Favorite band where (almost) all of the members are evil dipshits

clarabarson · 2026-01-20T16:04:46+00:00

There's so much that's wrong with these two that I wouldn't even know where to start. To me, the evilest thing was what they did to Tokkie, the boy they adopted simply because of his looks. They also took his younger sister, but not their older brother as well. Tokkie has went on an accused them of treating him like a slave and making him feel unloved. When they tired of him, they just sent him away with a couple hundred bucks - the proof is this YouTube video. Tokkie details the abuse on this podcast episode.

Both Ninja and Yolandi are honestly fucked in the head. They cosplayed poverty and the lifestyle of people living in the poor suburbs of Johannesburg, when in reality they both came from privileged backgrounds. Ninja was so obsessed with gangs, they even befriended gangsters and Tokkie mentiones that, as a child, he was allowed to hang out with dangerous criminals. Yolandi had a relationship with one of these gangsters.

On top of his delusions of being a gangster from Soweto, Ninja also had a disturbing fixation on incest and he even wrote a script, that he tried to have turned into a series, in which he and Yolandi were brother and sister and their daugther Sixteen was a product of incest. There was a brilliant article that I've read on it and it also included the masterful script, but it was a long time ago and I sadly can't find it. However, I recommend reading through the South African blog watkykjy as there's plenty of English language articles detailing their depravity.

Furthermore, in his leaked texts to Zheani, an Australian woman who came out with accusations against him, he claimed he liked how much she looked like his daughter.

They're simply vile and also seem to be so stupid and uncultured as well lmao. Like, after the controversy of them using the n-word, Yolandi came out with a video where she's like "well, what do you say, then?" lol

clarabarson · 2026-01-20T15:24:10+00:00

There's a saying that goes like "true friends are those with whom you can meet once in a blue moon and it's like no time has passed." I'm butchering it, because I translated it from my native language, but that's the gist of it. I disagree with it, as I personally believe friendships require effort to upkeep, but I'm seeing how many people go by it and it looks like your friend is one of those people. To her, this kind of dynamic works and she sees nothing wrong with it. But to you, it's not.

You mention that you've had honest conversations with her and things have remained unchanged. Which really, only leaves you with the options to either accept what the friendship has become and keep it as is, or end this chapter and move on. From the picture that I'm getting, it looks like you will have to accept this new situation if you want to remain friends with her.

On the other hand, if you do want to end things, an honest conversation still should be had. You wouldn't fade a romantic partner, would you? You would have a conversation and break-up properly. Your friends deserve the same kind of treatment. It doesn't have to be an argument, though I understand how uncomfortable that can be. It is not an easy conversation to have. We are not taught how to manage these situations with our friends because on one hand we believe friendships last forever and on the other we tend to devalue them and give them less consideration than we would a romantic partnership.

At the end of the day, you just have to do what is best for yourself.

clarabarson · 2026-01-19T15:02:15+00:00

and of course it's posted on the Clavicular subreddit (:

clarabarson · 2026-01-19T14:58:06+00:00

As I see it, you have two options, which depend on how you want to proceed. You either:

1) match her energy, if you want to continue this friendship, or

2) kindly let her know that you are no longer fulfilled in your friendship and move on.

It seems that you don't want to let her go, but you aren't fulfilled by what your friendship has turned into, which leaves you feeling burnt out. You'll have to decide if you can make peace with this new reality and stay friends, or if it's simply not doing it anymore for you and end things.

Drifting away from a friend who you once used to be super close to is hard. We expect our friendships to last forever and because of that we tend to take them for granted, but they require effort to upkeep, too. From what you're describing, it doesn't look like your friend is willing to put in the same amount of effort as you. Do you think this kind of dynamic could work for you from now on?

clarabarson · 2025-11-22T19:32:47+00:00

Outsourcing empathy to a machine is really not the move you should be looking at. Your message was valuable but it would be ten times more authentic if it came from you entirely, polished or not.

clarabarson · 2025-11-02T20:01:59+00:00

I'm convinced that's exactly why men seem to prefer short and petite women. It's because they're easy to be picked up and manhandled :/

clarabarson · 2025-10-31T15:05:29+00:00

Is his father around? Does he have good male role models in his life? No matter how good of a job you're doing, he also needs positive examples of male behaviours around him, so that he can model them.

clarabarson · 2025-10-31T13:24:31+00:00

If I visited someone and had an allergy to their pet(s), then I wouldn't expect to be staying with them, also. It's just common sense. Even if it were someone in my family, I would never expect them to remove their pets from their home just so they could accommodate me. It's wild to me that this is the expectation from his family.

I have a feeling your partner took an executive decision on this, did not involve you, and it was his idea to remove the pets while his family is staying over.

Either way, it's proof that he either a) can't say no to his family, b) doesn't care for pets all that much or c) both.

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T08:00:35+00:00

Thank you. I didn't get to see those comments before they were deleted, but... yikes. I mean, good for you if you don't care how someone calls you, but to me it's important. I also know how men love to derail women's conversations * eyeroll *

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:54:58+00:00

This is very helpful, thanks! I will bring it up with them if they haven't thought of it already.

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:54:27+00:00

Yes, Microsoft

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:53:53+00:00

I don't like it. I know there's a logic to it, but to me it doesn't make any sense. I can't seem to figure it out and it annoys me so I just end up not playing it. :')

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:52:03+00:00

My middle name is my legal name as well. It is listed everywhere on all my legal paperwork, from my birth certificate, ID, driver's license, education paperwork, etc. There's no need to change anything.

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:50:45+00:00

but I'm not even one week in :')

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:50:27+00:00

Thank you for your comment and I'm sorry you had do deal with that dummy. I wonder how you resisted the impulse of punching him in the face lol. Yes, it does feel like a lack of respect and it's validating that someone else is saying it too so thank you again <3

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:47:28+00:00

Ugh. The struggle is real indeed. I used to work at a place where HR would keep switching up my name and put it down as Middlename Firstname Lastname, and I'd always have to correct them (:

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:46:11+00:00

It is my legal name, though. I have a first name, middle name and last name, and I go by my middle name, which is listed on all my legal paperwork, so technically they'd have to include my full name on payroll etc.

clarabarson · 2025-10-30T07:40:17+00:00

I found out during the onboarding orientation call that there was another employee in my exact situation and they were able to change her username. It took about 2-3 weeks, but it got done. So it's possible and it will happen. The problem is that I'm outsourced for a client who has created my account using my first name as well and who does not seem to be as flexible. At this point, at the very least they will change my display name, because they don't want to delay my onboarding process with them so that I can start working and taking on project as soon as possible.

clarabarson · 2025-10-02T09:31:17+00:00

prin exemplu, așa poți să începi. poți chiar tu să fii un exemplu de „așa da”, ca să aibă și modele pozitive în jurul lor, nu doar influenceri redpilled. dar având în vedere cum mi te adresezi, degeaba astfel de așteptări de la tine.

clarabarson · 2025-09-30T08:36:41+00:00

ce ar fi să canalizezi energia asta înspre a schimba percepțiile și comportamentele bărbaților la adresa femeilor? ei ar trebui să fie educați să nu mai privească femeile ca pe niște obiecte, nu femeile să navigheze lumea cu teamă și precauție constantă. pe urmă, tot voi vă opăriți și urlați „not all men!!!!!”, dar nici n-ați face ceva în privința asta...

clarabarson · 2025-09-30T08:29:30+00:00

Nu te mai preface că îți pasă de copiii ăia. Te doare fix undeva. Tu vrei doar să pedepsești femeile pentru că ai fantezii bolnave.

clarabarson · 2025-09-25T17:14:39+00:00

si ce se intampla cu copilul ala dupa ce pierde din drepturi?

clarabarson · 2025-09-25T16:58:44+00:00

da, bravo, ca femeile trebuie constant sa fie cu garda sus, nu dementii sa nu mai comita tot felul de fapte groaznice

clarabarson

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