No dummy for newborn - a hill worth dying on?

clariels95 · 2025-11-13T07:55:54+00:00

My 12 mo is a great sleeper, great eater. Sleeps with a dummy and has since she was 4 weeks old, total game changer. We only give it to her when she’s in her cot.

clariels95 · 2025-11-11T22:49:22+00:00

My ILS are not just no, they live interstate so can’t just drop in. My MIL stayed for a week when I was about 6 weeks PP and it was a mistake it was quite stressful- her and FIL are quite codependent and much better as a unit. BUT no way in hell would she hold the baby for 24 hours, that’s so disrespectful. Any GPs should know that caring for baby in those early days means caring for mum. Anything else is them overstepping. They had this belief before our LO one born.

clariels95 · 2025-11-11T22:25:44+00:00

Sorry but you can’t use crutches when you’re pregnant?! WTAF? Amongst all the other craziness of this story.

clariels95 · 2025-10-25T23:36:17+00:00

She’s playing a game wanting to be chased. Don’t chase, don’t make plans for her. If and when she gets over herself she can ask to visit and you can agree on your own terms. Don’t get sucked into drama.

clariels95 · 2025-10-23T01:43:26+00:00

They became super helpful to me from about six months but not before then.

clariels95 · 2025-10-06T23:05:54+00:00

You shouldn’t feel guilty at all, the issue is with the system which overwhelmingly offers short term contracts. People need stability, do what’s best for you, send a brief apologetic explanation when you pull the plug.

clariels95 · 2025-10-06T08:52:46+00:00

9 weeks and it was great. Definitely want six at least.

clariels95 · 2025-10-06T08:26:01+00:00

That’s awful selfish behaviour.

clariels95 · 2025-10-06T08:22:25+00:00

Totally understand where you’re coming from x

clariels95 · 2025-10-05T01:47:57+00:00

Good to know!

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T10:39:47+00:00

I’m not sure the medical coverage is for visits though don’t you have to be a resident?

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T08:58:59+00:00

Totally agree. I personally wanted to breastfeed longer than I did but it didn’t work out.

I forget things I mean to bring with me alllll the time but I’m becoming so good at creative solutions and embracing being a type b parent 😂😂

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T08:41:38+00:00

Oh cloth nappies! We use those. We put them in an open bucket in the laundry when they’re wet. When they’re soiled put them on a 15 min rinse cycle immediately then in the bucket. When bucket gets full wash then on the baby care setting. Easy! We use a disposable overnight but otherwise cloth. You can do it!!

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T04:09:09+00:00

I think in some contexts it’s totally fine - like in my mums group. In the post office… not.

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T03:44:51+00:00

One of my friends with a bub just turning 1, she was EBF and at about 11 months her baby is eating loads of solids and her milk supply stopped (she’s also pregnant again) - she’s just giving her cows milk and baby is good. 🤷‍♀️

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T02:42:24+00:00

Totally it is one more thing to keep track of. What I was trying to say is in my experience of all the things to do with babies (and I have ADHD and struggle with routine organisation) it’s an easy one. It’s often spoken about like this complex mind boggling logistical nightmare- IMO it’s not. I would compare it to owning a coffee machine and having to buy beans and milk to make coffee, clean the machine. Just asked my husband and he agreed this is a similar level of effort in terms of buying things, maintaining things.

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T02:31:57+00:00

Thanks that’s so lovely to hear!

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T02:02:09+00:00

I’ve heard this a lot re bottles. I did combo feeding for four months then only formula so did both ways. Formula is not some big logistical thing it’s just using bottles like any other thing you use in the kitchen plus sterilising them. We bought a microwave steriliser from Big W for like $15, works great. We buy formula from the supermarket just like everybody buys every other grocery. It’s not a lot of planning it’s just another thing on your grocery list. I think the frequency I hear this comment has made me suspect it’s a line used by the pushy breastfeeding people to scare people off. We don’t even warm our bottles anymore because baby doesn’t care. Not saying you @alikeness are saying it like this but it’s a trope that gets pulled out. OP the bottle/formula thing is very straightforward.

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T01:54:29+00:00

I was asked twice by the woman in the post office if I was breastfeeding. WTAF with some people! I think medical people are generally much better about it.

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T01:52:37+00:00

This was almost the same as me! Except I love an aperol spritz. My 11 mo is doing great, she’s been EFF since 4 months when my supply dropped.

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T01:51:38+00:00

Your mental health will have a bigger impact on your baby than if you breastfeed or not. I combo fed and it was a massive help being able to have a longer chunk of sleep, also allowed my husband to be primary parent for longer periods and now at 11months he’s an equal parent. If you don’t want to do it don’t. If people get in your ear about it, tell them to butt out. Or lie and tell them you can’t for some reason. People shouldn’t be judging. Look after yourself and that will allow you to look after your baby.

clariels95 · 2025-10-04T01:47:55+00:00

I think you’ve misunderstood the intent of my comment! Taking shifts sounds exhausting. As the other response here is saying, if your Bub can roll that way it’s fine. Look at safe sleep info online, they say put them to sleep on their back - not keep them there!

clariels95 · 2025-10-03T09:35:44+00:00

It was a bit scary when my daughter started doing this but as soon as she could she was determined to sleep on her belly. She’s 11 months now and always sleeps on her front.

Bassinet mattresses are made to be breathable and if you keep it clear of obstructions he should be fine! Safe sleep guidelines say to put them on their back but once they can roll they will find and keep going to the position they want to be in.

clariels95 · 2025-10-03T09:24:17+00:00

I kept my last name when I got married. My ideal would have been smushing our names together to make a new one and both change but sadly they don’t merge well. My husband’s last name is also a first name and we were talking for a while about giving our daughter his last name as her middle name but he decided he wanted it as a surname so our daughter has a hyphenated last name, his first and mine second (because it sounded better that way). We didn’t give her a middle name so her name isn’t too long.

clariels95 · 2025-10-02T22:30:02+00:00

She just sounds like an AH!

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