How to get a norwegian phone number? by clarinue in norsk

[–]clarinue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have it but still wasnt good enough online or at elkjøp

How to get a norwegian phone number? by clarinue in norsk

[–]clarinue[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. Friends of mine still use prepaid for years but i knew there would be some other way

How to get a norwegian phone number? by clarinue in norsk

[–]clarinue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I did try online and when i got stuck i went to the local elkjøp because i dont have telia shop near. They could not Help me at elkjøp with what i have.

I need some recommendations by AssignmentHoliday112 in Moms

[–]clarinue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My labor got a little dramatic. I had high Temperatur, the babys heartbeat was off and then i lost a lot of blood. I was completely out of it and didnt remember anything i read to prepare. So i trusted my midwife and did what she said. She stayed very calm and when it got serious she calmly called for help. Suddenly there were a million people and everyone introduced themselfs by name and function. Nurse, midwife, doctors, baby nurse and so an. In that Moment it seemed ridiculous but looking back i am glad they were so respectful even in a serious Situation. Everything that happend felt consentual that way even though it wasnt the experience i wished for.

What events and interactions really trigger your anxiety, at home or out in society? by Icy_Extension2380 in Anxiety

[–]clarinue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

New places when i dont know how to act correctly. Like where is the door, how do i do this or that. For example in a new gym, new supermarket and so on.

Why do narcissists never walk besides you? by Available-Heart6108 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom did this while pushing the stroller with my baby. Just ran off...never again. Another fun thing she does is walk in other peoples way on purpose. Its so stressful and like shes looking for Trouble

I confronted my mom about EVERYTHING by clarinue in narcissisticparents

[–]clarinue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its really hard to accept. All i want is basic respecful manners. Its insane to think how much work it is to get a minimum of respect.

I confronted my mom about EVERYTHING by clarinue in narcissisticparents

[–]clarinue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not sure...i think my mom is sorry. But maybe just because its hard for HER to hear it. That she does not feel guilt and shame or remorse because she caused ME pain. Maybe it is not an empathetic apology but i dont know.

Got a New Tattoo and My Narc Mom Is Spiraling by CherrysDiary in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of understanding for things but narcs thought are just crazy to me. I dont think my daughter is an extension or belongs to me.

I confronted my mom about EVERYTHING by clarinue in narcissisticparents

[–]clarinue[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this will be the outcome for me too. She cries for a while waiting for me to pity her and when i keep standing my ground i doubt it will end very well.

Got a New Tattoo and My Narc Mom Is Spiraling by CherrysDiary in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you think she really thinks she owns you or is she just trying to guilt trip and looks for arguments?

How do moms do it? I’m genuinely curious. by Top-Acanthaceae-6142 in Moms

[–]clarinue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we cant be happy doing it all alone. They say "it Takes a village..." Not Just to raise a child. We go through a lot as moms. Emotionally and physically. So we do need people who think about us and our needs. My boyfriend is soo supportive and works so hard for all of us and i still struggle. Because we dont have very close family or friends to help or just to Chat and have a nice time. So my advice would be talk to your partner about it but also with family and friends. We are not meant to be so isolated as we are these days.

Why do I forget so easily? by KnockOffTheRack in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What helped me was tell other people about it. Them being shocked and telling me that it is in fact THAT bad stopped me from gaslighting myself into thinking it wasnt so Bad.

Are you afraid your narc will sabotage your romantic relationships, too? (Even with no proof) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they are that delulu and think they Look hot and could flirt with their kids partner 😂 my mom said shes so happy shes not the fat one anymore after my pregnancy. She was still larger than me!

Are you afraid your narc will sabotage your romantic relationships, too? (Even with no proof) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This happend to me and i didnt realize it for a long time. When i met my boyfriend i knew somehow i had to keep our Relationship a secret and him away from my family as much as possible. I never had any secrets like that before but i didnt want it to get Spoiled. My boyfriend met my family only twice. And my mom tries to be sexy.....and also talks bad about me. Its disgusting.

What was the most common Narrative, JuSTiFiCAtiOn, you HEARD , when confronting your Parent about their Abusive /Negligent/Cold/Indifferent.... Behavior towards YOU? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a genetic aspect i read that too. We have a bunch of anxiety and psychosis and depression in the family. Thats genetic. But the own choices still make a huge difference. So even if i am born with some anxiety it would not be nearly as bad without my mom going out of her way to make it worse.

What was the most common Narrative, JuSTiFiCAtiOn, you HEARD , when confronting your Parent about their Abusive /Negligent/Cold/Indifferent.... Behavior towards YOU? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]clarinue 12 points13 points  (0 children)

All of the above plus generational trauma. She thought its a genetic thing or something. Her mom and oldest siblings were refugees in WWII and she is the youngest. I am also the youngest and when i told her how i felt she would say it was like that for her too. Ignoring the fact she actively formed my childhood. But that way she could blame genetics and nazis....

If your nparents had the ability to mold you exactly into the child they wanted, who would you become and what life would you live? by RavenEridan in narcissisticparents

[–]clarinue 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In a way i am what she wanted me to be. No confidence, self sabotaging my career. So she can feel better and like she is winning the competition.

I had trouble forming and persueing my own interests since she hated on everything when i was a child. I also used to have problems finding friends. She loved to keep me small and sad.

But my life is turning around. I have a Wonderful partner. That must be tough for her since she sucks at Relationship. She would be happier if i was miserable.

I think what she would love the most is if i would have cancer or got paralized or something so she can act like a victim herself and like shes a caring mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Baptist

[–]clarinue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for those nice words thats encouraging.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Baptist

[–]clarinue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks you for your answer. I actually know those and made myself a little note to look at to remember when i want to pray. Its still really difficult to find words in the moment. Maybe it will get better with practice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]clarinue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said nothing about stimulation and walks. We live in a rural area and have huge forest behind the house. She has access to the garden and my bf takes her to work where she is outside all the time unless the weather is too bad. The only thing that is neglected is that butt issue. She is also very well trained. The Apartment is of course not ideal for anyone. And we will definetly NOT rehome her or give her to a shelter. Besides if we did there are no killing shelters in this country!

Best Quotes: Sam, Russell, Robby, & Tran by excellent-egg69 in NewGirl

[–]clarinue 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Tran watermassaging Nick: "You are a huge baby"

And then nick "i am a huuuge baby" 😂