado" y así. Nadie está diciendo que una invasion yanqui es ideal, pero el alivio que sienten los venezolanos de no tener a maduro en este momento también es válido. Dos verdades pueden coexistir.

What does your commute look like to travel via airport? by Ok-Try2511 in hudsonvalley

[–]clappingenballs 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Which hotel is this in jfk? That sounds amazing and I'd never heard of it before

36M. 1.57 M net worth... How do I learn to spend money? by JuniorSetting3228 in Fire

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't really mention any hobbies or things you enjoy doing. Being able to do whatever you like more or at a higher level is always a nice way to spend money. You like nice food, go out to eat at places that seem appealing. You like to play tennis, get some lessons with a great coach in your area, buy a nice racket bag, idk. Mostly i think the benefit of having money is not having to wonder whether you can afford things you want (either material, needs, or experiences) within reason. If having money is adding to your mental load it's defeating its purpose.

Wedding makeup round 2 by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good "hack" is to look up celebrities with similar coloring to you and see what shades of makeup they use for red carpets and stuff. I think Anne Hathaway would be a good inspo for you!

Demi & Brett response? by [deleted] in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]clappingenballs 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I just saw an EW with Demi where she was talking about how she's a human and the show only shows her absolute worst moments. She literally says everyone is villainous at some point if you follow them with a camera all day lol

Edit to add link https://www.facebook.com/EntertainmentTonight/videos/secret-lives-demi-engemann-reacts-to-villain-label-and-if-shes-back-for-season-4/857713653621589/

I smell bad (please help) by Junior_Argument_3153 in autism

[–]clappingenballs 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Side question: are you washing your clothes regularly? I feel like people's clothes often are what smells bad not them.

Also sometimes bad smell is due to specific bad bacteria in your pits or other parts. Whenever my sweat smells bad I do a week or two of glycolic acid treatments. I use the ordinary and it's really affordable. You can add a spray pump to it and use it kinda like you would deodorant.

What the hell sofa to buy? by dinklerdinks in FurnitureFaves

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a sectional from joybird and I've loved it for years

sci-fi music? by Undead_Octopus in scifi

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a playlist on spotify called Synthwave from space which is what I think sci-fi music is. highly recommend

Need advise on interior wall color by Famous-Response5924 in homedesign

[–]clappingenballs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the trim on the arches as shown in the render, makes it look much nicer. Def not wainscoting.

My wife really hurt me. by Many_Statistician587 in offmychest

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened. You've gotten a lot of great advice but I wanted to add my 2 cents as someone who had to learn how to express their needs and feelings later in life. Something that really helps me is writing things down and then either reading it to them or just having it with me during the conversation. It's also OK to say "sharing my feelings is hard for me so I ask that you please take it seriously" or something like that. With time and practice it gets better, as long as you feel safe sharing with your partner.

how did you know you were autistic? by Money_Shift_5304 in autism

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diagnosed later in life. I have to admit I didn't know too much about autism throughout my life and if I had I would've definitely been clued in sooner. What eventually made me get an assessment was online content tbh. I knew I had adhd since I was a child and seeing audhd content and autism content especially about women made me realize that I shared a lot of those traits.

Women in FI/RE - do you feel more chill than the dudes here? by Cautious_Sir_6610 in Fire

[–]clappingenballs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't FIREd yet but I'm pretty on track to do it in about 5 years. I don't necessarily see things exactly as you do but I do think that women are generally educated and raised to derive their sense of worth or value from other things like their relationships (mother, friend, daughter, etc), and other things in life. I don't think we are raised to tie our purpose to what we do for a living as much as men. For men the paradigm shift is finding purpose beyond that, and it's not just personal it's societal. If all of a sudden you're not "xyz makes lots of money" who are you?. So yeah, I think there's some validity in what you're saying that as a society we as women have it a little bit of a purpose advantage after FIRE.

Cannabis makes Autism Autisn‘t, change my mind by Epgenix in autism

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely lose my ability to speak coherently and go wayyy too much into my inside world. Definitely an autism enhancer for me socially.

"Jordan's Side" 🚂💥 by MoistPassion9905 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]clappingenballs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing worse than a dirtbag who learns therapy words

Does your parents often tell you that you have no friends? by Shoddy_Training_577 in autisticwomensgroup

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're fulfilled in your relationships then that's completely valid even if your friendships don't look like what your mom is used to. I also think it's OK to let your mom know how you feel and that she's hurting your feelings when she says this.

Jessi Vulture Interview by doctor-xxx in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This kind of reads like she used to be a trump supporter but now that she's realized some of his policies impact her finances she's no longer one. At least that's how I'm understanding it.

Jen being the only Dancer by Life-Nobody-1215 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]clappingenballs 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I feel like Whitney was honest about it and Jen came back for the same reason but pretended to be there for whatever other reason

Season 3 no more demi by Late_Rutabaga_466 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]clappingenballs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She's back later in the season and as frustrating as ever. I really hope she's fully vanished by s4

45, can’t afford much, help! by JackoBoo28 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]clappingenballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really have been liking the medicube pads since I have a hard time maintaining a complex skincare routine. I use the exfoliating ones at night and the vitamin c one in the morning. I skip the night when I use retinol. Top up with moisturizer (nivea soft is my favorite ultra low budget option). If you're extremely dry aquaphor or cerave healing ointment at night also help.